The Anxiety Chicks

210. Help, They Haven’t Texted Back! — Anxiety, Attachment & The Texting Spiral


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In this episode, Alison and Taylor dive deep into the texting anxiety spiral — you know the one: you hit “send” and suddenly your nervous system is convinced you’ve ruined everything. Whether you're anxiously refreshing your screen or avoiding replies altogether, this one’s for every anxious texter out there.

They break down:

  • The difference between anxious texters, avoidant texters, and everything in between
  • How our attachment styles shape the way we interpret silence or delayed replies
  • Why dating brings out the worst of the texting mind games
  • How to spot cognitive distortions like “mind reading” and “catastrophizing”
  • The impact of lifestyle differences (like being phone-bound for work) on communication expectations
  • Why your brain craves fast validation — and how to break that loop

  • 🧠 Therapy Tools Mentioned:
    • CBT techniques: Fact vs. Opinion, identifying thought distortions
    • Self-regulation practices: Breathwork, journaling, movement
    • Mindful journaling prompts to validate yourself instead of outsourcing it to someone else’s reply


      🌿 Healing Tip of the Week:

      📱 Send the text, then walk away.

      After hitting send, set a timer for 5 minutes and physically put your phone down. Give your brain a chance to breathe. Do something grounding — make lemonade, go for a walk, write a note to yourself, anything but stare at the typing bubble.


      🗣 Quote of the Episode:“The brain doesn't get that fast validation… and suddenly, you're spiraling. But the silence isn't always personal. Sometimes, it's just life.”
      📲 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going:

      Can you go 5 minutes without checking your phone after sending a text? Tell us how it goes!

      💬 Drop a comment or DM us on Instagram @theanxietychicks


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