In this episode we’re breaking down the 3 most common (but sneaky) anxious attachment habits that slowly destroy connection over time... even in loving relationships!

If you:

- Feel like you’re too much or never enough

- Constantly overanalyze texts, tone, or timing

- Chase closeness, but end up feeling even more alone…

This episode is your wake-up call and your path to healing!

We’ll dive into:

💔 The hidden habits rooted in fear of abandonment

🧠 Why “logic” won’t save you from spiraling

💡 What to do instead to create security, closeness, and calm

Whether you’re currently in a relationship or just trying to break old patterns before your next one, this is a must-listen!

🎧 Save it, share it, and come back when you need the reminder.

P.s. If you're new here, this is exactly the kind of deep nervous system work we do inside of my community, the Healing Girl Gang - because healing anxious attachment doesn’t just change your relationships… it changes you.

Let me know which habit resonated most in the comments 💬👇

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If your thoughts are spiraling… If you’re checking your phone again… If your brain won’t slow down and it feels like your nervous system is in overdrive… This episode is your quick reset. 🤍

In today’s episode I’m walking you through the fastest and most effective tool I use to calm an anxious spiral (especially when I don’t have the luxury of sitting in it). This isn’t a long list of coping strategies. It’s one tool. One moment. One practice. To bring you back to yourself.

We’ll cover:

✨ How to disrupt an anxious overthinking loop in real time

✨ Why your chest breath might be making things worse

✨ The underrated ancient practice that resets your nervous system

✨ How to be present when you feel totally out of control If your texts are open, your heart is pounding, and you’re stuck refreshing their story or waiting for a reply… you’re not alone! I’ve been there. This is exactly the kind of moment where this tool matters most.

🎧 Save this episode. Come back to it. Share it with a friend who spirals too. And if you’re listening while I’m recovering from surgery (yep, hysterectomy time), send some love my way. I’ll take all the healing vibes you’ve got.

💌 As always, this is the kind of real, grounded, nervous system support we do inside the Healing Girl Gang. You are so not alone.

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In today’s episode I’m breaking down why your nervous system reacts so intensely to your partner’s mood, distance, or emotional shifts... and more importantly, how to stay grounded instead of spiraling. This one is especially for my high‑achieving, high‑functioning girlies who are crushing it at work… but feel like they’re one unread message away from losing their peace in love.

We’re talking about:

✨ Why “the vibes feel off” can completely derail your nervous system

✨ The difference between reacting from fear vs responding from regulation

✨ Why reassurance only works temporarily (and what actually creates safety)

✨ How anxious attachment keeps you stuck trying to outthink or outwork your emotions

✨ The nervous system mistake high achievers make in relationships

✨ How to stay grounded (even when there is distance, silence, or uncertainty)

I also share personal updates around my upcoming hysterectomy and how physical discomfort, overstimulation, and stress lower our emotional threshold - making relationship anxiety feel louder and harder to manage. (Spoiler: this isn’t about “doing more,” it’s about reducing the load.)

Plus, I’m celebrating a HUGE win from a client who is navigating dating without losing herself! Proof that healing anxious attachment isn’t about perfection, it’s about recommitment.

Sending you so much love, Clare 🤍

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You say “I’m fine”… But your stomach’s in knots. Your voice is quieter than usual. You’re spinning in your head while trying to act chill on the outside. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I’m breaking down what really happens in your body, your brain, and your relationships when you keep pretending everything’s okay… especially when it’s not! This is for the high-achieving girlies who can hold it all together at work, but are overthinking up a storm in their relationships. The ones who’ve been told they’re “too much” and the ones who’ve been praised for being “so strong” (but you’re exhausted). 🫠 Yeah, this one’s for you.

We’ll talk about:

✨ What your nervous system is doing when you default to “I’m fine”

✨ Why this pattern is common for anxiously attached, people-pleasing girlies like us.

✨ How to gently shift toward safety, visibility, and actually being known

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We’ve always agreed we didn’t want kids.
But suddenly, with a hysterectomy on the table…
I felt wobbly.
And there was this tiny part of me whispering, “If I bring up my 'unsureness'… is everything going to change?” In my past relationships, feeling unsure or changing my mind felt like a no-go zone.


I could be decisive and confident everywhere else… (hello career overachiever with receipts) 
but inside my relationships, I was terrified that my truth would ruin everything. My inner perfectionist would jump straight into action:
“Nothing to see here! I’m calm! I’m chill!”


Meanwhile my body was in a full panic on the inside. And the thing I learned the hard way in those old push-pull dynamics was this:
the more honest I was (with him and myself), the closer we became.
Pretending never protected anything 🚨NEWS FLASH🚨 it just protects our fear. So when I finally got real with Craig about how this news made me feel…
how something inside of me shifted around the idea of kids now that the option might be taken away…
he didn’t freak out.
He didn’t it shut down.
He didn’t make it weird. He listened.


