Welcome to episode #256! 🎙️ Pure Victory Podcast: Trusted vs. Trustworthy: The Difference That Brings Real Freedom
What’s the real difference between being trusted and being trustworthy—and why does it matter so much in recovery?

In this episode, we unpack a game-changing distinction that impacts healing after betrayal, freedom from porn, and rebuilding integrity. Through personal stories, biblical truth, and hard-won insight, this conversation challenges the idea that regaining trust is the goal—and instead points us toward inner transformation that leads to lasting freedom.

Because freedom isn’t found in being believed… it’s found in being transformed.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Being trusted is external; being trustworthy is internal
  One is about perception. The other is about character.
• You can fool people—but you can’t fool God
  True healing starts when integrity matters even when no one is watching.
• Behavior management isn’t transformation
  Surface-level change may restore trust temporarily, but it won’t bring freedom.
• Being trusted can actually block deeper healing
  When trust is restored, we often stop confessing, stop going deeper, and stop inviting accountability.
• Trustworthiness leads to freedom, integrity, and wholeness
  When the heart changes, trust eventually follows—slowly, safely, and authentically.

📖 Scriptural Highlight

“Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
—1 Samuel 16:7“Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight.”
—Hebrews 4:13

God isn’t after image management—He’s after heart transformation.

🛠️ Action Steps

• Ask the deeper question:
  Not “What do I need to do so others feel safe?”
  But “Who do I need to become so I am safe?”
• Practice integrity in hidden moments
  Pay attention to what you do when there are no consequences.
• Invite light, not performance
  Confess honestly, pursue healing, and bring trusted, safe people into your story.
• Shift the goal
  Stop chasing trust. Start becoming trustworthy.

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Podcast Host

BRADEN HAFNER

Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He and his wife Kristen live in Edmonton, Alberta. He knows all too well the destruction that porn use and addiction can have, and now wants to see people experience freedom away from porn. Along with that he is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com