A conflict bothers us, drains our energy, and makes us feel scattered and without focus.  

We cannot enjoy any moment when we are worrying about an argument. 

The reason behind this is that we are ruminating. We are not present. 

At the same time, how we think about the problem also worsens the relationship.

However, conflicts are not destructive.   

Shocking, right? 

If fact, if you are experiencing conflicts with your partner, this means that the relationship is alive. 

And, in truth, this is a good thing! 

Even though it's uncomfortable and there are push and pull scenarios, experiencing conflicts means you care. Moreover, it means you haven't shut down. 

In this week's episode of Emotional Mastery, I will first mention why we get stuck in the same patterns over and over again. 

Then, I will describe the two different ways of approaching conflict. Lastly, I will offer the first step to changing the tone of your relationship when engaging in arguments.  

Once you know how to use conflict to get closer to the other person, it becomes a game-changer for your whole relationship. 

So no more running away. Drop the resistance. You are ready. 

In This Episode:

01:30 Today we are going to talk about conflict     

02:38 People come to me when they are stuck in a specific situation

05:51 First mistake we make in conflict resolution

08:51 Second mistake we make in conflict resolution    

09:58 Conflict is easy to happen if there is distance in a relationship 

10:52 Finding a new path that doesn’t involve blaming the other person

11:49 Two different ways of approaching conflict 

14:35 Higher incidents that cause divorce 

16:41 We often end up with someone who manages problems differently  

17:17 Emotional needs that are not met when arguments take place

20:10 First thing to do if you want to change the tone of the relationship 

28:01 Takeaways for starting dealing with disputes in a different way 

30:56 Resources to keep working through these issues

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