This episode is a solo show, in which Diann shares her history of being told she is intimidating and what she made it mean. She now believes that if you're a female entrepreneur, whether you own a small business, a private practice, a brick and mortar retail store, a coaching empire, or a virtual consultancy, sooner or later, you will be told in one way, shape or form that you are intimidating.

The label might sound a little different and the feedback might be packaged as well-meaning advice, but whenever a woman goes her own way, instead of following conventional norms, feathers will be ruffled among the rest of the flock. It's a fact of life that most humans prefer to stick with the herd.

If you have ever been called intimidating, threatening, or told you are too intense, too passionate, too driven, or simply ‘too much’, and want to learn how you can avoid letting these labels hold you back, this episode is for you. 

Our Pod Praise (podcast review) this week:  

Be driven without driving yourself crazy!

“As a driven woman who sometimes takes a wrong turn, I appreciate Diann's ability to see through the fluff and distractions to get to the heart of the matter. Thanks, Diann”

Thank you for this review, SDPSDavis.  You made me laugh out loud!

Remember,  if you leave a review for The Driven Woman Podcast, Diann will read it on a future episode.   For Apple Podcasts,  click here: https://apple.co/2BZDFzc

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Mentioned in this episode:

Book: “Husbands Who Won’t Lead & Wives Who Won’t Follow” by James Walker (2000)  For the record, I do not recommend this book. 

This episode is brought to you by:

The Driven Woman Facebook Group

The place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman) 

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Work With Me

Are you ready to invest in making 2021 the year you get back into momentum & move the needle?  Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Diann to see if her signature 12-week private coaching program is right for you.  Create an ADHD-friendly business and life! https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation/

Our Podcast Praise review this week comes from JulesM98: 

“This podcast is NO BS!!! Having ADHD myself, I find myself searching for resources nonstop. Sometimes, I even get overwhelmed and don’t know where to start. I find myself continuing to come back to Diann’s podcasts because she keeps them short, informational, and NOT BORING! She gets the message across and right to the point for the ADHD overwhelmed brain. It always helps because she has been in mental health for a long time and she is an EXPERT at this, especially having ADHD herself, as she mentions. Thank you so much, keep the podcasts coming! You inspire me.”   

Thanks, Jules! 

Remember,  if you leave a review for The Driven Woman Podcast, Diann will read it on a future episode.   For Apple Podcasts,  click here: https://apple.co/2BZDFzc

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Did you notice that our podcast reviewer mentions the word “overwhelmed” TWICE?   That’s because women with ADHD often feel overwhelmed, and this year has been much more overwhelming than usual.  So, I decided to invite my new friend, Kate Moryoussef, who is an EFT Coach,  host of the Ambitious Mum Podcast, and a fellow entrepreneur with ADHD.  

Kate specializes in EFT / Emotional Freedom Technique. Also known as ‘tapping’,  EFT is a technique that facilitates healing and personal growth by combining cognitive reprogramming with stimulation of the same points on the energy meridians that are used in acupuncture and does so without the use of needles.

How to connect with Kate: 

Website: https://www.coachingbykate.me.uk/

Podcast: https://www.coachingbykate.me.uk/the-ambitious-mum-podcast

IG: https://www.instagram.com/coaching_by_kate_/

Email: [email protected]

SPECIAL GIFT: Kate created something awesome for listeners of The Driven Woman Podcast, her ADHD Wellbeing First Aid Kit.  Get your copy here: https://www.subscribepage.com/adhdwellbeingfirstaidkit 

Thinking about working with Diann?

Are you ready to invest in making 2021 the year you get back into momentum & move the needle?  Click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to see if my 12-week private coaching program is right for you. https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation/

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Do you often find yourself trapped in a situation where some recurring requests or favors are thrown at you and you just find it difficult to decline? If there's one of the many things that most people find extremely tough to deal with, it might be learning how to say "no." Wanna know why? Because admit it or not, people always feel the need to be liked, and accepting those requests is just one way to get the validation that we seek.

But it’s not just about that. According to author and happiness researcher, Gretchen Rubin in her book I often refer to the Four Tendencies, obligers do what is expected of them most of the time, but they often let themselves down by not doing what they expect of themselves. I guess you could call this people-pleasing behavior, but it's really just the underlying tendency to leverage others' expectations of us to motivate us, to get things done.

These facts and more on the consequences of being an obliger and the strategies on how you can improve your mindset and learning how to say "no" especially to the favors that make you feel uncomfortable, will all be addressed in this latest episode.

