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224 | [Healing Series] I Will Not Abandon Myself

Janet Nordine, MS, LMFT, RPT-S is back to talk about adoptee self-worth. So many of us tell ourselves the story over and over of, "there must be something wrong with me because I wasn't worth keeping". Janet talks us through a new phrase we can say to ourselves, "I will not abandon myself when I need myself the most." This episode is for you if you've ever felt like you weren't enough. Let's show up for ourselves, sometimes that's all we've got!

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

223 | Tony Corsentino

We are honoured to introduce you to Tony Corsentino today! As a philosophy professor turned public librarian, Tony walks us through some of the best strategies he's used to challenge the traditional adoption narrative. He also teaches us the differences between privacy and secrecy and he shares the importance of adoptees listening to the stories of others who have experienced severance from their family of origin.

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

222 | Kara Bos

Kara Bos is one of the first adoptees to ever successfully win a paternity lawsuit in South Korea. Kara's biological father was compelled by the courts to take a DNA test confirming his genetic connection to Kara which in turn allowed her to be added to the family registry as his daughter. We talk about the difficulties of disenfranchised grief she experienced when he died only six months after her court victory. Kara also shares about how there is room for us to be thankful for our current lives and also freedom to search for our origins and grieve the past.

• Danish Korean Rights Group
• News article "Call for South Korea to investigate child adoptions to Denmark"
• Adapted Podcast
• Adapted Podcast - Kara's episode

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221 | Haley Does DNA Testing

In the final episode before our summer break, guest host Lisette Austin interviews Haley Radke! We are talking all about DNA testing: what made Haley finally take the plunge, which companies she chose to use, and about all the surprise feelings that came up. Haley also did this weird podcaster thing where she recorded her inner thoughts while spitting in the tubes… so we may have a few clips from that throughout the episode.

We'll see you back here in September, make sure you're following or subscribed to Adoptees On so we can connect with you again in the fall with brand new episodes!

• Cut Off Genes Podcast: https://cutoffgenes.libsyn.com
• Search Maven E165 of Adoptees On: https://www.adopteeson.com/listen/165
• The Globetrotter Lounge Podcast: Ep 61 | Mickela Mallozzi: Dance & DNA Travel
• My American Meltingpot Podcast: Ep 34 | DNA travel, adoption & multiracial identity
• Mentioned: episodes about Haley's story: Episode 13
• Mentioned: The Lost Family: How DNA Testing Is Upending Who We Are by Libby Copeland

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220 | Christina Romo

Today guest host Lisette Austin speaks with Christina Romo, creator of the blog called Diary of a Not-So-Angry Asian Adoptee. Christina shares about her career path in the adoption world and how she has finally found a position that she feels aligns with her personal work in adoptee advocacy. Lisette and Christina discuss the complexities that come with being close with adoptive parents and family while coming to grips with the trauma and loss that is part of adoption. Christina stresses the importance of remaining true to yourself while navigating the healing process.

• Diary of a Not-So-Angry Asian Adoptee: diaryofanotsoangryasianadoptee.com
• Harlow's Monkey: An Unapologetic Look at Transracial and Transnational Adoption by Dr. JaeRan Kim

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219 | The Flourish Experience

Today we are talking about The Flourish Experience. You're going to hear from multiple people who participated in a year-long group focused in on adoptee community through writing and sharing together weekly.

I hope what you hear is that connecting deeply with other adopted people is possible. So many of them share that by being vulnerable they've been able to be truly seen by their peers, and for some that's brought a measure of healing. There have been many different lessons learned through their year together, and I am honoured to get to share some of those with you today. For the majority of the show you're going to hear from Catie Samantha Peck, LMSW, and Michelle Hinton, with multiple other authors chiming in with their thoughts throughout. The members of the 2021 Flourish group hope this book will guide and inspire you to find your own Flourish Family.

• The Flourish Experience: www.theflourishexperience.com
• Art auction to support Saving Our Sisters (savingoursistersadoption.org)

• The Flourish Experience: www.theflourishexperience.com
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218 | Dr. Jenny Heijun Wills

We are honoured to have the brilliant Dr. Jenny Heijun Wills return to Adoptees On today. We talk about what reunion has looked like in the time since she's published her award-winning memoir, Older Sister. Not Necessarily Related., including the practical "how-tos" of maintaining a relationship with a family member that lives abroad and speaks a different language. Jenny also addresses what it feels like to be raised with Eurocentric beauty standards as a person of colour.

• Mentioned: https://this.org/2020/09/21/a-certain-swanness/
• Older Sister. Not Necessarily Related.: A Memoir by Jenny Heijun Wills
• Adoption and Multiculturalism: Europe, the Americas, and the Pacific Editors: Jenny Heijun Wills, Tobias Hübinette, and Indigo Willing
• Probably Ruby by Lisa Bird-Wilson
• The Jade Peony by Wayson Choy
• All That Matters by Wayson Choy

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217 | Lisa Bird-Wilson

I am thrilled to introduce you to today's guest, Lisa Bird-Wilson, the author of the phenomenal novel, Probably Ruby. We talk about what it means to be Indigenous and adopted into a white family and how she has now spent decades exploring her Metis identity. Lisa shares some behind-the-scenes info about the process of writing Probably Ruby, why she's currently writing a memoir, and the importance of having that history preserved for her children.

During this interview, there were some challenges with sound, and unfortunately, I was distracted by my ailing dog and didn't do my best work. I apologize to Lisa that I didn't catch some poor audio quality moments that I normally would have caught during recording.

• Probably Ruby by Lisa Bird-Wilson
• Just Pretending by Lisa Bird-Wilson
• The Red Files by Lisa Bird-Wilson
• The Sixties Scoop Foundation: www.nationalhealingfoundation.com

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216 | Annalisa Toccara

Today guest host Lisette Austin speaks with Annalisa Toccara, the co-founder of the UK organization, Adoptee Futures. Annalisa shares about the complexities of her relationship with her adoptive family, and her experience coming "out of the fog." Lisette and Annalisa also discuss grief and loss, they've both lost an adoptive parent within the last year or two. Annalisa talks about the loss of her adoptive mother in 2021, what the grieving process has been like, and the profound gifts at the core of the journey.

• Healing After Loss by Martha Hickman
• The Joy of Being Selfish: Why you need boundaries and how to set them by Michelle Elman

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