Conversations from the Heart

#95 - Stay in Your Lane: What’s Yours to Carry, And What Isn’t?


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Ever find yourself carrying someone else’s emotional backpack… and wondering why your shoulders hurt?

Today we unpack four real-life questions about emotional boundaries, relational burnout, and the art of letting go of what was never yours to hold. You’ll hear raw, relatable stories, from being exiled from a beloved community group, to walking away from a relationship where you were doing all the emotional heavy lifting, to healing a strained mother-daughter dynamic, and navigating triggering conversations around money.

If you’ve ever wondered:

  • “Am I responsible for fixing this?”
  • “How do I honor my limits without hurting someone else?”
  • “Why do I feel so hooked right now?”

…this episode offers guidance, clarity, and a whole lot of compassion.

You’ll learn:

  • Why fixing is disapproval
  • How to set a boundary without bracing for a fight
  • A script for naming recurring patterns without activating defensiveness
  • What to say when someone demands emotional labor you can’t give
  • Why your triggers might be invitations (not threats)

Come for the aha moments, stay for the soul-soothing reframes. This one’s a deep dive into the messy, brave work of staying rooted in yourself—especially when it would be easier to collapse, comply, or control.

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