"I hate you, Mom!" These words can shatter even the strongest parent’s heart. In that moment, you're faced with a tidal wave of emotion. You might wonder what went wrong, or whether you're somehow failing as a parent.But the truth is—they don’t mean it. Let me help you understand what’s underneath those explosive words and how you can respond in a way that calms the chaos, protects your connection, and supports your child’s emotional growth. Because it’s not about getting it perfect; it’s about showing up with calm and compassion, even when it hurts most.If you need more tools to regulate yourself and your child, check out the <a href="https://drroseann.com/quickcalm/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Quick Calm</a> toolkit and unlock your child’s potential in just one week! It’s a simple, deeper dive into the C.A.L.M.S. Protocol that’s already helping families shift from chaos to calm.Take our<a href="https://drroseann.com/help/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> FREE Brain and Behavior Solutions Matcher</a> today! We'll help you find the right solution tailored to your needs. Discover science-backed mental health solutions and gain valuable insights by exploring the resources available at<a href="http://www.drroseann.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> www.drroseann.com</a>.

"I hate you, Mom!" These words can shatter even the strongest parent’s heart. In that moment, you're faced with a tidal wave of emotion. You might wonder what went wrong, or whether you're somehow failing as a parent. But the truth is—they don’t mean it. Let me help you understand what’s underneath those explosive words and how you can respond in a way that calms the chaos, protects your connection, and supports your child’s emotional growth. Because it’s not about getting it perfect; it’s about showing up with calm and compassion, even when it hurts most. If you need more tools to regulate yourself and your child, check out the Quick Calm toolkit and unlock your child’s potential in just one week! It’s a simple, deeper dive into the C.A.L.M.S. Protocol that’s already helping families shift from chaos to calm. Take our FREE Brain and Behavior Solutions Matcher today! We'll help you find the right solution tailored to your needs. Discover science-backed mental health solutions and gain valuable insights by exploring the resources available at www.drroseann.com.

"I hate you, Mom!" These words can shatter even the strongest parent’s heart. In that moment, you're faced with a tidal wave of emotion. You might wonder what went wrong, or whether you're somehow failing as a parent.But the truth is—they don’t mean it. Let me help you understand what’s underneath those explosive words and how you can respond in a way that calms the chaos, protects your connection, and supports your child’s emotional growth. Because it’s not about getting it perfect; it’s about showing up with calm and compassion, even when it hurts most.If you need more tools to regulate yourself and your child, check out the <a href="https://drroseann.com/quickcalm/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Quick Calm</a> toolkit and unlock your child’s potential in just one week! It’s a simple, deeper dive into the C.A.L.M.S. Protocol that’s already helping families shift from chaos to calm.Take our<a href="https://drroseann.com/help/" rel="noopener noreferrer"> FREE Brain and Behavior Solutions Matcher</a> today! We'll help you find the right solution tailored to your needs.&nbsp;Discover science-backed mental health solutions and gain valuable insights by exploring the resources available at<a href="http://www.drroseann.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"> www.drroseann.com</a>.

319: “I Hate You, Mom!”—What to Say When It Hurts Most

Are you tired of the daily battles, the problems with listening and focus, meltdowns over minor frustrations, and the constant feeling of walking on eggshells in your own home? If you're a parent who feels overwhelmed, stuck in a cycle of reactivity, and utterly exhausted from trying to manage your child's challenging behaviors, you are not alone. You've tried everything—the sticker charts, the timeouts, the endless negotiations—but nothing creates lasting change.
The answer isn't more discipline. The secret is understanding the brain. Welcome to Dysregulated Kids: Science-Backed Parenting Help, the podcast that is revolutionizing the way we parent.

Hosted by Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, a licensed therapist, school psychologist and author with over 30 years of experience in children's mental health and recognized by Forbes as a thought leader in children's mental health, this podcast is your lifeline. Dr. Roseann pulls back the curtain on why your child or teen is struggling, whether they have a clinical diagnosis like ADHD, Anxiety, Autism, OCD, Depression, Dyslexia, Executive Functioning challenges, Lyme, or PANS/PANDAS, or are simply navigating the ups and downs of everyday life.Her revolutionary Regulation First Parenting™ approach teaches that calming the nervous system is the first step before you can connect, teach, or help your child learn.

In short, actionable episodes, Dr. Roseann gives you proven tools like the CALMS Protocol™, quick nervous system reset tools and co-regulation strategies to move your child (and yourself!) from stress and reactivity to calm, connection, and resilience. You'll learn what to say and do to de-escalate meltdowns in the moment, how to build your child's emotional regulation skills, and how to improve their executive functioning and attention so they can succeed at home, at school, and in life.

