Better Sex

270: Soapbox: Reactive Desire


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In this solo episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the spotlight is on the two distinct types of sexual desire—proactive and reactive. Zimmerman explains how proactive desire involves thinking about sex and feeling aroused independently, while reactive desire requires specific conditions and stimuli to become aroused. She discusses the common misconceptions surrounding these types of desire, their impact on relationships, and offers strategies to accommodate and embrace reactive desire. By understanding and working with these concepts, couples can enhance intimacy and reduce desire discrepancies in their relationships.


00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:58 Understanding the Two Types of Desire

02:03 Proactive Desire Explained

03:05 Reactive Desire Unveiled

05:01 Bridging the Desire Gap

06:24 Creating Space for Reactive Desire

07:58 Flexibility and Intimacy

11:22 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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More info and resources:


Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast




How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

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