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In this episode, Heather Shannon and Doc Yu Roc (Dr. Yulinda Rahman) explore the therapeutic use of BDSM, discussing how trauma is stored in the body and the importance of intersectionality in healing. They delve into the power dynamics present in everyday life and how understanding these can aid in personal growth. Doc Yu Roc shares insights on the Kink Professional Standards Alliance and the therapeutic potential of kink, emphasizing the need for intentionality and awareness in BDSM practices. Heather and Yulinda also discuss the importance of knowing and expressing your personal boundaries for feeling safe in your body and having positive kink experiences.

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Chapters

0:00 Intro

2:53 Therapeutic Use Of BDSM

6:03 Understanding Body Based Trauma

9:02 Reconnecting With The Body

12:00 Exploring Kink & Sensation

15:03 Therapeutic Benefits

18:02 Healing Through Touch And Sensation

21:54 Understanding Power Dynamics

25:22 The Importance Of Awareness In Power Dynamics

28:39 Exploring Intersectionality

31:59 A New Approach To Healing

38:56 Resources For Learning More

View the video version of this episode at https://youtu.be/avOmaFbntg0

BDSM, trauma, intersectionality, power dynamics, therapeutic kink, King Professional Standards Alliance, healing, intentionality, awareness, body-based trauma

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AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and host Heather Shannon speaks with Naturopathic Doctor Jordin Wiggins about the challenges faced by high achieving women in their intimate relationships. In particular, Jordin share how women's "supertraits" can lead to burnout and hinder their ability to connect emotionally. The discussion covers the importance of understanding emotional needs, setting boundaries, and recognizing coercive control in relationships. Jordin emphasizes the need for self-care and the prioritization of pleasure in both personal and sexual life, offering insights into how women can learn to receive and create fulfilling relationships.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to High Achieving Women and Pleasure

02:34 Understanding Burnout and the Pleasure Problem

05:27 Super Traits and Their Impact on Relationships

08:08 The Connection Between Childhood and Adult Relationships

10:43 Navigating Boundaries and Emotional Safety

13:27 The Role of Sensitivity and Empathy

16:05 The Importance of Emotional Needs in Relationships

18:42 The Messy Middle of Change

21:15 Learning to Receive and Shift Dynamics

23:37 Creating a Pleasure-Centered Life

31:44 Navigating Life's Pleasures and Challenges

33:38 The Cultural Disconnect from Pleasure

35:46 The Shift Towards a Pleasure-Centered Life

37:42 Understanding Power Dynamics in Relationships

39:55 The Impact of Coercive Control

45:54 Transforming Sexual Relationships

53:44 Finding Support and Resources

58:32 Embracing Change and Vulnerability

Check out the video version of this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/bWUnwluNffI

Keywords

pleasure, high achieving women, super traits, burnout, intimacy, relationships, emotional needs, coercive control, self-care, sexual health

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In this episode, Heather introduces Kristin Vyas, a sex and intimacy coach who has joined the Ask A Sex Therapist team. Kristen shares the top sex issues she sees with clients including erectile dysfunction, mismatched libidos and shame around kinks. Heather and Kristen discuss the impact of societal pressures on masculinity. They talk about the importance of open communication about kinks and desires, the role of anxiety in sexual performance, and the necessity of ongoing sex education. The conversation emphasizes the importance of viewing yourself and your partner as a whole person. Learn why curiosity and understanding in relationships can be your secret weapon to a great sex life and start redefining sexual experiences beyond traditional norms.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction of Kristin Vyas

