The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

50. Part One: Do they really have a personality disorder? ...Why it's time to stop calling abusers "narcissists"


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What happens when we hastily label our abusive ex-partners as narcissists? Join me, specialist Australian Separation & Divorce Coach Danielle Black, as I explore the critical differences between narcissistic traits and true personality disorders in abusive relationships.
We'll uncover the fact that most abusive male behaviours stem from perceived male entitlement  rather than clinical disorders, and how this understanding can change the way you navigate your own experiences. 
By delving into concepts like male entitlement, and assessing whether problematic or harmful behaviours are consistent across various relationships, you'll gain a clearer perspective on your situation and avoid the pitfalls of mislabeling.

Co-parenting with a potentially "narcissistic" ex, especially when trauma is involved, presents a unique set of challenges. In this episode, we'll look at how trauma and PTSD can sometimes mimic narcissistic behaviours and why it's crucial to distinguish between trauma-driven actions and those stemming from male entitlement and/or personality disorders. 
You'll also learn that generic strategies marketed towards "divorcing a narcissist", like grey rock communication, may not be effective and may even harm your case. We’ll also dissect the long-term patterns associated with personality disorders, helping you recognise key traits and behaviours that differentiate them from non-disordered abusive partners.   

I'm a specialist Separation, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach based in Melbourne, Australia.

I support women to strategically navigate ongoing control and other forms of abuse after separation, and to optimise their outcome for themselves and their children.

Part of my specialist coaching includes helping women to optimise their court outcomes, particularly parenting arrangements. If you are navigating the court system with a controlling former partner, or suspect that you might in the future, I can help.


To learn more about what I do, and how to work with me, visit:
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au

For more information about post-separation abuse: https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/thank-you

For more information about separation planning (including a checklist):
https://www.danielleblackcoaching.com.au/separationplanning


Follow me on Instagram: @danielleblackcoaching

MORE SUPPORT (within Australia):

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

Lifeline: 13 11 14

13 YARN on 13 92 76 (24/7 crisis support phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples)

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