Podcast #560

 

NEGATIVITY AND SADNESS: HOW TO NOT LET THEM OVERWHELM YOU

In this episode we explore the balance between confidence, happiness, and the reality of experiencing negativity and sadness. When you give yourself permission to feel the full range of human emotions, your emotional fitness increases and your ability to take action in life when you're feeling down becomes more natural. This episode is for anyone who wants to live a positive life and make a positive impact; you'll learn how to not be discouraged by the negativity and setbacks you experience along the journey of purpose and impact.  

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:

* Staying confident and happy while also feeling negativity and sadness 

* A new approach to feeling your emotions and effectively talking to them

* What not to do when you're sad and overwhelmed or in a season of struggle

REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 

THE PROCESS OF FEELING YOUR EMOTIONS

All your feelings.

Learn to understand them.

Make friends with them.

Normalize and neutralize.

5N Process for Feeling:

Notice (awareness and curiosity)

Narrate (talk as if you were it and then talk to it)

Normalize (this is part of being human, let it make sense)

Neutralize (expand your perspective and reframe)

Next (decide what new emotion you want to start to generate or the new path forward)

The more you are willing to feel, the more you can achieve in life.

I held myself back (unknowingly) because I was afraid of feeling-disappointed

-discouraged

-embarrassed

-judged 

-bored

SADNESS

It's okay to feel this sometimes. 

Learn to not run from it - to avoid or numb or buffer it.

Be curious.Know your triggers, energy patterns and hormonal patterns

NEGATIVITY

Seasons of negativity - when everything feels like it's going wrong.

I notice this in myself when I struggle to reframe, when my brain offers cynicism, when I feel like giving up, when I snap at my husband or when I'm impatient with my children. Don't judge this - open to it. 

If you keep thinking things are going to be hard, they will be.

-Am I making this harder than it seems?

-How is today easy in some ways and hard in others?

(I notice I get fixated on how far something is when I feel like my day is hard or that it's going to be hard - I then start to feel sorry for myself; know where your negativity voice stems from -- mine comes from a victim mentality / it shouldn't be this hard / it's not fair) 

Question and get curious:

-Am I managing my mindset?

-Have I allowed some of my habits of excellence to get sloppy?

-Where am I allowing negative influences in?

-How often am I proactively reframing my thoughts?

-Am I insisting on positivity and possibility in my life?

Emotional maturity and the ability to feel your feelings opens the gateways of life.

SPONSORSHIP

This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/CONFIDENCEPOD and get on your way to being your best self.”

Sometimes we're faced with a crossroads in life,