Imagine shifting your entire perspective from seeing "defiance" to understanding "dysregulation." Picture yourself feeling confident and equipped, knowing exactly how to respond in those tough parenting moments. This is the transformation that awaits you. Parents discover how to break free from the reactivity cycle and build a more connected, joyful family—going from helpless and frustrated to empowered and hopeful.

Here's what you can expect from Dysregulated Kids:
Real Solutions for Real Problems – Whether you're dealing with ADHD, anxiety, sensory overload, meltdowns, or everyday struggles, Dr. Roseann brings strategies that actually work.

Science-Backed Parenting Tools – Learn how to understand your child's nervous system and apply research-driven calming strategies to create a peaceful, happy home.

Practical Advice You Can Use Today – Each episode delivers focused, actionable content without the fluff—just pure wisdom you can apply to your family right away.

Empowerment and Hope – Dr. Roseann blends expert knowledge with deep empathy for the challenges parents face, helping you feel confident that you can make positive change.

This podcast is for parents of the "reactive" kid or the child who feels more, reacts to little things more, and just needs more from you. It's for parents of neurodivergent children or kids struggling with mental health challenges. Really this show is for all parents dealing with typical stressors who want to raise emotionally intelligent, resilient kids in a world that is more demanding and chaotic than ever.

If you've seen Dr. Roseann on TV, you know she doesn't shy away from real talk about real problems. She brings that same authenticity and expertise to every episode, combining hope with science to help you calm the brain and create a happier family.

Are you ready to stop just surviving and start thriving? Subscribe now and start your journey toward a calmer brain and a happier family today.

For more resources, show notes, and to connect with Dr. Roseann, visit drroseann.com.

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Are you tired of the daily battles, the problems with listening and focus, meltdowns over minor frustrations, and the constant feeling of walking on eggshells in your own home? If you're a parent who feels overwhelmed, stuck in a cycle of reactivity, and utterly exhausted from trying to manage your child's challenging behaviors, you are not alone. You've tried everything—the sticker charts, the timeouts, the endless negotiations—but nothing creates lasting change. The answer isn't more discipline. The secret is understanding the brain. Welcome to Dysregulated Kids: Science-Backed Parenting Help, the podcast that is revolutionizing the way we parent. Hosted by Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, a licensed therapist, school psychologist and author with over 30 years of experience in children's mental health and recognized by Forbes as a thought leader in children's mental health, this podcast is your lifeline. Dr. Roseann pulls back the curtain on why your child or teen is struggling, whether they have a clinical diagnosis like ADHD, Anxiety, Autism, OCD, Depression, Dyslexia, Executive Functioning challenges, Lyme, or PANS/PANDAS, or are simply navigating the ups and downs of everyday life.Her revolutionary Regulation First Parenting™ approach teaches that calming the nervous system is the first step before you can connect, teach, or help your child learn. In short, actionable episodes, Dr. Roseann gives you proven tools like the CALMS Protocol™, quick nervous system reset tools and co-regulation strategies to move your child (and yourself!) from stress and reactivity to calm, connection, and resilience. You'll learn what to say and do to de-escalate meltdowns in the moment, how to build your child's emotional regulation skills, and how to improve their executive functioning and attention so they can succeed at home, at school, and in life. Imagine shifting your entire perspective from seeing "defiance" to understanding "dysregulation." Picture yourself feeling confident and equipped, knowing exactly how to respond in those tough parenting moments. This is the transformation that awaits you. Parents discover how to break free from the reactivity cycle and build a more connected, joyful family—going from helpless and frustrated to empowered and hopeful. Here's what you can expect from Dysregulated Kids: Real Solutions for Real Problems – Whether you're dealing with ADHD, anxiety, sensory overload, meltdowns, or everyday struggles, Dr. Roseann brings strategies that actually work. Science-Backed Parenting Tools – Learn how to understand your child's nervous system and apply research-driven calming strategies to create a peaceful, happy home. Practical Advice You Can Use Today – Each episode delivers focused, actionable content without the fluff—just pure wisdom you can apply to your family right away. Empowerment and Hope – Dr. Roseann blends expert knowledge with deep empathy for the challenges parents face, helping you feel confident that you can make positive change. This podcast is for parents of the "reactive" kid or the child who feels more, reacts to little things more, and just needs more from you. It's for parents of neurodivergent children or kids struggling with mental health challenges. Really this show is for all parents dealing with typical stressors who want to raise emotionally intelligent, resilient kids in a world that is more demanding and chaotic than ever. If you've seen Dr. Roseann on TV, you know she doesn't shy away from real talk about real problems. She brings that same authenticity and expertise to every episode, combining hope with science to help you calm the brain and create a happier family. Are you ready to stop just surviving and start thriving? Subscribe now and start your journey toward a calmer brain and a happier family today. For more resources, show notes, and to connect with Dr. Roseann, visit drroseann.com.

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