In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman talks with Paul Abramowitz, author of 'Sexed: Hardwired by Nature, Evolving by Choice,' about the intrinsic preoccupation men have with sex due to biological hardwiring. They discuss how this drive impacts men's lives and relationships, the importance of understanding and managing it, and the potential benefits of reflective engagement. Abramowitz shares insights from his book on men’s reproductive biological intelligence, the socio-cultural and biological aspects affecting men's and women's sexual behaviors, and the concept of 'intoxicated masculinity.' They also explore the implications of such understanding for enhancing intimacy and connection in heterosexual relationships, moving beyond the 'romance industrial complex.'

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:42 Guest Introduction: Paul Abramowitz

01:41 Paul's Journey and Inspiration for Writing

04:26 Understanding Male Sexual Drive

08:17 Impact of Biological Hardwiring

14:43 Female Partners' Perspective

22:55 Intoxicated Masculinity vs. Toxic Masculinity

38:34 Romance Industrial Complex

44:50 Conclusion and Contact Information

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Paul's Bio:

Having followed a rather circuitous route into his formal training in Human Sexuality by studies in both Eastern (Totality Therapy) and Western traditions (Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (PhD)), Paul is a long-time student of yoga and meditation, a painter, sculptor, and singer-songwriter who has dedicated most of his adult life to exploring creative avenues of expression and practice that lead to a fuller understanding of the lived human experience.

Born in Cape Town, South Africa in 1962, Paul graduated from the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia, USA in 1985 with a Doctorate in Dental Medicine and a Post-Doctoral Specialty Certification in Periodontology in 1990, upon which he held post-doctoral teaching positions as Assistant Professor of Periodontology at the University of Pennsylvania and Associate Professor of Periodontology at Temple University before returning to private practice in Cape Town.

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