The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

258. Why It Is The Lower Desire Spouses Responsibility To Fix The "I Don't Want/Like To Have Sex" Problem... Or Is It?


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Disclaimer: This topic and episode are for couples in loving, respectful, and healthy relationships, but where the lower desire spouse isn't interested in sexual intimacy.

We receive many messages from lower desire spouses who express sentiments like, "Our relationship is great, but my wife just doesn't like (or want) to have sex. She tells me no, or just to 'deal with it.'" We hear statements like this all the time.

This is saddening because it isn't the high desire spouse's fault, yet they are told to just "deal with it" as if it is their fault or something is wrong with them for desiring sexual intimacy with their spouse. They are the ones who have to endure because their spouse is just "not in the mood."

Now, of course, we are talking about couples in loving and respectful marriages. If there are deep issues in the marriage causing a spouse not to want to be intimate, then we totally agree that things need to be resolved. However, the majority of messages we receive are from high desire spouses who state that their lower desire spouse just doesn't enjoy (or want) sex, and therefore has cut it off from the higher desire spouse.

In this podcast episode, we discuss the factors that may cause a spouse not to have sexual desire and why it is the low desire spouse's responsibility to address the "I don't want to have sex" issue. This is sure to be a controversial topic and episode, but it needs to be addressed. Before passing judgment, listen to the podcast and hear the reasons why we feel this way, and let us know what you think.


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