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In today's episode of Go Ask Angie, I'm answering a question related to who narcissists are attracted to - and why.

YouTuber Iris Simons asked:

"can you please do a video on what kind of people do narcissists go after and why?"

So why do we keep finding ourselves in these kinds of relationships and what can we do to avoid this in the future?

I have a few theories, and I'm going to share them with you here - plus, three big reasons you might be the ideal "narcissist bait."

In the Go Ask Angie series, I respond "off the cuff" to questions, comments and concerns sent to me by my YouTube viewers, readers from my QueenBeeing.com site and those who reach out in other ways, such as by email.

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In today's episode, I'm answering some big questions about narcissistic abuse and narcissistic abuse recovery, including topics such as the silent treatment, narcissistic rage, covert narcissism and more.

YouTuber masonofficesupply asked the following questions:

1. Angie, my narc will go into that humorous rage game when I would say a positive thing about him. He would say "I'm not a great guy. I think you know that!" Does that classify him as a covert narcissist?

2. Angie, with the silent treatment, should I simply let him make the first move of contacting me? I'm thinking once he reaches out to me, I should talk briefly without showing any annoyance of his behavior. Right?

3. Hi Angie, I came across your video on narcissism and I like the way you are on point with the personality of a narc. Currently, I went back to my narc and it's a result of all my family members (siblings and parents) are narcs. All of my friends who have met my family say "I am nothing like my siblings." With that said, my reason for reconnecting to my narc is he's the only person that I have who helps me (during a moment of crisis). However, I know his helping is motivated by getting back with me. Ok, here's where I feel our dysfunctional relationship is odd; he admits to being crazy making as well as I am too good for him. Furthermore, we talk about our fear of being close to anyone. Angie, the moment I experience intimacy with him, immediately I want to up and leave. Something happens inside me and I can't wait to leave him. This is not only with him but I feel this way with any of love interest. In my case, I think it's my narc's cycle of separating from me provides relief. I don't know can you or any of the commenters understand this conflict with myself. I am aware that my fear is the reality of actually finding someone who wants a commitment. Anyone that makes me feel loosing freedom, I want to get away fast. I don't even know is it possible for me to rid this problem. I think this is my reason for being back with my narc. I feel like we have a friendship of being able to put our challenges on the table. However, I know he will discard me but help me out during a crisis. I don't know how to fix myself from fear of closeness.

In the Go Ask Angie series, I respond "off the cuff" to questions, comments and concerns sent to me by my YouTube viewers, readers from my QueenBeeing.com site and those who reach out in other ways, such as by email.

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Ever find yourself feeling like you might be going crazy? Especially when a narcissist is involved, you might find yourself feeling like you're losing it - but most likely, you're just being gaslighted and manipulated.

In this video, I'll share ten very telling points from researchers that offer incredible insight into the psyche of your everyday, average narcissist - and if you keep these in mind when you're dealing with one, you'll find yourself feeling much more in control of the situation.

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Narcissists are well known for their manipulation and gaslighting tactics. Narcissistic deflection, AKA The Blame Game, is one of the most insidious ways a narcissist can torture a victim.

The blame game - when a narcissist constantly deflects responsibility for his bad behavior and projects it right onto the nearest unwitting victim - often, his or her primary source of supply.

This puts you (as the primary supply) on constant alert, and you feel the mental and physical effects of always being in a state of stress. It affects your blood pressure, your neurological function and even your ability to eat and sleep. Other physical effects such as changes in weight and even generally falling ill more often have also been reported by victims.

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Are you, or were you, in a toxic relationship with a narcissist? If you are or were, take a moment and look at the following questions. In your mind, take a second to answer them as you go.

If you could say literally anything to your narcissist, what would it be? If you could say it without fear of repercussions and your narc would have no choice but to comprehend it - what would you say? What did/do you NOT say that you wish you had said?

I asked the members of my SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissism in relationships) group to tell me what they'd say if they could - and below, I've shared their answers. Some are kind of funny, but most will feel quite familiar on some level to anyone who is in, or who has been in a toxic relationship with a mentally or emotionally abusive narcissist.

