Are you ready to start dating again? Dating after narcissistic abuse is hard! When you get a divorce or move on to a new relationship after a narcissistic one, it makes dating a completely different experience.
When your ex is a narcissist, it's a whole other ball of wax. See the Deal Breakers: Healing & Dating Safely After Narcissistic Relationships - Truth, Not the Illusion
When it comes to relationships, we are all guilty of seeing only what we want to see - at least to a certain degree.
And more often than not, when it comes to a toxic narcissist, it will become impossible to ignore the warning signs because the abuse will most likely just get worse over time - though, you might actually not realize it at first.
4 Early-Warning Signs You're Dating a Narcissist
Here are a few things you should watch out for when you first start dating someone. They aren't all signs of abuse necessarily - they are warning signs of someone who has some pretty significant feelings of insecurity which often leads to abuse:
1. Watch for signs that your date likes to be in control. A little bit of control is no problem but if you're out with a man who has to order for you, or otherwise take away your voice, you should be concerned.
2. How does your date treat people around them? A nice person will be nice to everyone, even the waiter who screwed up their order. If your date flies off the handle over little things you should probably take a step back.
3. Does your date make eye contact with you or are they always looking around the room? Not being able to look you in the eye is not a great sign. It could mean that they are shy, but it could also mean (if coupled with other things) that they are bored, insensitive, or scoping out other people, none of which is a good sign if you are on a first or second date.
4. If your date can't laugh at themselves, it's yet another sign of someone who is insecure. Look, no one likes to look foolish or be laughed at. It takes a person who is very comfortable in their own skin to accept this type of situation gracefully, but if your date just seems to go over the top then they may have not only self esteem issues but anger management issues as well... that's a bad combination.
In order to avoid getting into an abusive dating situation, forget about the idea of putting your dates on a pedestal. Try to see them for who they really are, flaws and all. That way you'll be less likely to be taken off guard.
And hey, if the two of you do hit it off, you'll know that you love who they really are and not just who you want them to be. '
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