If you’ve been trying to “fix” your overthinking by changing your thoughts, but nothing ever seems to stick, here’s the truth:

You don’t have a thought problem — you have an emotion problem.

When your emotions feel too big, too fast, or too overwhelming for your system, your brain does the only thing it knows how to do: it starts thinking harder. It analyzes, spirals, replays conversations, imagines every worst-case scenario — not because you’re dramatic, or weak, or too sensitive, but because your body is trying to protect you from the intensity of unprocessed emotion.

This episode explores why overthinking is always rooted in emotional dysregulation, how a sensitive nervous system amplifies feelings, and why “controlling your emotions” has never worked. You’ll learn what emotions actually are, how they move through the body, and how to start building emotional capacity so your mind can finally take a breath.

You don’t need to out-think your feelings — you need to learn how to experience them in a way that feels safe.

This is Part 2 of my three-part series on overthinking, and it’s the piece no one teaches sensitive women… but it’s the one that makes everything else finally click.

• Why overthinking is an emotional issue long before it becomes a thought issue
• The difference between “reacting” to emotion and actually processing it
• What emotions really are — and why they’re not good, bad, or logical
• How a sensitive nervous system intensifies emotional waves
• Why unprocessed emotion always comes back bigger, louder, and more overwhelming
• How emotional capacity makes difficult feelings easier to handle
• The simple skill of “feeling emotion in the body” without being consumed by it
• Why learning to process emotion is the key to ending the overthinking cycle

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Overthinking isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival response.

If your brain feels like it never shuts off, if you replay conversations, worry about every decision, or try to anticipate every possible problem before it happens — this episode is for you.

When your nervous system has been running in survival mode for too long, overthinking becomes your body’s way of trying to keep you safe. But the truth is, it’s not protecting you — it’s exhausting you. In this episode, we break down why overthinking isn’t a mindset problem, it’s a nervous system problem, and how learning to regulate your body first changes everything.

When you understand that your “racing thoughts” are really a sensitive nervous system doing its best to help you survive, you stop trying to fix yourself — and start working with yourself.

This is Part 1 of a 3-part series where I teach the Love Yourself No Matter What Method — starting with nervous system regulation and why your gas pedal and brake are always out of sync.

• Why overthinking is your nervous system’s way of trying to keep you safe
• How a sensitive nervous system gets triggered — and what it really means
• The difference between the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems (and how to balance them)
• What “fight, flight, freeze, or fawn” actually looks like in real life
• Why your brain doesn’t know the difference between a bear chasing you and your friend not texting back
• The simple daily practices that start rebalancing your nervous system — without hours of meditation

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What if everything you’ve been told about being “too sensitive” is wrong?

In this episode, I share a deeply personal story from my early motherhood — the exhaustion, the misdiagnoses, and the moment I realized that I wasn’t broken… I was sensitive. For years, I tried to “fix” myself, believing that my emotions were the problem. But the truth is, sensitivity isn’t a weakness — it’s a form of wisdom.

We’ll explore what sensitivity really is (and what it’s not), how it overlaps with common mental health labels, and why learning to partner with your sensitivity is the key to feeling grounded, powerful, and whole.

If you’ve ever felt like the world was too loud, your emotions too big, or your empathy too much — this episode is for you. You’ll learn:

✨ Why your nervous system feels things so deeply

✨ How to stop pathologizing your sensitivity

✨ What it looks like to create safety and strength from the inside out

Your sensitivity isn’t something to fix — it’s something to understand.

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Did you grow up in a house where everything had to be someone's fault? That type of environment creates a specific kind of wiring in your brain. The spilled glass of water that turns into chaos, the constant need to assign blame, the walking on eggshells - these experiences don't just disappear when you become an adult. They show up as that relentless inner critic, the exhausting need to control everyone's emotions, and the panic that rises when something goes wrong.

The path forward isn't about becoming perfect or never making mistakes. It's about learning to feel safe in the mess of being human. In this episode, you'll discover how to recognize criticism as a red flag for feeling unsafe, how to regulate your nervous system when panic rises, and most importantly, how to build the muscle of self-compassion.

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When your heart feels like it's been shattered into pieces and the pain consumes every moment of your day, you're experiencing something that every human being knows intimately: heartache.

In this episode, I'll walk you through my Love Yourself No Matter What method - a three-part process that helps you regulate your nervous system, process the emotion in your body, and decide what to believe about yourself when your brain offers up those cruel thoughts.

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Most of us have been taught that jealousy is wrong, and that we should never feel it. But rejecting a normal human emotion only makes it come back louder and more destructive.

In this episode, I share my own experience with jealousy and shine a light on the hidden connection between feeling threatened and speaking poorly about others. You'll learn ways to regulate your nervous system, reduce your jealousy, and hear why the person who truly wins isn’t someone who never feels jealous - it’s the person who can feel all their feelings without sabotaging themselves.

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Most of us think the point of a goal is to achieve it. But what if the real purpose is who you become along the way? When I laced up my skates, put on a sparkly costume, and stepped onto the ice to perform in front of judges, I thought the goal was the medal. What I learned instead was that the goal was there to help me meet every part of myself—the scared, the brave, and the resilient—all in one two-minute skate.

In this episode, I’m sharing what really happens between setting a goal and achieving it, and why that messy middle is where the true transformation takes place. Through stories from my own skating experiences, I’ll show you how goals aren’t just about the finish line. They’re about the relationship you build with yourself while you go for it.

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Goal setting triggers panic for so many of us. The fear of not meeting expectations, the pressure of deadlines, the looming possibility of disappointment - it's enough to make anyone avoid setting goals altogether. But what if the real problem isn't the goal itself, but our relationship with failure along the way?

Tune in to hear my four-step process for moving through fear and failure with compassion. You'll discover how to set goals that stretch you, create belief before you see results, fail on purpose (yes, really), and evaluate without judgment.

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So often we believe that a better relationship depends on our partner changing. But the truth is, the real work starts with you.

If you’ve ever felt stuck giving too much, overcompensating, or constantly managing the relationship on your own, this episode is for you. I share practical ways to start building self-love as a standard in your life, how to navigate guilt or frustration when it arises, and why creating this inner foundation can transform your romantic relationships from the inside out.

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Beating yourself up might feel productive, but it's actually keeping you stuck in the same painful patterns. The real work of healing from trauma isn't about fixing all your problems or thinking positive thoughts. It's about developing self-love as a skill—a feeling you can generate in your body that becomes the fuel for different actions.

In this episode, I'm sharing why the skill of self-love isn't fluff. Through a specific process of recognizing when you're in a trauma response and bringing love to that moment, you can start to grow around your pain rather than trying to make it disappear.

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