The Gabby Reece Show

#346: How to Validate ANYONE, The Secret to Healthy Relationships - Dr. Caroline Fleck


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Dr. Caroline Fleck shares with Gabby Reece the #1 communication skill from psychology (DBT) you need to master: VALIDATION. Learn how this essential relationship tool will transform your marriage, parenting, and friendships. The psychologist & author of Validation breaks down the exact steps to build deep connection, manage conflict, and achieve emotional regulation.

In this powerful episode of The Gabby Reece Show, host Gabby Reece and Dr. Caroline Fleck, a clinical psychologist and author of the book Validation: How the skillset that revolutionized psychology will transform your relationship, increase your influence, and change your life, discuss the profound impact of true validation.

Validation is more than just listening or feeling empathy; it is a communication skill that must be mastered to truly convey understanding and acceptance. Dr. Fleck reveals why this essential skill is typically only taught in advanced doctoral psychology programs (Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT) and how you can apply it to your everyday life to build stronger bonds and reduce conflict.

Key Takeaways You'll Learn:

  • The crucial difference between "problem-solving" and "validation" in real-life scenarios, especially with children.

  • The six levels of validation (the "validation ladder") and how to use them to instantly improve your communication.

  • Practical strategies for managing intense emotions and conflict using DBT's TIP skills (Temperature, Intense Exercise, Paced Breathing).

  • The power of a genuine apology, even as a parent, to model the behavior you want your kids to learn.

  • How to disclose your own experience to connect without overshadowing the other person's pain (the "flip it back" technique).

    Don't miss these evidence-based strategies for better communication and personal transformation!

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    • On Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/carolinefleckphd 
    • Caroline’s Website - https://drcarolinefleck.com/ 
    • Order Caroline’s Book - https://www.amazon.com/Validation-Revolutionized-Psychology-Transform-Relationships/dp/0593541219 
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