01:00 Understanding Erectile Dysfunction

02:41 Redefining Pleasure and Connection

05:47 The Role of Anxiety in Sexual Performance

06:51 The Power of Thoughts in Sexual Experiences

09:18 The Impact of Adult Content on Sexual Expectations

11:56 The Importance of Ongoing Sex Education

15:28 Exploring Kinks and Shame

19:04 The Need for Acceptance in Kink

20:38 Common Kinks and Societal Pressures

23:02 The Pressure on Men in Sexual Relationships

26:11 Exploring Sexuality Beyond Labels

27:38 The Evolution of Sex Education

29:47 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

32:50 Understanding Boundaries and Safety

35:56 Navigating Kinks and Preferences

41:13 The Complexity of Desire

45:53 Rediscovering Core Desires

48:34 Curiosity and Empathy in Relationships

Keywords

erectile dysfunction, sex therapy, intimacy coaching, sexual health, kink, communication, consent, masculinity, sexual desire, sex education

Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon discusses ethical non-monogamy, addressing common fears, misconceptions, and the various forms it can take. She emphasizes the importance of timing, communication, and setting boundaries in non-monogamous relationships. The conversation also explores the emotional complexities involved, including jealousy and compersion, and how non-monogamy can serve as a means for individuals to explore their sexuality and identity.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy

02:38 Common Fears and Misconceptions

05:26 Understanding Different Types of Non-Monogamy

07:53 Timing and Relationship Readiness

10:46 Setting Boundaries and Parameters

13:31 Navigating Jealousy and Compersion

15:46 The Emotional Work of Non-Monogamy

18:38 Exploring Sexuality and Identity

21:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Keywords

ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, boundaries, compersion, relationship advice, sexuality, emotional work, communication

Tap into your sexual creativity and get past fear and repression. Embrace your darker fantasies without having to make them real!

Certified Sex Therapist & Host, Heather Shannon, interviews guest Bria Rose about her journey from working at Disney to becoming a successful author of dark, sexy fairy tales. She discusses the importance of exploring fantasies through fiction, and her personal journey towards sex positivity. Bria emphasizes the significance of communication in relationships and the need for sexual compatibility. She also shares insights on character creation, overcoming writer's block, and the role of inspiration in sexy writing. The conversation concludes with Bria's advice on navigating relationships and where to find her work.

Chapters

00:00 From Disney to Dark Fairy Tales

02:42 Exploring Morality in Storytelling

05:32 The Role of Fantasy in Healing

08:30 Sex Positivity and Personal Growth

10:30 Character Development in Dark Romance

13:20 Reimagining Classic Tales As Dark, Sexy Ones

16:14 Feminism and Modern Storytelling

21:53 Exploring Character Dynamics in Fiction

25:30 Generating Sexy Ideas and Finding Inspiration

28:25 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

34:10 Navigating Personal Growth and Relationship Dynamics

38:34 Creating Characters and Their Therapeutic Journeys

Keywords

Bria Rose, dark fairy tales, Disney fan fiction, storytelling, morality, erotic novels, sex positivity, character creation, relationships, communication, romance novels, romantasy, sexy books, dark sexual fantasies, sex and healing

Learn about Dr. Jack Morin's equation for sexual desire and how you can make that equation work more in your favor!

One of the most common things we all want in our sex lives is feeling wanted. And yet it can be elusive! Even when we have mutual physical attraction with our partner, it doesn't always spark sexual desire.

Listen in to learn why feeling wanted is important to us, how we feel affected when we don't feel desired and a few things we can do for our partner and for ourselves to turn up the volume on sexual desire.

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Keywords

belonging, connection, attraction, desire, specialness, relationships, emotional needs, human connection, self-worth, intimacy

This week on Ask A Sex Therapist, we explore how aligning with your authentic feminine energy can transform not only your confidence but your sex life. With the help of Inna Segal, an intuitive energy healer and award-winning author of The Secret Language Of Your Body, we break down how polarity builds sexual attraction, why balance within is magnetic, and how shifting your energy can reignite that spark in your relationship.

