If you’ve ever felt like you’re juggling every detail while everyone else just lives their life, you’re not alone. The mental load is real, and so is the frustration of carrying it all.

In Part Two, we’re unpacking why so many ADHD mums stop speaking up about the mental load - even when it’s pushing us to burnout. Maybe you’ve tried before and been met with defensiveness, guilt, or the feeling that it’s just easier to do it yourself. But what if the way you bring it up could actually lead to change?

Want to go deeper? This episode’s companion kit gives you practical strategies, conversation guides, and small shifts to help you redistribute the mental load - without burnout, conflict, or micromanaging. Also includes full transcript of this episode. Click here to get the kit.

In This Episode: 

• Why it feels impossible to shift the mental load (and how to stop getting stuck in that cycle)
• How societal expectations make us feel like it’s “just part of being a mum”
• Why resentment builds and how to prevent burnout before it happens
• The role of gender norms, guilt, and internalised pressure in keeping us silent
• Simple, low-energy conversation shifts that can help you get the support you need

Relatable? Overwhelming? Exhausting? You’re not alone. This episode is your reminder that carrying the mental load doesn’t mean you should carry it alone.

Resources & Links:

Listen to Part 1 Episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

ADHD Planner & Values Workbook

Miniseries Ep 5 on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

58. What Your Partner Needs You to Know on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

PDA episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

PMDD episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

People Pleasing episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

Perimenopause & PMDD episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

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TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EP:

ADHD mums, mental load, invisible labour, gendered mental load, emotional burnout, overwhelm, ADHD and relationships, communication struggles, advocacy fatigue, resentment in parenting, asking for help, sharing responsibilities, household balance, partnership struggles, why mums do everything, feeling unheard, defensiveness in relationships, avoiding conflict, burnout prevention, guilt of asking for help, internalised pressure, emotional labour, why ADHD mums are exhausted, breaking the cycle, shifting the mental load, reducing resentment, practical strategies for ADHD mums, low-effort solutions, ADHD and motherhood, neurodivergent partnerships, unspoken expectations, small changes for big impact.

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ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums

Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it.

ADHD Planner

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