Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

Have you ever struggled with feelings of an adequacy or not being accepted?

And has that been a trigger for you in the past that has led you down the path towards pornography use?

If so, you’re not alone. In fact this is a really common trigger for a lot of guys because feelings of rejection or failure or not being enough create heavy negative emotions that we want to get away from.

In this episode, I'm doing a live call with Steve, where we deep dive into his feelings of inadequacy to help him break these beliefs and create new thought patterns that build self-esteem and self-worth.

Along to hear how we approach this so you can apply the same tools in your life and overcome feelings of self doubt and shame.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

I once worked with a woman who was completely overwhelmed because her husband continued to struggle with pornography use.

She was at her wits end.

She felt like a ball of anxiety always waiting for the other shoe to drop and could never really feel comfortable in her skin and safe in the relationship.

The moment she started to let her guard down it just so happened that he would mess up again.

They had been in this loop for the past 10 years of their marriage.

When she reached out, she asked me this specific question – how do I handle it so that this doesn’t bring me down and it takes a day or week to deal with it?

We had a conversation that day, and I shared with her a couple of thoughts that helped to soften the pain of betrayal she was feeling.

I want to share those with you as well so you as a husband or wife, listening to this can know how to find or provide some relief as you’re working on repairing things.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

It's very discouraging for both a husband and wife when a man gets stuck in the cycle of falling back into pornography. Use every few weeks or months. 

In this situation, a wife feels continual anxiety, just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

A husband feels discouragement and hopelessness feeling like he's not making progress despite his best efforts.

In this episode, I share with you exactly how to break this cycle for good and how you can create safety in your relationship, knowing that the root of the problem is resolved and the pornography use is eliminated.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

When pornography use is discovered in a relationship it undermines the very foundation and security.

It often creates suspicion, fear, uncertainty, and a total lack of security and connection.

After having worked with hundreds and hundreds of couples, I want to share with you the three of pillars that I've seen help create connection and security, faster than anything else.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

One of the biggest fears that women have in this process is that her husband will return to pornography since she won't know about it.

She’ll bring down her wall, start to trust him again, and then the other shoe will drop and she'll be devastated again.

How can she know if he is still stuck in his pattern?

If there’s been dishonesty in the past, how can she know if he is telling the truth or not now?

It's critical for a husband to demonstrate change in a way that helps her to believe him again.

It's very discouraging for him when he really is trying and is making progress, but no matter what he does he feels down when she doesn’t believe him.

In this episode I'll share how you can approach this together to help build security and confidence that things really are different as a result of the new actions he's taking.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Have you ever wondered why you haven't been able to quit pornography permanently?

Do you feel like you know the tools but just aren't using them in the moment you need them most?

If the tools you've been trying to implement haven't brought you freedom yet, you're using the wrong ones.

This creates a problem in a relationship as well – 

A woman can't trust her husband who keeps returning back to pornography, even if he is trying his best.

There's nothing wrong with you, it's just the approach that you've been taught isn't working.

In this episode, I share with you how you can identify what tools you need to be using instead and how you can change your approach to really get traction and find success.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

It can be scary for a wife to imagine bringing down her wall...

Will she get hurt again?

How will she know if he won't return to pornography?

Is there any other way to feel safe and have protection?

In this episode I outline how you can navigate this block together and the benefits of bringing the wall down (when the steps are done in the right order).

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Many couples fear that it's not possible to eliminate pornography use from their lives. Men struggle for decades with urges and temptation without the right tools.

This leads them to fall back into old patterns and makes them believe they can't ever quit.

Kevin was a man who went through my program and not only got the tools to quit pornography for good, he lost the desire to view it at all.

No more temptation. No more urges. This is what freedom looks like.

In today's episode, he shares with you the steps he took and how he approached things in order for him to find this freedom. 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Many couples struggle with feelings of uncertainty and insecurity in their marriage. 

Years of deception and lying erodes the foundation of trust, and a lack of communication or transparency keep things stuck.

In this episode episode, I share a very easy-to-implement tool that can help you to build security in your marriage again. But missing this can keep your wheels spinning in your marriage despite making progress on a personal level.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

To get more tools to help you resolve communication breakdowns, check out these previous episodes:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2QMGxl99muUDOoojYPOUnX?si=5Tl5gg4tQgmLG6QAynIsdQ

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5IJ812sUVt3x0CKj7Juj8R?si=2d18kEQ3Rm2c_G4kubBQ3g

Many men and women wonder if quitting porn is actually possible to do or if it's something that just needs to be managed for the rest of their life.

The good news: YES! It's 100% possible to quit and never return.

In this episode I'll share with you specifically what I've seen work best to help men quit Porn and never return. 

The more you have about what the underlying problem is, the more the solution becomes obvious. 

Once you implement those solutions, the old patterns lose their power, which gives husbands confidence that they can move forward without messing up again, and it gives a wife peace of mind knowing she can actually be safe and let her guard down when he's done the work.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.

It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

Join the Private Group Here

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.