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Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use?
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Episode Description:
Instead of managing urges, guarding against temptation, or just adding more filters and check-ins, this episode explores how pornography use is a coping mechanism — and the real key is learning how to identify and resolve the root cause driving the behavior.
Sam shares a powerful analogy using a tipping water bucket to illustrate why men often relapse into porn even when they’re doing everything “right.”
You’ll hear a real story from a husband trying to make sense of why he fell back into porn use, and how the issue wasn’t a lack of discipline — it was unresolved shame and emotional pain building up inside.
You'll learn:
Why the right porn recovery plan must address underlying issues like shame, low self-worth, emotional disconnection, and perfectionism
How stress isn’t the root issue — but the emotional meanings attached to it are
What wives need to understand about pornography addiction in marriage
How husbands can rebuild trust in their marriage by showing their wives they’re doing the real emotional work
Why focusing only on urge management keeps you stuck, tired, and ashamed
Whether you're a husband struggling with pornography or a wife trying to understand the healing process, this episode offers clarity, hope, and a clear framework to finally move forward.
By Sam Tielemans, LMFT4.9
195195 ratings
Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use?
Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/
Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?
Email me here:
Episode Description:
Instead of managing urges, guarding against temptation, or just adding more filters and check-ins, this episode explores how pornography use is a coping mechanism — and the real key is learning how to identify and resolve the root cause driving the behavior.
Sam shares a powerful analogy using a tipping water bucket to illustrate why men often relapse into porn even when they’re doing everything “right.”
You’ll hear a real story from a husband trying to make sense of why he fell back into porn use, and how the issue wasn’t a lack of discipline — it was unresolved shame and emotional pain building up inside.
You'll learn:
Why the right porn recovery plan must address underlying issues like shame, low self-worth, emotional disconnection, and perfectionism
How stress isn’t the root issue — but the emotional meanings attached to it are
What wives need to understand about pornography addiction in marriage
How husbands can rebuild trust in their marriage by showing their wives they’re doing the real emotional work
Why focusing only on urge management keeps you stuck, tired, and ashamed
Whether you're a husband struggling with pornography or a wife trying to understand the healing process, this episode offers clarity, hope, and a clear framework to finally move forward.

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