Do you feel stuck in a loop of self-loathing? Are there moments in your past that you feel helpless to change, so you end up re-playing them over and over again in your head?

According to Dr. Marie Murphy, it’s important to stop blaming and shaming yourself and start releasing your own pain. While forgiving yourself doesn’t mean getting a free pass to abdicate any kind of responsibility, you can shift your focus to the more positive contributions that you want to make. This way, your past mistakes can become mileposts of learning, not events to watch on repeat.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the important process of forgiving yourself. Listen in as Dr. Murphy talks about why dwelling on the past won’t change anything, how to stop unconsciously inflicting pain on others, and the difference between striving to live by your ideals and perfectionism. Stay tuned for more.