This episode is part of The Anatomy of Divorce segment, I unpack one of the most overlooked skills in separation - perspective.

When life turns upside down after divorce, your brain goes into survival mode. You loop old arguments, replay stories, and grip tightly to being understood. But sometimes the shift you need most isn't fixing them - it's seeing them differently.

I share how understanding your biology, practising perspective-taking, and embracing Mel Robbins' Let Them Theory can help you calm your nervous system, make clearer decisions, and protect your peace.

You'll also learn my six-step Perspective Check, a simple, science-backed tool to help you step out of reactivity and back into clarity.

This is an episode for anyone who's ready to stop explaining, start exhaling, and find real freedom after divorce.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why your brain goes into survival mode after separation;

• How looping thoughts keep you trapped in pain;

• The psychology of perspective taking and how it helps regulate emotions;

• A six-step framework to widen your lens without losing your boundaries;

• The 90-second de-flare technique for calmer communication;

• What the Let Them Theory can teach us about emotional release and self-preservation;

• The difference between letting go and giving up;

• Why peace comes from perception, not permission.

Resources:

Mel Robbins

1800 RESPECT

Beyond Blue

Blue Knot Foundation

Lifeline

Headspace

Friendline

Relationships Australia

Kids Helpline

Mens Line Australia

Lysn

Mindspot

QLife

Panda

Sane

Suicide Call Back Service

Open Arms

White Ribbon Australia

Amica

Reach Out

Gidget Foundation

Black Dog Institute

Link 2 Home Homelessness

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Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Disclaimer

I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.