How much do our childhoods, and especially the quality of our first loving bonds, determine who we become and how we love.

A truly fascinating and delightful conversation about the science of attachment with a longtime Zen student, author of a phenomenal book Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment Bethany Saltman.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

• The Lost Daughter
• Strange Situation
• Becoming Attached by Robert Karen, Ph.D
• Bethany Saltman's wesbite
• Follow her on Instagram
• Ep. 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-Regulation with Mona Delahooke, PhD
• Ep. 267: The Power of Discord Dr. Ed Tronick and Claudia Gold, MD
• Ep. 260: Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel
• Ep. 189: What's Your Attachment Style? with Jenny Rosier, Ph.D
• Adult Attachment Interivew Protocol

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Unexpressed grief from the past may be one of the most overlooked public crises of our time. Says my guest, Hope Edelman today-who is a strong voice and influential figure in the bereavement field and her books have helped countless people, especially women, as she wrote about mother loss. And mother loss, doesn't necessarily mean loss by death. There is abandonment, separation, neglect…

Her new book is one of the most important books I've encountered one the topic. It's called The AfterGrief: Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Loss.

As the title suggests, adjusting to loss is a lifelong process but as you'll learn from this conversation-it doesn't have to be a lifelong struggle.

The AfterGrief is where we learn to live with a central paradox of bereavement: that a loss can recede in time and yet remain so exquisitely present.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPSIODE

• Ep. 307: How Mother Loss Shapes Who We Become
• Ep. 290. The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship

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Ellen Vora, MD a holistic psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher on understanding and overcoming the body's fear response. She takes a functional medicine approach to mental health—considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root. 

She differentiates between “true” and “false” anxiety. “False” doesn’t mean it’s not real or valid. It means it’s preventable. 

This “true anxiety” is a signal that something else is out of balance—in our lives, in our relationships, in the world. True anxiety serves as our inner compass, helping us recalibrate when we’re feeling lost. 

SOME KEY POINTS

• Why you should rethink your relationship with caffeine and alcohol
• How managing your blood sugar level can significantly improve the symptoms anxiety 
• What to eat for better mental health
• The meaning and invaluable importance of feeling all our feelings and the benefits of crying 
• And so much more. 

Instead of asking, How can I stop feeling so anxious, we should be asking, What is my anxiety telling me?  

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The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body's Fear Response

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Shaka Senghor, authhor of Letters to the Sons of Society on the power of transformation, father's love, vulnerability and freedom.

His first book is a memoir Writing My Wrongs: Life, Death and Redemption in an American Prison, debuted on The New York Times and The Washington Post Best Seller Lists.

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• Follow him on Twitter
• Follow him on Instagram
• Watch his TED talk
• On Conscious Co-Parenting

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In this solo episode Anna talks about the 6 critical emotional needs of children. She provides an overview with some examples to help you understand your children better; become a better decoder of their behavior, uncover their emotional needs and meet the needs with responsiveness and sensitivity.

She goes over her 4 Buckets Framework for understanding challenging behaviors (NEEDS is only one of the categories).

In our culture we are always fixated on the behavior itself(we want to stop, correct and get rid of). When we focus on the behavior in isolation (wanting to stop, correct, get rid of etc.) and see the behavior as the problem, we misunderstand children. We miss the mark.

So challenging behaviors not only persist but escalate and become more destructive, and intensify.

Behavior-based approach is not effective.

In no particular order here are the 6 emotional needs:

1. Safety
2. Respect
3. Acceptance
4. Autonomy
5. Significance
6. Connection

If you want to learn more and go deeper, get The Why of Challeneging Behaviors and the How-to of Dealing with Them now.

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Do you suffer from anxiety?

We are living through one of the most anxious periods any of us can remember.

Dr. Jud Brewer, renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist explains how to uproot anxiety at its source, using brain-based techniques and small hacks accessible to anyone.

He has created a step-by-step program that anyone can use to feel better. He teaches us how to map our brains to discover our triggers, defuse them with the simple but powerful practice of curiosity, and train our brains using mindfulness.

LINKS AND RESOURCES

• Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind and The Craving Mind book by Dr. Jud Brewer
• Eat Right Now on the App Store
• Unwinding Anxiety on the App Store
• Craving To Quit®

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By sharing it you not only release painful feelings, make sense of what happened to you, gain a new perspective, form a new meaning, but you access a possibility of transforming your life.

Whether you share your story orally or in a written form, it has healing power.