Check out the video version of this episode at https://youtu.be/V98D5jC5_Yo

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Learn more about Inna Segal's books and programs at: https://www.innasegal.com/

Chapters

0:00 - About the episode

1:37 - Inna Segal (guest)

9:21 - The importance of feminine energy

14:51 - The importance of sexuality related to age

20:36 - How to have a good sex life with your partner

24:44 - Color as a way to explore your feminine energy

32:16 - Teaching the feminine love

40:16 - Reconnecting with feminine energy after a breakup or divorce

51:21 - Ways to embrace the feminine

59: 18 - Healing with Inna's heart-based card deck

Keywords

creativity, self-discovery, societal expectations, personal growth, emotional expression, sex therapist, energy healer, intuitive healing, best selling author, award winning author, color therapy

Certified Sex Therapist answers questions about strap-ons for double penetration, managing mismatched sex drives, psychological erection issues, and the importance of emotional intimacy in relationships.

Heather provides insights and advice on how to navigate these personal challenges, emphasizing communication and mindfulness as key tools for improving sexual health and relationship satisfaction.

00:00 Listener Q&A Introduction

00:27 Exploring Double Penetration with Strap-Ons

05:07 Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives

12:36 Understanding Psychological Erection Issues

19:50 Reclaiming Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships

Heather Shannon, listener Q&A, double penetration, sex drives, sex questions, libido, erection issues, performance anxiety, emotional intimacy, improve communication, mindfulness, sex therapy, sex education, podcast, Ask A Sex Therapist

Stop feeling like roommates and start feeling like lovers again! Figure out how you fell into this rut and how to change up your patterns.

This solo episode gets into the themes of social dynamics, charisma, and embracing healthy obstacles as a good thing for sexual attraction.

Host and Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon discusses the importance of healthy boundaries, having your own thing going on and putting your best foot forward no matter how long you've been togehter.

She also explores the allure of open relationships, emphasizing the excitement that comes from seeing a partner embrace their sexuality and the dynamics of attraction involved.

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Watch the video version on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Bp9YZ4e6et4

Chapters

00:00 From Roommates to Lovers: Understanding the Shift

02:30 Creating Attraction: The Equation of Desire

10:05 Seeing Each Other as Sexual Beings

17:10 Solutions to Rekindle Passion

24:25 Creating Polarity and Space in Relationships

Takeaways

• Being social and charismatic can enhance personal interactions.
• Compliments can boost confidence and encourage social engagement.
• Flirting can be a playful exploration of attraction.
• Open relationships can provide new perspectives on partnership.
• Seeing a partner's sexuality can be a turn-on for some.
• The idea of attraction from others can enhance relationship dynamics.
• Embracing one's own sexuality is important for personal growth.
• Social interactions can lead to deeper connections.
• Understanding the nuances of attraction is key in relationships.
• Exploring boundaries in relationships can lead to fulfillment.

Keywords

social dynamics, charisma, open relationships, sexuality, flirting, compliments, partner attraction

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EPISODE SUMMARY

In this conversation, Shannon Curtis shares her profound journey of healing from sexual trauma, emphasizing the importance of reclaiming personal power, understanding shame, and fostering intimacy. She discusses her experiences with trauma, the role of forgiveness, and the significance of body awareness in healing. Shannon also highlights the need for curiosity in recognizing signs of trauma and the importance of connecting with nature. Through her work, she aims to empower others to find their authentic selves and heal from their past experiences.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Healing Sexual Trauma

02:00 Shannon's Personal Journey with Trauma

05:58 Understanding Shame and Its Impact

10:08 The Role of Forgiveness in Healing

12:16 Teaching the Next Generation

16:26 The Importance of Body Awareness

19:40 Healing Through Connection with Nature

22:32 The Power of Intuition in Healing

25:33 Finding Your Path to Healing

29:26 The Journey of Self-Discovery

33:41 Reclaiming Power in Relationships

38:22 Recognizing Signs of Trauma

42:58 The Importance of Curiosity in Healing

47:28 How to Work with Shannon Curtis

KEYWORDS

sexual trauma, healing, intimacy, forgiveness, body awareness, empowerment, personal growth, trauma signs, self-discovery, coaching