How do you know if the challenges you face today — in relationships, at work, or even with your health — are really caused by unresolved childhood trauma?

It’s a question I hear often, and it’s a good one. Because without clarity, we end up treating the wrong “symptom” and going in circles.

Maybe you’ve already done therapy or coaching around past issues. You’ve journaled, meditated, and worked on your personal growth.

But here’s the deeper question:

 How do you know if your healing is truly complete… or if there are still layers left to uncover?

In this week’s episode of the podcast, I share the 3 telltale signs of unresolved childhood trauma — patterns I’ve seen in myself and in countless others. They quietly shape our relationships, our sense of self, and our ability to manage emotions:

• Repetitive relationship struggles — push–pull dynamics, people-pleasing, shutting down, or feeling unsafe in closeness.
• A vague sense that “something is wrong with me” — showing up as shame, imposter syndrome, or holding back from intimacy.
• Emotional dysregulation — feeling numb until emotions hit like a tsunami, or managing them through work, food, or other distractions.

If you recognize yourself in any of these, you’re not alone.

 And here’s the good news: healing is possible.

P.S. If this resonates, please share the episode with someone who may need it. Healing becomes more powerful when we don’t do it alone.

Timestamps:

00:00 How to tell if your past is still affecting your present

00:46 The importance of finding the right diagnosis for emotional healing

01:20 What makes complex trauma different from other forms of PTSD

01:48 Sign #1: Repetitive relational patterns — fear of abandonment, push–pull dynamics, and people-pleasing

05:22 Sign #2: A vague inner belief that something is “wrong” with you

07:04 Sign #3: Emotional dysregulation and disconnection from your body

09:24 Why talk therapy and mindset work alone aren’t enough

10:59 A personal mission to help you heal faster and pass on a better legacy

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