This week’s Pod Praise is from Heather Frechette-Crowley, a seasoned marketing professional and entrepreneur who had this to say about The Driven Woman:  

“Digestible, Actionable & Sassy! Love this podcast! Not only does it give me another way of looking at things (i.e., my life) but it's presented in a straightforward manner with a side of sass! Diann goes beyond acknowledging and provides real-life scenarios I can apply in my day-to-day.”

Connect with Heather on IG at https://www.instagram.com/root_mktg/

Her business is: https://www.rootmktg.com/

Thanks, Heather! 

Mentioned in this episode:

The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine, MD

If you have any connection to Dr. Brizendine, please give me a shout out.  I would LOVE to have her as a guest on The Driven Woman. 

The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin

I even made a special handout about The Four Tendencies just for listeners of The Driven Woman. It’s all yours in exchange for your email address.  Just click HERE.

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In this lively conversation with professional organizer, Barbara Trapp of Zen Your Den,  we discuss:

• How Barbara went from “not particularly organized” to a professional organizer 
• When the perfectionism - indecision - procrastination cycle leads to chronic disorganization, especially if you have ADHD 
• The designated workspace - strategies from Stephen King & Maya Angelou 
• Why disorganization is a better challenge for women (hint, gender conditioning…) 
• When it comes to organization - are you an Innie or an Outie? 
• Barbara’s rules for clearing clutter & getting organized:
• Start with the floor
• Top to bottom
• Clockwise 
• Define your scope
• Make it fun 
• Open the mail 
• 3 Magic Questions 
• Let there be lighting 
• Dealing with the feelings of letting things go, especially during transitions 
• How Barbara helped her mom ditch 60k emails almost instantly 
• Using a vision board to imagine what’s next 
• Barbara & Diann come clean about digital clutter 
• The killer tagline for Barbara’s business: “Non-judgmental help for busy and overwhelmed people” 

Ways to connect with Barbara: 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OrganizingwithBarbaraTrapp/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zenyourden/

Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbaratrapp/

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This week’s Pod Praise is from CanuckLiz who had this to say about The Driven Woman:  

“Are you talking about me? I just listened to the episode on memory and forgetfulness, and it felt like you were talking about me! I have struggled with my memory and concentration for years. I’ve blamed it on age, stress, being stupid, and even thought I might have early Alzheimer’s! My memory(or lack of it) has definitely held me back, and kept me playing small in some situations! Thank you for talking about it in this episode, and thank you for this podcast, I’ll be listening to them all!”

Thanks,  Canuck Liz! 

Had enough of this no-progress pandemic year?

Book a free consultation with me now, so we can get you moving forward again:

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This episode is brought to you by:

The Driven Woman Facebook Group

The place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life. >  https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman 

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When was the last time you remember being sincerely happy with what’s going on in your life? Most people have something they wanted to have or to be in their life, and also take what they do have for granted. Most of us are more focused on what we think of as unhappiness or misfortune than we are on luck and joy. 

Happiness may be vague and considered immeasurable by scientists, but what if I told you that there’s a way how you can live a peaceful and happy life without the stressors that are bugging you? Yes, that’s completely true. But don’t expect everything to be on your side because in reality, fantasizing about things doesn’t actually make us any happier or satisfied if we finally managed to get our hands on them.

Ready to dig deep and open your mind about the things that we need to accept, change, and/or improve in order to view the positive side of life?

This week’s Pod Praise is from Anika, an online brand strategist and solopreneur success coach, who had this to say about The Driven Woman:  

“I typically stream podcasts directly from my Echos in my home or from my home office - to my pleasure this morning while showering and washing my hair, I needed something a little more motivating but short so I said "Alexa, play the Driven Woman podcast" and the rest is history!! I love how short these episodes are, I don't feel like I have to commit a chunk of time of my day to get value. Very happy to find you, Diann.”

Connect with Anika on IG at https://www.instagram.com/businesschicceo/?hl=en

Her business is https://www.businesschicservices.com/ 

Thanks, Anika! 

Are you loving The Driven Woman Podcast, listening regularly, maybe even a subscriber who eagerly waits for Tuesday when the next episode is released? I'm thrilled that you're one of us!

But hey, maybe it's time we got to know each other better. You can visit my website at www.diannwingertcoaching.com/ and choose your own adventure by grabbing these free goodies:

The 6 Steps to ADHD Mastery
The Driven Woman Roadmap
The ADHD Strength Quiz

Or if you're really feeling it, all three!

If you wish to review and rate The Driven Woman Podcast, click HERE 

Remember, if you do, I will read it in a future episode! We will also link it to your biz!