In this video, I'll share all of their answers with you - and I'll bet you're a little shocked in the end.

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The Drug Addicted or Alcoholic Narcissist in Your Family

If you're dealing with a narcissist who is also an addict, you're likely under more pressure than most people - and there are plenty of good reasons for it. I'm going to give you a quick overview of what you can do to deal with a narcissist addict.

Researchers say that since most narcissists need to see instant results (and expect others to agree that they're fully recovered in an impossibly short amount of time), they rarely manage to actually do the steps necessary to recover - and doctors say this makes their prognosis for recovery very poor.

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The everyday average person can't imagine what it's like to experience a smear campaign at the hands of someone they love - and that's because, in general, people who love you would never consider such behavior.

But narcissists are different - they are far more likely to engage in manipulative behavior - and for one simple reason: they will do literally anything to get what they want - and that includes maliciously lying or spreading rumors or exaggerations about you.

So, what is a smear campaign?

If you look up "smear campaign" in the dictionary, you'll find that the political version of the term matches up with the narcissistic one: "a deliberate attack on somebody, by spreading an untrue and unpleasant rumor about them, or by making an accusation intended to damage their reputation."

In this video, I'll define smear campaigns as they apply to narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, and I'll tell you why narcissists use them and how they use them. Plus, I'll tell you the only two ways you can deal with this kind of abuse and manipulation

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Adoption Story Updates! Marilyn Monroe's Second Cousin Updates! Our upcoming TV appearance updates, and more. \

SUPER exciting stuff! Here's the latest update on my husband, who is the second cousin of Marilyn Monroe (thanks to Ancestry.com, we know this), and on his impossible adoption search - plus, the latest in our exciting adventure that's coming up this week - we're going to Hollywood, baby. Well, LA, anyway, and we're going to be in an Ancestry commercial. I'm sharing what I know so far about the commercial as well as more details about Bill's birth and the mystery surrounding it. Get more info at http://atkinson.online.

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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach: Answering comments/questions about whether you might be a narcissist.

Today's post was inspired from comments from the following YouTubers:

Hillary said:

I honestly don't even know how to express my feelings about your list. In the last couple of days my wife has accused me of being a narcissist and has said that she is in a narcissistically abusive relationship and she has pointed me in the direction of mini videos. After watching a lot of them and watching this video here it has come to my attention and absolute amazement that she is in fact the narcissist and is putting all this on to me. the phrases the attitude the control, when I attempt to take control of certain things and she completely flipped out you're accusing me of doing all the things that she's doing. I am honestly astonished right now and very very confused. I'm wondering if that is a common thing for the narcissist to accuse the other person of being a narcissist. is that a deflection technique?

Monica Listodos said:

Yes it is very common! It's called Projecting. She is projecting/mirroring her own self on you. Someone else must recognized and called her a narcissist, i really don't believe she would acknowledge herself being one unless someone called her attention to it. (Sorry to say but it could be a secret lover of hers) In my experience narcissist have every so called "personality disorders" that exist in the book. Psychiatry calls it personality disorders but i strongly believe these are just a normal/natural traits of being a narcissist.

In the Go Ask Angie series, I respond "off the cuff" to questions, comments and concerns sent to me by my YouTube viewers, readers from my QueenBeeing.com site and those who reach out in other ways, such as by email.

Learn more at http://queenbeeing.com. Get my books at http://booksangiewrote.com and pick up your free 5-day fear-busting email course (especially designed for narcissistic abuse survivors) at http://narcissismsupportcoach.com.

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Gaslighting is a manipulation technique toxic narcissists often employ to get what they want.

"Those who engage in gaslighting create a reaction -- whether it's anger, frustration, sadness -- in the person they are dealing with. Then, when that person reacts, the gaslighter makes them feel uncomfortable and insecure by behaving as if their feelings aren't rational or normal." ~Huffington Post

If you're going through active gaslighting attacks, this video is for you. I'll cover the three primary stages of gaslighting as they apply to the psychological term - and what they mean for you.

Knowledge is power, and understanding what you're dealing with can even the playing field when it comes to dealing with a narcissist.

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