When you’ve formed a bond with your affair partner, it can be a grinding experience when that connection abruptly stops. So how can you overcome the pain of being ghosted?

Dr. Marie Murphy says you are responsible for your sense of satisfaction, and if you’re struggling to heal from the loss of a relationship, you will have to change your thinking. By thinking differently about your ghosting experience, you can lessen the intensity and reduce your pain in the future. According to Dr. Murphy, the first step is to accept what you are currently feeling — then you can start to write a new story.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about dealing with the painful emotions of being ghosted by your affair partner. Listen as Dr. Murphy discusses how to think differently about your experience to relieve your pain, why it’s reasonable to desire an explanation, and her personal experience with a severed relationship.