Dealing with the loss of any relationship can be difficult, and the end of an affair is no different. However, because of the secretive and taboo nature of infidelity, navigating the emotional aftermath can be confusing and lonely — especially if there’s nowhere to turn for support. So, how can you manage that lingering sadness and find the right path forward?

If you’re looking for a better way to deal with your emotions after an affair, Dr. Marie Murphy suggests that you begin by changing how you think about it. As she says, you don’t have to change your situation in order to reframe how it affects you. And, according to Dr. Murphy, when you learn how to rethink your narrative, you gain the power to turn even the most painful situations into opportunities for growth and transformation.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses how to navigate the emotional aftermath of ending an affair. Dr. Murphy explains how the end of an affair can result in disenfranchised grief, why over-analyzing your feelings can lead you off course, and what you can do to regain the power to move forward. Plus, Dr. Murphy shares how to determine if ending the affair was the right decision for you. Stay tuned.