Whether you've experienced a colleague who blames every mistake on someone else, work for a boss who can't take feedback, or you've caught yourself taking things too personally, this episode provides practical tools for breaking free from victim mindsets without denying real challenges. Renowned psychologist Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman joins Melody to discuss how our mindset expands or limits our options. 

You’ll discover: 

• How to snap yourself out of a victim mindset with a simple word swap
• The uncomfortable truth that "people just don't care about you" – and why that's actually liberating for your career growth
• Surprising ways to manage your emotions at work when you start getting angry, indignant, or personalizing situations
• The controversial connection between high sensitivity and narcissism

About Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman 

Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D., is a cognitive psychologist who is among the top one percent most cited scientists in the world for his groundbreaking research on intelligence, creativity, and human potential. He is the host of The Psychology Podcast, which has received more than 30 million downloads and is frequently ranked the #1 psychology podcast in the world. Dr. Kaufman’s writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Scientific American, Psychology Today, and Harvard Business Review, and he is the author of ten previous books, including Transcend, Wired to Create, and Ungifted. https://scottbarrykaufman.com/ 

May 6, 2025 MC

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