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#784: Dr. Becky Kennedy — Parenting Strategies for Raising Resilient Kids, Plus Word-for-Word Scripts for Repairing Relationships, Setting Boundaries, and More
Dr. Becky Kennedy is the founder and CEO of Good Inside, a parenting movement that overturns a lot of conventional, modern parenting practices to empower parents to become sturdy, confident leaders and raise sturdy, confident kids. She is the author of the bestselling book Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, a chart-topping podcast, a TED talk with nearly 4 million views on the power of repair, and an upcoming children’s book, That’s My Truck! A Good Inside Story About Hitting.
Sponsors:
GiveWell.org charity research and effective giving: https://givewell.org (If you’ve never used GiveWell to donate, you can have your donation matched up to one hundred dollars before the end of the year or as long as matching funds last. To claim your match, go to https://givewell.org and pick PODCAST and enter The Tim Ferriss Show at checkout.)
AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)
Wealthfront high-yield cash account: https://Wealthfront.com/Tim (Start earning 4.00% APY on your short-term cash until you’re ready to invest. And when new clients open an account today, you can get an extra fifty-dollar bonus with a deposit of five hundred dollars or more.) Terms apply. Tim Ferriss receives cash compensation from Wealthfront Brokerage, LLC for advertising and holds a non-controlling equity interest in the corporate parent of Wealthfront Brokerage. See full disclosures here.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Who is Dr. Becky Kennedy?
[06:49] The power of repair.
[09:44] “It’s never your fault when I yell at you.”
[13:49] What does it mean to be a “good” parent?
[15:26] Activating curiosity over judgment.
[18:27] Alternatives to saying “Good job” as a confidence builder.
[23:16] Making kids happy vs. building capability.
[26:44] A pilot metaphor for sturdy leadership.
[31:56] Role confusion.
[34:30] Defining boundaries.
[38:44] How parenting becomes a two-way mirror for growth.
[43:46] The MGI (Most Generous Interpretation) approach.
[46:29] Biggest challenges in parenting.
[50:29] Recommended reading for someone with kids in their life.
[55:49] Advisable prerequisites for singles who aim to build a family.
[59:55] Setting boundaries with grandparents and dealing with different parenting styles.
[01:05:18] Handling frustration when a child is pushing your buttons.
[01:13:35] Lessons learned from working with eating disorders.
[01:17:03] Managing troublemaker behavior.
[01:21:14] Bad influence intervention.
[01:26:28] Cultivating resilience in “deeply feeling” kids (DFKs).
[01:32:35] The trials and errors that birthed Good Inside.
[01:36:30] “Our words are not our wishes. Our words are our fears.”
[01:43:44] Billboard messages and mantras.
[01:51:37] Fan-favorite scripts on saying no, boundaries, and repair.
[01:54:52] The tennis court metaphor for boundaries.
[01:59:22] Resources and parting thoughts.
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For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.
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Dr. Becky Kennedy is the founder and CEO of Good Inside, a parenting movement that overturns a lot of conventional, modern parenting practices to empower parents to become sturdy, confident leaders and raise sturdy, confident kids. She is the author of the bestselling book Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, a chart-topping podcast, a TED talk with nearly 4 million views on the power of repair, and an upcoming children’s book, That’s My Truck! A Good Inside Story About Hitting.
Sponsors:
GiveWell.org charity research and effective giving: https://givewell.org (If you’ve never used GiveWell to donate, you can have your donation matched up to one hundred dollars before the end of the year or as long as matching funds last. To claim your match, go to https://givewell.org and pick PODCAST and enter The Tim Ferriss Show at checkout.)
AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://DrinkAG1.com/Tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)
Wealthfront high-yield cash account: https://Wealthfront.com/Tim (Start earning 4.00% APY on your short-term cash until you’re ready to invest. And when new clients open an account today, you can get an extra fifty-dollar bonus with a deposit of five hundred dollars or more.) Terms apply. Tim Ferriss receives cash compensation from Wealthfront Brokerage, LLC for advertising and holds a non-controlling equity interest in the corporate parent of Wealthfront Brokerage. See full disclosures here.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Who is Dr. Becky Kennedy?
[06:49] The power of repair.
[09:44] “It’s never your fault when I yell at you.”
[13:49] What does it mean to be a “good” parent?
[15:26] Activating curiosity over judgment.
[18:27] Alternatives to saying “Good job” as a confidence builder.
[23:16] Making kids happy vs. building capability.
[26:44] A pilot metaphor for sturdy leadership.
[31:56] Role confusion.
[34:30] Defining boundaries.
[38:44] How parenting becomes a two-way mirror for growth.
[43:46] The MGI (Most Generous Interpretation) approach.
[46:29] Biggest challenges in parenting.
[50:29] Recommended reading for someone with kids in their life.
[55:49] Advisable prerequisites for singles who aim to build a family.
[59:55] Setting boundaries with grandparents and dealing with different parenting styles.
[01:05:18] Handling frustration when a child is pushing your buttons.
[01:13:35] Lessons learned from working with eating disorders.
[01:17:03] Managing troublemaker behavior.
[01:21:14] Bad influence intervention.
[01:26:28] Cultivating resilience in “deeply feeling” kids (DFKs).
[01:32:35] The trials and errors that birthed Good Inside.
[01:36:30] “Our words are not our wishes. Our words are our fears.”
[01:43:44] Billboard messages and mantras.
[01:51:37] Fan-favorite scripts on saying no, boundaries, and repair.
[01:54:52] The tennis court metaphor for boundaries.
[01:59:22] Resources and parting thoughts.
*
For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.
For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsors
Sign up for Tim’s email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.
For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.
Discover Tim’s books: tim.blog/books.
Follow Tim:
Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss
Instagram: instagram.com/timferriss
YouTube: youtube.com/timferriss
Facebook: facebook.com/timferriss
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferriss
Past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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