Today we're talking about something couples rarely discuss: when a husband's interest in sex drops after he stops using porn.

For wives, this can feel very confusing and hurtful. After working hard to heal the relationship, it's painful when intimacy doesn't return as expected. She might wonder, "Doesn't he find me attractive? Is he really getting better?"

But lower sexual desire after recovery isn't always a bad sign. It's often part of a necessary reset in understanding healthy intimacy.

The drive for sex that was powered by fantasy starts to quiet down, creating space for real connection to grow.

Today I'll share five reasons why desire decreases during recovery and how couples can build a fulfilling sex life based on both people's needs, emotional safety, and genuine connection.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

In this episode, I'll show you my easy three-step plan to help you stop watching porn for good.

Many people think they just need to try harder to resist urges or avoid things that trigger them. But fighting these urges all the time is exhausting, and you're always worried about slipping up again.

I want to teach you a better way.

Instead of just fighting urges, we can find out why they happen in the first place and fix that problem.

As a therapist, I've helped hundreds of men on their journey to quit pornography. The ones who stay free for years are those who use this simple plan.

Today you'll learn:

This isn't about using more willpower. It's about understanding that urges are like messages telling you what really needs healing in your life.

You can find real freedom without having to fight against yourself every day.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

I'm excited to share something special with you today - a real-life deep dive session with John where we uncover the root cause of his pornography struggle and work through it together in a single call. 

Most men focus on surface-level solutions - having someone to call when triggered, avoiding certain situations, or just trying to resist temptation harder.

But here's the truth: real freedom doesn't come from getting better at fighting urges. It comes from identifying and resolving why you're feeling tempted in the first place.

In this episode, you'll hear me guide John through this process step-by-step.

While I share tools on the podcast regularly, today you'll hear how these techniques actually work in practice.

My hope is that by listening, you'll gain insights into identifying your own personal root cause and taking steps to resolve it.

Want to work with Sam and experience your own breakthrough?

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Jacob used to struggled daily with pornography and fantasy, but now he's completely free and feels good about himself again.

In the episode, we talk about the two-part approach most men miss - they focus on only one part, which is why they struggle for so long.

He shares the simple tools that helped him handle emotions in healthy ways, rebuild his self-worth, and deal with stress differently.

The best part? Jacob doesn't fight urges for pornography anymore because he's done the deeper work to address the real causes.

In this episode, he shows you exactly what worked for him and how you can do the same in your own life.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Feel like you're fighting an impossible battle - trying to overcome pornography while juggling an already overwhelming life?

After thousands of therapy sessions, I've discovered something surprising: success doesn't always mean adding more to your plate.

Think of someone running up a downward-moving escalator.

They're putting in enormous effort, legs pumping furiously, yet barely staying in place.

This is what traditional recovery can feel like - an endless list of must-dos: meetings, accountability partners, journaling, meditation, new habits, urge management techniques.

While these tools can help, they often leave you feeling more exhausted than empowered.

In today's episode, I'll share a completely different approach - one that works even when you're burned out and short on time.

You'll learn how to get off that escalator and find a simpler, more effective path to lasting change.

Sometimes doing less, but doing it smarter, creates better results than pushing harder against the downward flow.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

When pornography appears in a relationship, it hurts both people deeply.

For wives, the pain and betrayal can feel like being trapped in an endless storm - each bad day stretches out forever, making even good moments feel temporary.

Husbands often feel stuck too, wondering if their efforts to change matter when they see their partner still hurting day after day.

In today's episode, we'll talk about real ways to deal with those bad days that feel like they'll never end.

You'll learn specific steps you can take when the pain feels overwhelming, what conversations actually help both partners heal, and what to expect as you work on fixing things together.

There is hope and there are tools that work - even when it doesn't feel that way right now.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Not Being "Enough": Healing After Sexual Betrayal

When a wife discovers her husband's porn use or infidelity, one thought cuts deeper than all others: "I wasn't enough."

The pain of betrayal is devastating on its own, but believing it happened because of personal inadequacy makes healing feel impossible.

This mistaken belief - that his actions prove something about her worth - becomes the biggest barrier to healing and repair.

It's not just about what happened, it's also about what it means about her.

Today, I'll share a story that could be almost any couple I've worked with as a therapist.

You'll learn specific steps that have helped others move past this crushing belief (and others) and rebuild their connection.

As a therapist who's helped hundreds of men through this struggle, I can tell you something important:

Quitting porn isn't about willpower. Most men get stuck because they're taking the wrong approach - trying to force themselves to stop or just avoid triggers.

Today, I'll share three key elements that actually work.

No more guessing, no more endless cycles of trying and failing. Instead, you'll get a clear, practical plan that addresses the real reasons you're stuck.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle that seemed impossible to break? For Rob, porn became more than just a habit – it was an escape hatch from feelings of failure and not being good enough.

Like many of us, he saw himself as a ticking time bomb, always counting down to the next slip.

But this isn't a story about being stuck. It's about finding a way forward when you think there isn't one.

Today, Rob shares how he transformed his life by facing the root cause of his struggles – not the behavior itself, but the deep-seated feelings of unworthiness beneath it.

Through learning to be present with his family and developing new tools for handling difficult emotions, he didn't just survive – he rebuilt his marriage and discovered a strength he never knew he had.

In this episode, you'll learn practical strategies for:

You'll learn specific steps you can take when the pain feels overwhelming, what conversations actually help both partners heal, and what to expect as you work on fixing things together.

There is hope and there are tools that work - even when it doesn't feel that way right now.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

When Pornography Breaks Your Marriage: First Steps to Healing

Finding out about a porn addiction feels like your world has shattered.

One moment everything seems fine, the next your marriage hits a brick wall. Trust breaks, security vanishes, and many wives feel completely lost, wondering if healing is even possible.

If you're in this dark place right now - whether you just found out or you're taking those first shaky steps toward repair - this episode is for you.

Today, I'll share specific actions you can take to start rebuilding your marriage. These aren't just theories - they're practical steps that have helped real couples find their way back to trust and security.

As a therapist who's helped hundreds of men through this struggle, I can tell you something important:

Quitting porn isn't about willpower. Most men get stuck because they're taking the wrong approach - trying to force themselves to stop or just avoid triggers.

Today, I'll share three key elements that actually work.

No more guessing, no more endless cycles of trying and failing. Instead, you'll get a clear, practical plan that addresses the real reasons you're stuck.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Breaking the "Try Harder" Trap: A New Approach to Quitting Porn

Maybe you've said to yourself, "This time will be different."

You delete the apps, block the websites, stay busy - maybe even make it a few weeks.

Then the urges hit harder than ever, and you're back at square one. This cycle crushes both you and your partner.

As a therapist who's helped hundreds of men through this struggle, I can tell you something important:

Quitting porn isn't about willpower. Most men get stuck because they're taking the wrong approach - trying to force themselves to stop or just avoid triggers.

Today, I'll share three key elements that actually work.

No more guessing, no more endless cycles of trying and failing. Instead, you'll get a clear, practical plan that addresses the real reasons you're stuck.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

[email protected]

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.