This episode is brought to you by:

The Driven Woman Facebook Group

The place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  ( https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedrivenwoman)

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This episode is our first Client Success Story, featuring my client Jen DiNardi, OTD who has a doctorate in Occupational Therapy, and specializes in pediatrics. 

In this episode, we talk about:

• What is occupational therapy and what kinds of things she helps her patients with
• Why she pursued such a demanding academic goal (hint, it has something to do with proving something to herself…) 
• How Jen always knew she was different but was only diagnosed with ADHD in the last year of her doctoral program. 

During our work together, Jen gained some transformational insights about herself:

• How pretending she wasn’t struggling lead to a lifetime of anxiety, perfectionism, imposter complex, fear, and hiding. 
• She is highly sensitive and ignored this for years, causing her to feel strained and drained
• Jen was caught in the empathy trap and had trouble setting limits and boundaries at work, so she had no energy for a personal life 

And made some practical changes in her life that moved the needle:

• Habit stacking: Now she never forgets to take her meds
• Morning Routine:  She eliminated decision fatigue by exercising in the morning 
• Energy Management: What working virtually taught her about self-acceptance

Thank you, Jen DiNardi, OTD for sharing your story!  

Ways to connect with Dr. Jen, 

Website: https://www.jendinardi.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhd_and_empathy/

Email: [email protected]

Are you loving The Driven Woman Podcast, listening regularly, maybe even a subscriber who eagerly waits for Tuesday when the next episode is released? I'm thrilled that you're one of us!

Choose your own adventure by grabbing these free goodies:

The 6 Steps to ADHD Mastery

The Driven Woman Roadmap

The ADHD Strength Quiz

Or if you're really feeling it, all three!

Had enough of this no-progress pandemic year?

Book a free consultation with me now, so we can get you moving forward again:

https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation

Special thanks to: 

Natasha R from Sweden for your amazing review! We are so happy you are enjoying The Driven Woman and hope you share it with a friend.

If you wish to review and rate The Driven Woman Podcast, click HERE 

Remember, if you do, I will read it in a future episode! We will also link it to your biz! 

This episode is brought to you by:

The place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life. > The Driven Woman Facebook Group

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How do you feel and what do you do when someone you care about tells you that your plans and goals won’t work or points out what they least like about you? We have heard so many people telling us to not care about what others think, but is that even possible?

They say we should not care about what they think about us, our business, our marketing, our message, our price point. We also hear that we shouldn't pay attention to what our competitors do or listen to negative reviews.

Is it possible to absolutely not care about other people's opinions or what others are doing? I don’t think so. I don't think it's realistic to expect ourselves to have no amount of reactivity when our behavior triggers a reaction in someone that we perceive as judgment or criticism. 

What should we do when we feel rejected or hurt by the opinion of others?

Are you loving The Driven Woman Podcast, listening regularly, maybe even a subscriber who eagerly waits for Tuesday when the next episode is released? I'm thrilled that you're one of us!

But hey, maybe it's time we got to know each other better. You can visit my website at www.diannwingertcoaching.com/ and choose your own adventure by grabbing these free goodies:

The 6 Steps to ADHD Mastery

The Driven Woman Roadmap

The ADHD Strength Quiz

Or if you're really feeling it, all three!

Had enough of this no-progress pandemic year?

Book a free consultation with me now, so we can get you moving forward again:

https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation

Special thanks to: 

Gwendalyn for your amazing review!  We are so happy you are enjoying The Driven Woman and hope you share it with a friend.

If you wish to review and rate The Driven Woman Podcast, click HERE 

Remember, if you do, I will read it in a future episode! We will also link it to your biz!

This episode is brought to you by:

The Driven Woman Facebook Group

The place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life  (https://facebook.com/diannwingertcoaching)

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Many entrepreneurs are not getting enough sleep.  This is partly due to the hustle culture of entrepreneurship and partly because they tend to bootstrap their business, even when they can afford to hire or outsource.  I work with female entrepreneurs who identify with ADHD traits, and I can say with full confidence that very few of them are getting the kind of sleep that they know they should (and wish they could.) 

Since this is our first guest expert interview, I wanted it to be special and deliver value.  I connected with sleep psychologist Yishan Xu, Ph.D., a Stanford-trained expert in behavioral sleep psychology,  host of two podcasts, Deep Into Sleep and  Ask Yishan,  a Mandarin language podcast. Dr. Xu also hosts a YouTube channel.  And, if that wasn’t enough, she’s a successful entrepreneur with a group practice in California that has more than 10 clinicians.

