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Episode Description:

If you've been stuck in the cycle of pornography for years, trying everything from filters to accountability partners, but still feel like you’re not making progress — this episode will change the way you see everything.

In today’s episode, Sam Tielemans breaks down why so many traditional approaches to porn addiction recovery leave men feeling discouraged, ashamed, and trapped in endless management strategies. 

If you’ve ever been told you just need to “have a plan” or “avoid triggering situations,” this episode offers a powerful reframe: it’s not about controlling your environment — it’s about healing the root.

You’ll hear real client stories about men who struggled with urges to watch porn during travel, late nights, and moments of disconnection — and why the real issue wasn’t the situation, but unhealed emotional wounds like low self-worth and fear of rejection.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

✔️ Why returning to porn is predictable — and why it’s not about the scenario, it’s about the story underneath

If you’ve been worn down by porn urges, constantly falling back into old patterns, or questioning your ability to ever be free — you’re not broken. You’ve just been using the wrong map.

This episode is for you if you're ready to:

Learn how to stop porn urges at the root

Address the hidden link between shame and self-esteem and compulsive behaviors

Rebuild connection in your marriage and understand the truth about marriage and porn

Finally get clarity on how to quit porn in a way that feels doable, grounded, and lasting

This isn’t just another pep talk — it’s a full reorientation.

You don’t need more discipline.