You should never try and fit yourself into a mold of someone else's preferences. But, deciding to go against societal norms can be challenging. So, how do you know if a big decision—such as opening up your relationship—will be worth it in the end?

When Susan Wenzel decided to try nonmonogamy with her partner, she struggled with a range of difficult emotions before finding happiness. As she says, we can’t know what the future holds, but we are responsible for our choices—including how we choose to perceive our circumstances. By taking responsibility for what she could control and letting go of the things she couldn’t, Susan achieved greater happiness, freedom, and growth, both in and out of her relationship.

Join Dr. Marie Murphy in this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me as she sits down with Susan Wenzel, a Certified Sex Therapist and Relationship Expert, to discuss life outside of monogamy. Susan shares her personal experience transitioning to an open marriage and explains how she helps couples navigate various nonmonogamous relationships. Plus, Dr. Murphy and Susan talk about the power of letting go of the things that prevent you from being happy. Stay tuned.