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#648: Being "Nice" Is Wrecking Your Confidence


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What’s the difference between being kind… and being nice?

If you’ve ever found yourself people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, or trying to “keep the peace” even when it costs you your authenticity—this episode is for you.

We’re talking about kindness versus niceness. Two words that sound similar, but are wildly different in how they impact your confidence, your boundaries, your relationships, and your self-respect.

If you’ve ever caught yourself over-apologizing, saying yes when you really mean no, avoiding conflict, or trying to keep everyone else happy—this episode is your invitation to pause and ask:

👉 Am I being kind… or am I just being nice?

Niceness often comes from fear—fear of rejection, fear of disappointing people, fear of not being liked.

But kindness—real kindness—is rooted in courage, clarity, and compassion.

 

Kindness might say no.

Kindness might speak up.

Kindness doesn’t always feel good in the moment, but it’s always rooted in truth and respect—for others and for yourself.

 

We’re going to talk about the difference, why “being nice” is often a confidence trap, how to detox from people-pleasing, and how to step into strong, gracious, authentic kindness—without losing your softness, your generosity, or your beautiful heart.

This episode is for the woman who’s done being walked on.

It’s for the woman who’s tired of playing small.

And it’s for the woman who knows there’s more to life than just being liked.

So grab a notebook, pour that second cup of coffee, and let’s shift some narratives together—because today, you’re going to start showing up in a new way… one rooted in confidence, courage, and kindness that actually transforms lives—starting with your own.

 

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