We’re unpacking the 3 big reasons your anxious attachment isn’t healing, even if you’re doing everything “right.” Spoiler: it’s not about trying harder… it’s about trying differently.

If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware, anxious girlie who still feels like a walking red flag in relationships, this one’s for you.

We’re talking:

✨ Why performing yur healing is keeping you stuck

✨ The myth of linear progress (and why healing is actually a spiral staircase

✨ How to stop overwatering the plant and just let it grow 🪴

Plus, I’m sharing a wild story from the internet girlie streets (hi, Wizard Liz 👀) that proves you can be a literal goddess and still get ghosted, cheated on, or confused AF in love.

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Ever wonder what it actually looks like to go from anxious, overthinking, “I’m probably the problem” energy… to grounded, confident, and finally feeling secure in your relationship?

In this raw and heart-hitting episode, I’m sitting down with one of my 1:1 coaching client, a high-achieving, military-working, nurse-extraordinaire, who decided to stop spiraling overseas (literally!) and finally heal for real.

We’re talking:

Plus: what made her go from “I can fix this on my own” to “I need deeper support”… and how that shift changed everything.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much,” like you’re self-sabotaging something good, or like your brain just won’t stop spinning…this episode is for you.

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Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! If your mind is spiraling, your stomach’s in knots, and you’ve refreshed your texts 18 times in the last 3 minutes… this episode is your emergency toolkit! In this quick but powerful 5-minute pep talk, I’m giving you grounding reminders to come back home to yourself when your anxious attachment gets triggered.

This is the episode to save, download, share with your bestie, and play on repeat when you're about to spiral.

You’ll learn:

✨ Why your anxiety makes sense (and why you’re not broken)

✨ How to regulate your nervous system in the moment

✨ A powerful breathing practice to calm your body

✨ How to shift your energy back to YOU instead of chasing

✨ Loving prompts to re-center and choose yourself first

If you’re new here, I’m Clare, a relationship coach for high-achieving girlies who crush it at work but feel lost, anxious, or overthink-y in love. You're not alone, and you are SO not broken.

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Ever find yourself refreshing your texts like your life depends on it? Or spending 10 hours doing two hours of work because your brain won’t stop obsessing over that thing you said? Yep. This one’s for you, bb!

In this episode, I’m giving you powerful (and surprisingly calming) reminders for when your anxious attachment kicks in HARD. Whether you're deep in a spiral or just know one is brewing, these are the things I wish someone had told me when I was riding the relationship-anxiety rollercoaster daily.

We're talking:

- The difference between urgency and truth (spoiler: they are not the same)

- Why “if it feels hysteric, it’s historic” is your new healing mantra

- The cold hard truth: you cannot out-logic your nervous system (sorry to my high-achieving girlies with 3 degrees and a color-coded Google calendar)

Plus: a little gut health update (yes, your anxiety might be coming from your stomach), a hilarious “Would You Rather” game you’re gonna want to bring to your next girls’ night, and a juicy Q&A from inside the Healing Girl Gang!

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Ever held it in like a champ… until you exploded over something small (but actually not small at all)? 🙃

Yup. This one’s for you, babe.

In this weeks episode , we’re talking:

How to stop self-silencing (aka white-knuckling your way through feelings 😬)

Why holding it in isn’t keeping the peace (spoiler: it’s brewing a low-key emotional bomb)

What healthy, non-spiraly expression actually looks like

And how your perfectionism might secretly be killing your communication

If you’ve ever said “it’s not a big deal” when it 100% was a big deal — I got you.

✨ Also — the Healing Girl Gang is diving deep into communication this month. We’ve got the live training, the action steps, the process, the coaching... the whole damn toolkit. 

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Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵‍💫

In this week's episode we’re diving into why overexplaining is so common for high-achieving, anxious-attached girlies — and why it actually makes you feel less secure (not more).

We’ll talk about:

- How overexplaining is really a nervous system response (not just “bad communication”)

- Why your anxious attachment thrives on overexplaining (and how to gently stop)

- The difference between clarifying vs. oversharing

- Simple, real-world tools to feel heard without feeling like you’re doing a TED Talk at your boyfriend 🚩

If you’re ready to stop feeling like you need a PowerPoint presentation to get your needs met, you’re in the right place. 😌✨

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You’re the go-to girl at work, the one who gets it DONE… but when it comes to your relationship? Cue the overthinking, second-guessing, and constant need for reassurance. 🫠 Sound familiar?

