How To Love Yourself No Matter What

311. Why Mantras & Journaling Aren’t Working (And What To Do Instead)


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If you’ve been repeating affirmations, journaling your thoughts, and still feeling stuck… we need to talk.

Because it’s not that you’re doing it wrong.

It’s that these tools aren’t actually designed to create the kind of change you’re looking for.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why mantras and journaling often don’t work—especially for sensitive, self-aware women—and what to do instead.

Mantras can create internal conflict when your brain doesn’t believe what you’re saying.

Journaling can turn into rumination that reinforces the exact patterns you’re trying to break.

So if you’ve ever felt like:

“I should be further along by now”

“I know better, so why am I still stuck?”

“I’ve done so much work, why hasn’t anything really changed?”

This episode will land.

I’m going to show you a different way to work with your brain—one that actually creates emotional buy-in, shifts your beliefs, and changes how you show up in your life.

✨ In This Episode, I Talk About:
  1. Why mantras often feel empty (and can actually increase anxiety)
  2. How journaling can quietly reinforce negative thinking patterns
  3. The role your survival brain is playing behind the scenes
  4. Why your beliefs—not your thoughts—are what need to change
  5. The real skill that creates confidence, calm, and lasting change
  6. How asking better questions can completely shift your emotional state

🔑 What I Want You To Take Away:

You don’t need to force yourself to think positively.

You need to learn how to question what you’re thinking in a way that actually opens something up.

💭 Try This Instead:

Next time you feel stuck, don’t reach for a mantra.

Ask yourself:

  1. What if this isn’t actually true?
  2. What would be possible if I believed I was enough?
  3. How would I show up if I felt fully accepted?

Let your brain answer. That’s where the shift happens.

💬 Want Help With This?

This is exactly the work I do with my clients.

If you’re ready to stop spinning in your head and actually create change that feels real and sustainable, you can book a call with me:

👉 amandahess.ca/bookacall

📲 Come Say Hi

If this episode resonated, DM me on Instagram or TikTok. I’d love to hear what landed for you.

Links referenced in this episode:

  1. amandahessbookacall
  2. theamandahess

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