Being the “other person” in an affair is complicated, to say the least. You fell in love with an amazing person, but are now stuck waiting for them to leave their long-term partner. With such difficult emotions at play, how can you choose the best path forward?

According to Dr. Marie Murphy, it’s easy to obsess over your partner’s decisions when you’re the “other person” in an affair. However, it’s important to remember that you have ultimate control over your life — and the decisions you make in your relationship. While you may not be able to change when or if your partner leaves their other relationship, Dr. Murphy has some strategies for owning your power, embracing uncertainty, and choosing the option that is best for you.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the emotional rollercoaster of waiting for your affair partner to leave their marriage or long-term relationship. She talks about how relationships can survive the affair bubble, the challenge of waiting for your partner to make a decision, and her advice for choosing the best path forward. Stay tuned.