As a culture, we don’t know how to grieve. We’re expected to keep it together, stay strong, and move on, even though grief is one of the most universal human experiences. The truth is, when no one models how to grieve, it’s easy to feel lost, broken, or like you’re “doing it wrong.”

In this episode, I’m opening up about my own experiences with grief - the loss of my mom, my mother-in-law, and even beloved pets - and what I’ve learned along the way. When we allow ourselves to feel grief fully, it becomes not just bearable, but healing. Discover how to stop resisting the waves of sadness, why missing someone is not a problem to solve, and how grief can actually introduce you to deeper parts of yourself.

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Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.

In this episode, I’m talking about why advocacy feels so hard and why our nervous systems often default to people-pleasing instead of speaking up. I’ll also share three practical communication strategies that help you ask for what you need without collapsing into shame or guilt. These tools will help you protect your energy, clarify your relationships, and model consent while staying in integrity with yourself. Advocacy isn’t about being difficult. It’s about finally belonging to yourself first.

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Emotional safety is more than just a buzzword. It’s the foundation for healing and thriving in every area of your life. But for many women, creating emotional safety can feel like an abstract idea. And honestly, it wasn’t until I really started to dig into it as a coach that I understood what it truly meant.

In this episode, I break down why emotional safety isn’t about being calm or waiting for others to “make” you feel safe, but rather starts when you go first. That means acknowledging your emotions and taking the steps to regulate your own nervous system, even when everything around you feels out of control.

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If you’ve ever felt emotionally overwhelmed, mislabeled, or unsupported by traditional systems, this space is for you. I’m Amanda Hess, a trauma-informed life coach, and I’m here to help you reclaim your true identity beyond clinical labels and build radical self-trust.

In each episode, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and stories that will help you create emotional safety within yourself, set boundaries that honor your unique experience, and stop trying to fix yourself. If you’re ready to break free from shame, overwhelm, and the pressure to perform, hit follow now and join me on this journey to love yourself no matter what.

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Do you always think that you're the problem? Are you constantly trying to be more perfect? Are you angry at others and don't quite know why? In this episode, I'm exploring how internalized shame shows up in our everyday thoughts and behaviors, often disguised as perfectionism, resentment, or self-criticism.

You'll discover practical ways to recognize shame when it arises, understand why it can't be white-knuckled away, and learn how to grow your capacity to feel difficult emotions through nervous system regulation. And I'll guide you through the process of shining a light on shame, releasing its grip, and ultimately reclaiming your inner authority so you can stop hiding pieces of yourself and start living from a place of truth rather than fear.

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Self-trust starts to erode when you’re constantly beating yourself up over past mistakes. But lack of self-trust isn’t a character flaw. It’s conditioning. And the key to building radical self-trust isn't about eliminating negative thoughts or becoming perfect. It’s about learning to hold two truths at once: yes, those conditioned thoughts are loud and familiar, and yes, you can still build trust in yourself.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through how to process fear and doubt without letting them control you, how to take radical responsibility without self-abuse, and how to plant new, empowering thoughts while accepting that the old ones might still show up.

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You’ve tried it all - podcasts, self-help books, courses. And yet, somehow, you always end up back where you started. The strategies that work for everyone else leave you feeling more broken, more stuck, and wondering what’s wrong with you. But here’s the thing: the problem isn’t your willpower, and it definitely isn’t your motivation. The real issue is that traditional methods don’t address what’s going on beneath the surface.

In this episode, I’m sharing the four steps you need to go from feeling stuck, unseen, and misunderstood to a place of peace, contentment, and joy. This isn’t about becoming someone different or fixing what’s "wrong" with you. You’ll learn to work with your nervous system, not against it - so that you can process emotions without drowning in them, and plant new thoughts that nurture what you want instead of always fighting off what you don’t.

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You don’t need a rigid routine — you need a framework that supports your sensitivity, your energy, and your capacity.

Let’s design a summer that works for you.

On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call, you’ll learn:

• Why typical planning advice doesn’t work for your brain
• How to build flexibility without spiraling
• A simple strategy to enjoy your summer — on your terms

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In this week's episode, I'm addressing something that so many women struggle with quietly: feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions. Whether you grew up as the peacemaker in a volatile home or you've just always been the one who fixes things for everyone, this pattern of emotional enmeshment keeps you stuck in survival mode.

You'll discover why trying to regulate everyone else leaves no one regulating you, how to build emotional boundaries without pushing people away, and practical tools for staying rooted in your own nervous system when someone else is spinning out. Most importantly, you'll learn that growing your emotional capacity - not shrinking your feelings - is the key to breaking free from this exhausting pattern.

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The expectations are relentless — to plan the vacations, hold the emotions, run the household, keep it all “fun.”

Let’s burn that list and make a different one.

On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call, you’ll learn:

• The truth about sensory and emotional burnout
• How masking shows up in your daily to-do list
• How to build a summer rhythm that actually supports your energy

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