Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

211: The Carrot or the Stick - How to Bring Her Wall Down Without Pressure


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Episode show notes:

If you’ve stopped watching pornography but your wife still struggles to trust you, you’re not alone — and you’re not broken. One of the hardest parts of porn addiction recovery isn’t just quitting porn… it’s rebuilding safety, connection, and intimacy in your marriage after betrayal.

In this episode, we dive deep into why your wife’s walls may still be up even after you’ve started healing from pornography addiction — and why that’s normal. We’ll explore what’s happening underneath her hesitation, what she needs to feel safe again, and how you can rebuild trust without pressuring her or “proving” yourself constantly.

You’ll learn:

  • Why wives often stay guarded even after their husband stops watching porn

  • How porn betrayal impacts safety, intimacy, and connection in marriage

  • Why stopping porn isn’t enough to rebuild trust — and what actually creates healing

  • Practical ways to rebuild closeness without shame, pressure, or defensiveness

  • How consistent actions, not promises, restore trust during porn addiction recovery

    This episode is for you if you’ve ever thought:

    • “I’ve quit porn, why doesn’t she believe me yet?”

    • “I’m working so hard, but she still feels distant.”

    • “How do we heal our marriage after porn addiction and betrayal?”

      Whether you’re early in your journey of overcoming porn addiction or you’ve been rebuilding for months, this episode will help you:

      • Understand what’s really happening when her walls stay up

      • Learn how to create genuine emotional safety

      • Rebuild connection in your marriage without shortcuts or pressure

      • Heal together as you recover from pornography

        Porn addiction recovery isn’t just about removing pornography — it’s about restoring trust, intimacy, and safety. If you’ve been working on change but still feel disconnected, this conversation will help you see what’s missing and what to focus on next.

         

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