This week we’re talking about one of the BIGGEST blocks I see with my high-achieving, high-performing girlies: how to actually build self-trust (especially after a lifetime of self-abandonment).

If you’ve ever:

- Been the “strong one” for everyone else but secretly crumble when your partner doesn’t text back 💬

- Checked every box on the “secure girlie” to-do list (yoga, sound baths, Pilates, booked & busy) but still feel exhausted and anxious 😩

- Overfunctioned in your career while under-trusting yourself in love ❤️‍🔥 …then sis, this episode is FOR YOU.

We’re diving into:

✨ Why performing self-care and performing self-trust aren’t the same as feeling secure

✨ The sneaky ways high-achievers self-abandon (and how it’s killing your inner trust)

✨ How to stop looking externally (the career wins, the gym streak, the packed calendar) for the thing only YOU can give yourself

✨ My simple, no-fluff self-trust routine that actually works to calm your nervous system and build rock-solid security (spoiler: it’s not about doing more)

I’m sharing the real talk I wish I had years ago—because healing your anxious attachment starts with learning how to trust the most important person in the room: YOU.

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Are you overthinking every convo, second-guessing yourself constantly, and wondering... “Am I triggered or am I actually right?” 😅 Welcome to the most validating episode you didn’t know you needed.

In this week’s episode we’re diving deep into that hot mess moment we all know too well—when you can’t tell if your anxious attachment is flaring up or if your intuition is genuinely trying to protect you. 💥

If you’ve ever:

Spiraled after a text delay 📱

Felt “too much” even though you KNOW you're with a good person 💗

Asked 3 friends, 2 Google searches, and your therapist the same thing 🙃

Collected screenshots like receipts to confirm your vibe was right 🧾

…this episode is your new safe space.

We’re breaking down:

👉 What confirmation bias looks like in relationships

👉 How to know if your emotional response is actually valid

👉 Why your triggers don’t just go away (and what to do instead)

👉 The #1 mindset shift that will change how you show up in love for good

✨ Plus: I share what really helped me go from spiraling every other Monday to building secure, drama-free connection with my partner (and it’s not what you think). 

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This week, we're getting real about the messy middle — where you logically know you’re in a good relationship but emotionally still feel anxious AF. If you’re constantly asking:

Then this episode is your exact starting point. 👏

Inside, we’re talking about:

✨ Why the key to feeling secure in your relationship starts with YOU (not him, not a text back, not a future ring)

🧠 How morphing into the ‘perfect partner’ keeps you in anxious mode

💗 Why being your authentic self is the foundation for real, lasting love

🔁 What happens when you’re stuck in the “prove myself” cycle (and how to stop)

💬 And why your deepest fear might not be about love... but being alone 👀

Plus, I’m answering a powerful listener question about letting go of a relationship, fear of being alone, and how to move forward when you're committed to finally breaking the cycle. 💔➡️💪

Let this be your permission slip to stop performing in your relationship, and start being the most you version of you — because that's where true security lives.

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Welcome to the episode every anxious attachment girlie needs in her back pocket. If you spiral when they don’t text back, replay convos 14 times in your head, or wake up with an emotional hangover worse than a tequila bender… this one's for you. 💌

We’re talking about what actually works in the heat of the moment — when you’re triggered, panicked, and low-key ready to throw your phone out the window. 💅

Inside this episode, I’m breaking down:

🧠 What it means to act from your wound vs. your healing

💌 How to stop overthinking in real-time — without ghosting your own needs

🌱 The 3-part process that’s helping my clients regulate their triggers instantly ⚡ Why vulnerability (yes, the scary kind) is the REAL fix for the spiral

🧃 And the tea on emotional hangovers vs. real healing (spoiler: hot girl walks won’t fix your subconscious)

PLUS: I answer a listener question about feeling anxious when your man is off having fun — even if he’s never given you a reason not to trust him. 👀 Let’s ditch the “I’m fine” mask, stop walking it off, and start healing in real-time. You deserve secure love 💕

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