Do you have an untold story inside that is itching to be shared?

Kristy Lauricella and Judy Rabinor on the healing power of writing and sharing your stroy.

By revisiting and revising our stories and the meaning we attach to them is how our stories become one of growth as well as hardship.

"Meaning is not something we stumble upon. It's something we make. " Hope Edelman

Past Episodes with Kristy and Judith

• Ep. 307: How Mother Loss Shapes Who we Become with Judith Rabinor and Hope Edelman
• Ep. 300: The Big 300th with Kristy Lauricella
• Ep. 290: The Complicated Mother-Daguther Realtionship with Judith Rabinor
• Ep. 195: Why We Need to Connect More with Kristy Lauricella
• Ep. 273: Coping with Loss with Kristy Lauricella

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Have you noticed that your ability to pay attention is collapsing? Did you know that in the US teenagers can focus on one task for only sixty-five seconds at a time and office workers average only three minutes?

Like so many of us Johann Hari was finding that constantly switching from device to device and tab to tab was a diminishing and depressing way to live. He went on a quest to find out what was happening to our attention and he wrote a phenomenal book called Stolen Focus.

He argues in the book that your focus has been stolen by some powerful external forces.

Hari found that there are 12 deep causes of this crisis, from the decline of the mind-wandering to rising pollution, all of which have rubbed some of our attention.

Hari says that we can reclaim our focus-as individuals and as a society-if we are determined to fight for it.

SOME KEY POINTS

• Why do we need to pay attention to our attention?
• How childhood is happening behind closed doors and the lack of free unstructured play and movement is affecting kids
• The myth of multitasking and the switch cost effect
• Why tech is not the only invader of your attention
• And why the solutions require both individual and collective approaches
• And so much more

GET HIS BOOKS

1. God Save the Queen?
2. Chasing the Scream: The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs
3. Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions
4. Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention and Hhow to think Deeply Again

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Parenting is hard. But being a parent doesn't mean you have to stifle your most basic wants and needs. It doesn't mean it has to consume you to the degree of self-sacrifice and martyrdom and you definitely don't need to lose yourself to be a good parent.

Ericka Souter, author of How to Have a Baby and a Life on why being good for our kids has to become synonymous with being good to ourselves.

If you are not happy, your children know it, moreover children suffer if the people taking care of them are not taking care of themselves.

Mothers who feel depressed are more likely to have children who act out or have other behavioral problems.

Researchers say that a mom's satisfaction with her life is more important to a child's social and emotional skills than how much money she has, the amount of time she spends with them, or whether she is working or a stay-at-home mom.

• Why you need a village and how to cultivate support for yourself
• When it comes to friendships quality over quantity
• The 3 conditions for lasting relationships
• The surprising truth about sexless marriages and how to have more sex
• How despite progress, women still bear heavier load than men in balancing work and family
• How not having a child should be an option too
• What do women talk about at NotMom Summit
• Why the parents in US proved to be the most miserable in the world

• 64: Why You Should Let it Go And Be Happy
• 72: From Coping to Thriving: How to turn Self-Care into a Way of Life
• 97: Why You Might Be Feeling Tired, Negative and Overwhelmed
• 147: What Does Self-Care Really Mean
• 144: Mommy Burnout

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Dr. Yvette Erasmus, a returning guest from last year's Ep. 262: When Your Needs Are Not Met on how to build and enjoy deeply connected, fulfilling and life-affirming relationships. 

SOME KEY POINTS

• What to do when you are growing and changing and your partner isn’t 
• Do you feel like you have grown apart to the degree that your values are no longer aligned? 
• When you crave emotional connection, nourishment and intimacy but feel alone and lonely in your relationship 
• When to DIY your relationship issues and when to seek out professional help
• How to communicate your needs without coming off as needy, clingy or desperate 
• Why we transfer our chronically unmet needs onto our partner 
• And how it's not their job to heal your childhood wounds 
• The interplay of dependence, independence and interdependence when it comes to your needs

A quote from this epsiode: 

“When we say yes in a relationship but we mean no, both people pay a price. ”

OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENJOY

1. 216: Childhood Emotional Neglect to better understand where emotional unavailability orginites
2. 113: Signs of Childhood Trauma in Adults 
3. 262: When Your Needs Are Not Met
4. 68: Is Your Relationship Toxic? 
5. 102: How To Communicate Your Needs in a Relationship

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ABOUT ME

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Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. 

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