What do you want other people to believe about you? And, do these opinions stop you from pursuing your true desires? The concept of selfishness may feel inherently bad — but does it need to be?

According to Dr. Marie Murphy, in order to achieve what you really want from your relationship, you have to examine the definition of selfishness in your own life. Many people struggle with the idea of seeming selfish and instead choose to avoid their honest wants and needs. That’s where Dr. Murphy comes in. She has techniques to help you reframe what is deemed “selfish” versus “selfless.” With this clarity, you can prioritize your needs, take control of your decisions, and improve your relationships.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the complicated relationship many people have with the word “selfish.” Dr. Murphy explores the various definitions of selfishness, the importance of honoring your own desires, and the ways selfishness can be harmful or helpful to your relationships.