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Xannie and her husband, Casey, answer your questions about BPD relationships while attempting the @FirstWeFeast hot ones challenge!
Terms from the episode:
DBT STOP Skill: a helpful tool from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) that helps you manage strong emotions. Using the STOP skill can help you stay in control when you feel overwhelmed. Here’s what it stands for:
- S: Stop what you are doing. Take a moment to pause.- T: Take a step back. This means to give yourself some space from the situation.
- O: Observe your feelings and thoughts. Notice what is happening inside you without judging it.
- P: Proceed mindfully. Think about what you want to do next and choose a calm response instead of reacting right away.
Splitting: Describes a way of thinking where people see things in black-and-white, or all good and all bad. For example, someone might think a friend is perfect one moment, but then feel that the same friend is terrible the next moment over a small mistake.
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Chapters:
00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:32 - Quirky traits
00:03:18 - Dealing with BPD when your partner can’t validate you
00:04:33 - How to respond to splitting
00:08:45 - Unstable identity in relationship
00:13:50 - Dealing with parentification
00:17:25 - How to recover from breaking points
00:21:36 - How to trust things will get better
00:25:29 - Finding the balance between accountability and compassion
00:28:06 - How to support the non-BPD partner
00:30:37 - Fine tuning the relationship
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Xannie and her husband, Casey, answer your questions about BPD relationships while attempting the @FirstWeFeast hot ones challenge!
Terms from the episode:
DBT STOP Skill: a helpful tool from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) that helps you manage strong emotions. Using the STOP skill can help you stay in control when you feel overwhelmed. Here’s what it stands for:
- S: Stop what you are doing. Take a moment to pause.- T: Take a step back. This means to give yourself some space from the situation.
- O: Observe your feelings and thoughts. Notice what is happening inside you without judging it.
- P: Proceed mindfully. Think about what you want to do next and choose a calm response instead of reacting right away.
Splitting: Describes a way of thinking where people see things in black-and-white, or all good and all bad. For example, someone might think a friend is perfect one moment, but then feel that the same friend is terrible the next moment over a small mistake.
________
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:32 - Quirky traits
00:03:18 - Dealing with BPD when your partner can’t validate you
00:04:33 - How to respond to splitting
00:08:45 - Unstable identity in relationship
00:13:50 - Dealing with parentification
00:17:25 - How to recover from breaking points
00:21:36 - How to trust things will get better
00:25:29 - Finding the balance between accountability and compassion
00:28:06 - How to support the non-BPD partner
00:30:37 - Fine tuning the relationship
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