Growing up, I got a firsthand taste of the two contrasting flavors of boundaries.

On one side, there were those who let boundaries be loosey-goosey, while on the flip side, I encountered folks who constructed walls so formidable it felt like you needed a passcode to get through.

As we journey into emotional adulthood, a pivotal step is realizing when it's time to embrace the art of healthy boundaries. 

Get this right, and those relationships that once hung by a thread can bloom into something spectacular.

But hey, shifting gears towards boundary-setting can feel like jumping into the deep end without knowing how to swim. I get it.

That's why I'm here to unveil that elusive middle step you need to consider on your boundary-establishing mission.

It's not just about slapping labels on your limits and throwing them into conversations like confetti. There's an intermediate phase, a point where you embrace these limits in your core.

What's more, I’ll guide you through the four pesky boundary myths that you absolutely need to debunk. Think of it as untangling the web of misconceptions, paving the way to healthier, more fulfilling connections.

What I mention in this episode:

• The reason why many parents have very strict boundaries
• The middle step when setting up a boundary 
• The “head, shoulders, knees, and toes” rule  

What you'll learn from it:

• The four myths that prevent you from setting up boundaries   
• How to establish boundaries at the right time
• How to discover if YOU are a boundary violator 
• How to be in charge of respecting your own boundaries

I hope this episode helps you identify if you’re indulging in one of these myths and how to apply the antidotes to each of them. 

Until next time, Kavetha

PS- Boundaries are not needs. If you still conflate both, I have a program that specifically teaches you how to identify boundaries and needs. 

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In this 8-week program, you will get the HYR™ Framework and Tools and weekly calls with certified coaches privately and in a group environment with other women. 

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In This Episode:

00:00 Welcome back to another episode of Emotional Mastery

01:06 I have struggled a lot with boundaries   

01:55 My experiences with boundaries growing up

03:19 What happens when you have “goosey-loosey” boundaries?  

03:55 What happens when you have rigid boundaries? 

05:00 How to act when realizing you need help with boundaries  

07:13 The four boundary myths  

08:12 Myth number one 

12:51 Myth number two  

18:46 Myth number three 

20:11 Difference between boundaries and needs 

22:47 More about myth number three

26:23  Myth number four 

29:15  Examples of boundaries with family  

35:31  Summary of the episode 

37:13 An exercise for you

40:15 Antidotes to each myth 

Resources mentioned:

- Join the free live challenge on boundaries - https://bit.ly/BoundariesChallenge

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