In this interview, we will be talking about how sleep is essential for entrepreneurs, how to get quality sleep, and the do’s and dont’s of sleeping (among others).  

Yishan and I will cover the following:

• Why she became a behavioral sleep specialist and sleep problems she treats
• Habits of adults with ADHD that contribute to sleep deficits 
• The statistics on sleep and mental clarity  (they're scary) 
• Why you should stop hitting the snooze button 
• The connection between sleep and weight 
• Caffeine and energy  (this one blew my mind!)
• The science and culture of napping  -Yishan & Diann share their personal beliefs and napping habits 

Recommendations:

Yishan talked about and uses Phillips Hue smart lighting in her home:

https://www.philips-hue.com/en-us

Are you loving The Driven Woman Podcast, listening regularly, maybe even a subscriber who eagerly waits for Tuesday when the next episode is released? I'm thrilled that you're one of us!

But hey, maybe it's time we got to know each other better. You can visit my website at www.diannwingertcoaching.com/ and choose your own adventure by grabbing these free goodies:

The 6 Steps to ADHD Mastery

The Driven Woman Roadmap

The ADHD Strength Quiz

Or if you're really feeling it, all three!

Had enough of this no-progress pandemic year?

Book a free consultation with me now, so we can get you moving forward again:

https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation

If you wish to review and rate The Driven Woman Podcast, click HERE 

Remember, if you do, I will read it in a future episode! We will also link it to your biz!

This episode is brought to you by:

The place to be for like-minded and like-brained women who want an ADHD friendly business and life. >  The Driven Woman Facebook Group

There are many who would like to become entrepreneurs but do not know where to start. Some might get discouraged because they think that they are not “born” to be one. I’m still not certain I believe that there's such a thing as an entrepreneurial personality type, but there are definitely traits that lend themselves well to self-employment.

Some may have learned these traits from their entrepreneurial parents, while others, who never thought that they’d be running their own business, learned it through experience. If you are thinking about becoming an entrepreneur, I will offer you my shortlist of the mindsets that you should make an effort to LEARN & those you need to UNLEARN in order to succeed as an entrepreneur.

If you are currently struggling in running your business, want to start your very first entrepreneurial journey, or simply want to better understand the traits of a successful entrepreneur, this episode is for you. And remember, it’s never too late to start your own business - I didn’t until I was in my 50s! 

Are you loving The Driven Woman Podcast, listening regularly, maybe even a subscriber who eagerly waits for Tuesday when the next episode is released? I'm thrilled that you're one of us!

But hey, maybe it's time we got to know each other better. You can visit my website at www.diannwingertcoaching.com/ and choose your own adventure by grabbing these free goodies:

The 6 Steps to ADHD Mastery

The Driven Woman Roadmap

The ADHD Strength Quiz

Or if you're really feeling it, all three!

Had enough of this no-progress pandemic year?

Book a free consultation with me now, so we can get you moving forward again:

https://calendly.com/diannwingert/free-consultation

Special thanks to: 

Jackie MacDougall,  host of the Forty Thrive podcast, for leaving a podcast review! You can check her website HERE. You can also visit her Facebook page HERE and her Instagram  HERE.

We also have an episode together where we talked about how to start over. You can listen to the episode by clicking this LINK. 

If you wish to review and rate The Driven Woman Podcast, click HERE 

Remember, if you do, I will read it in a future episode! We will also link it to your biz!

This episode is brought to you by:

The Driven Woman Facebook Group

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Do you procrastinate on doing things even though they are important? When we run a business, we need to do the boring yet important stuff, but sometimes we only do them when we “feel” like it or when we are running out of time. 

Doing important things at the last minute can give us feelings of guilt, shame, and regret.  How can we get ourselves to finish these mundane and repetitive tasks? 

In this episode, I will share 4 techniques that you can use in order to complete those important, but boring tasks.

Are you loving The Driven Woman Podcast, listening regularly, maybe even a subscriber who eagerly waits for Tuesday when the next episode is released? I'm thrilled that you're one of us!

Choose your own adventure by grabbing these free goodies:

The Four Tendencies Guide

Mastering Your Entrepreneurial ADHD

Show Up Like A Boss Private Podcast

What's Holding You Back? Quiz

Or if you're really feeling it, all three!

Had enough of this no-progress pandemic year?

Book a free consultation with me now, so we can get you moving forward again:

https://bit.ly/calendly-free-consultation

Special thanks to: 

Emily R. Rooney for leaving a podcast review!

If you wish to review and rate The Driven Woman Podcast, click HERE 

Remember, if you do, I will read it in a future episode! We will also link it to your biz! 

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