He stayed with me.
He held the moment instead of turning away from it. And that’s when it hit me more clearly than ever hiding never helps.
It only hurts. Because the second you start censoring yourself to “keep the peace,” the peace is already gone.
You can’t stay connected AND abandon yourself at the same time.

Changing your mind isn’t wrong.
Feeling something new isn’t wrong.
Saying it out loud is what keeps you close, to your partner and to yourself.

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This week, we’re diving deep into a topic I know hits home for so many high-achieving, anxious girlies: why stillness can feel so unsafe when you have relationship anxiety.

If you ever catch yourself spiraling because the vibe feels “off,” or if a little space in communication has you convinced the whole relationship is doomed…this episode is for you.

Inside this episode, I’m sharing:

✨ Why anxious attachment makes rest and stillness feel dangerous

✨ How I learned to stop overfunctioning and start receiving love (hint: it took surgery and a lot of surrender)

✨ What my explant and fibroid journeys taught me about safety, slowing down, and trusting myself

✨ The belief I had to UNLEARN in order to feel secure in my body and my relationships  

✨ Why stillness is a skill (especially if you grew up in a high-pressure, achievement-driven household)  

✨ How I support Healing Girl Gang members in rewiring their nervous systems for safety and self-trust

✨ A powerful listener Q&A about breaking the cycle of anxious spiraling in a secure relationship

Whether you’re a career rockstar, business owner, or have a few letters behind your name (MD, RN, Esq, PhD…) — and yet still feel like a mess when someone doesn’t text back, you’re in the right place.

This episode isn’t about fixing you... it’s about helping you feel safe enough to finally rest, receive, and trust yourself and your partner. If you’re ready to learn how to stop self-sabotaging and start feeling safe in love, hit play.

And if you’re craving step-by-step support, come join us inside The Healing Girl Gang (where we practice these tools every single month!)

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If you're constantly planning, smoothing things over, doing the most in your relationship while low-key wondering “Why can’t they just do more??” — this episode is for you.

💥 If you're a high-achieving, hyper-capable girly who’s exhausted from holding it all together in love, this is your sign to stop performing and start receiving. Period.

👀 In this episode, I break down:

• The sneaky ways anxious attachment disguises itself as “being helpful”

• Why trying to “earn love through effort” is killing your intimacy

• How overgiving actually blocks your partner from stepping up

• What it really means to feel chosen without performing

• How to stop managing your relationship like a second job

• What to do instead — so you feel prioritized and adored

🎧 We also get into:

• A client win that had me in my feels 🥹 (from overthinking queen to secure & supported)

• A peek inside what’s working inside Healing Girl Gang

• How my husband Craig reminded me (with an accent wall no less 😅) what can happen when we let go and receive

This one’s part tough love, part best friend pep talk, and all soul truth. Because you don’t need to earn love. You deserve to feel it, just as you are.

👇 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG Weekly trainings, nervous system resets, and live support so you stop spiraling and start receiving: HealingGirlGang.com

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In this episoe we’re talking about how to feel like a priority in your relationship... without slipping into overthinking, over‑analyzing every text, or feeling like you’re “asking for too much.”

This episode is for you if:

• You know they care about you… but you can’t always feel it

• You find yourself checking for proof or reassurance

• You are tired of being the one initiating, planning, or emotionally leading

• Your brain does wind sprints when there’s space or distance in the relationship

• You’re successful in every other area of life, but your nervous system goes ✨ feral✨ in love

Trust me, I’ve lived this. I went from anxiously attached (and chronically exhausted from managing the relationship in my head) to actually feeling chosen, safe, and prioritized in a secure partnership. And we’re unpacking exactly how that shift happens today. 💛

🌙 If you're new: I’m Clare! Relationship and attachment coach for high‑achieving women who are incredible at life… but feel wobbly in love. MDs, founders, attorneys, academics, corporate powerhouses - the girlies who “have their life together” but still spiral at the slow text response? Yep. You’re home.

Love you, mean it. x Clare 🤍

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You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I’m sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without forcing it, faking it, or labeling myself as “crazy.”

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering:

“Why am I spiraling when everything is fine?” “Why do I panic when things finally feel safe?” …or “Why can’t I just stay calm in a good relationship?” This one’s for you, bb 🫶

👇Here’s what we’re unpacking today:

✨ Why your brain freaks out when your body finally relaxes

✨ How “self-awareness” can actually be a form of over-control

✨ Why you still feel unsafe in a healthy relationship

✨ What it really means to self-regulate vs. spiral

✨ The power of experiencing consistent love (instead of just talking about it)

✨ And how your partner’s stability can rewire your nervous system—if you let it

PLUS: real wins from the Healing Girl Gang! 💌

If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who crushes it at work but crumbles inside a text bubble… this one’s for you. 🫶

Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.

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