Autism, ADHD and Us Three

In this episode, Jenny Lucas discusses her newly launched book, 'Autism ADHD and Me: You're No Bullshit Guide to Life After Late Diagnosis.' Buy your copy here: https://amzn.to/4o58FQf

She shares her personal journey of writing the book, the challenges she faced during her late diagnosis of ADHD and autism, and the importance of self-love and acceptance.

The conversation delves into the themes of internalised ableism, navigating relationships, and the significance of community support.

Jenny emphasises the need for resources that resonate with neurodivergent individuals and the transformative power of understanding oneself post-diagnosis.-------------------------------

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Keywords

Autism, ADHD, neurodivergence, late diagnosis, self-love, internalized ableism, book launch, personal journey, relationships, community support

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Book Launch

05:42 The Purpose Behind the Book

11:23 Chapter Insights: Key Themes

16:44 The Importance of Self-Love

22:18 The Role of Community and Feedback

Welcome back! Before we dive in, if you’re enjoying the podcast, I’d love you to leave a quick review. It really helps more neurodivergent women like us find these conversations.

In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Niki McGlynn, a neurodevelopmental therapist and trainer, who brings her personal story of late diagnosis and her deep expertise in primitive reflexes. We dig into what primitive reflexes actually are, why they matter for autistic and ADHD brains, and how retained reflexes can shape everything from emotional regulation to sensory processing and even people pleasing.

Niki shares practical insights into reflex integration therapy, a movement-based approach that helps the nervous system let go of unintegrated reflexes. We talk about why movement is so powerful for brain development, how small exercises can make a big difference at home, and why advocacy in schools and clinical settings is essential.

This episode is full of lightbulb moments, especially if you’ve ever wondered why you (or your child) struggle with focus, anxiety, or overwhelm, despite working so hard. Niki’s approach doesn’t “cure” neurodivergence (and why would we want it to?) but it does offer hope for reducing the struggles while keeping all the brilliance.

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Keywords:

neurodivergence, ADHD, autism, primitive reflexes, emotional regulation, reflex integration therapy, sensory processing, late diagnosis, parenting, advocacy

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Neurodivergence and Personal Journeys
03:22 Understanding Primitive Reflexes and Their Impact
06:10 The Connection Between Reflexes and Neurodivergence
08:58 Reflex Integration Therapy: How It Works
11:25 Benefits of Reflex Integration Therapy
14:13 Addressing Sensory Processing and Emotional Regulation
17:01 The Role of Movement in Brain Development
19:45 Navigating Adult Life with Retained Reflexes
22:18 Advocacy for Neurodivergent Individuals
25:21 Practical Tips for Parents and Individuals
27:48 Conclusion and Resources

✨ Show Notes: Autism, ADHD and Us Three

Friendship can be one of the most complicated parts of life and when you add autism or ADHD into the mix, it often feels even more confusing.

In this episode, I share my own experiences as a late-diagnosed woman navigating friendships: the longing for people who really “get” you, the heartbreak when connections fade without explanation, and the messy reality of figuring out who feels safe to be your unmasked self around.

I talk about my own childhood memories of feeling different, how that shaped me as an adult, and what I notice now in my children’s friendships too. We’ll explore why making and keeping friends can feel so hard, why closure is often missing, and the universal desire to be truly known and loved anyway.

Whether you’re reflecting on friendships that slipped away, searching for more authentic connections, or just wanting reassurance that you’re not alone in these struggles this episode will meet you right where you are.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why friendships can feel so different when you’re late-diagnosed ADHD or autistic

• The challenges children (and adults) face with social dynamics

• How masking impacts connection and belonging

• Why friendships evolve over time — and why that’s both hard and normal

• The universal desire to be seen, accepted, and loved for who you are

🎧 Listen now and know you’re not alone.

If this episode resonates, make sure you’re on the waitlist for my upcoming book launching in October 2025. You’ll get early updates and even the chance to win a signed copy.

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Keywords: ADHD, autism, AuDHD, friendships, late diagnosis, parenting, social dynamics, relationships, connection, community

Season 2 Finale. If this resonated with you, share with someone who needs it, get in touch with me or leave a review so others can find our community and get support too.

Summary

In this episode, Jenny Lucas reflects on the internalized lies that neurodivergent individuals often carry, particularly those diagnosed with autism or ADHD later in life. She discusses the impact of these lies on self-perception, emotional responses, and social interactions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of unmasking these beliefs to foster self-acceptance and understanding. Jenny also shares insights from her personal journey, highlighting the complexities of navigating life as a neurodivergent individual and the significance of self-compassion and communication in relationships.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Season Wrap-Up

09:43 Understanding Sensitivity and Emotional Responses

17:30 Disorganization and Executive Functioning

27:39 Conclusion and Encouragement

Keywords

neurodivergence, unmasking, internalised lies, autism, ADHD, emotional responses, social interactions, self-perception, people-pleasing, masking, AuDHD

Hello and thanks so much for tuning into Season 2 Episode 10 of Autism ADHD and Us Three
If you enjoy the episode please consider leaving a review. It really helps more late-diagnosed women and neurodivergent parents find us and feel less alone 💜

🧠💬 In this episode I dive into the complicated relationship between productivity and self-worth. It is something so many of us have internalised from a young age and often never question. I share some really personal moments from my own experience of burnout especially what it looked and felt like as an AuDHDer trying to stay afloat in systems never built for me.

I talk about the pressure to prove our value through doing why rest often feels unsafe and how redefining what it means to be worthy can change everything
This episode is about letting go of the belief that your worth is measured by your productivity and learning to trust your body your limits and your right to rest

💛 Whether you are deep in burnout just coming out of it or trying to believe that you deserve to slow down. This episode is a warm hug and a firm reminder that you are already enough

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📚 Chapters
00:00 The burden of productivity10:43 Redefining worthiness beyond productivity20:43 Finding balance and embracing rest

🔊 Sound bites
I was beyond exhausted absolutely knackeredYou do not need to earn restIt is slow small steps one at a time

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🎙️ Keywords
productivity, worthiness, burnout, ADHD. neurodivergence, self-worth, parenting, mental health, coaching, personal growth, AuDHD

Hello and thanks so much for tuning into Season 2 Episode 9 of Autism, ADHD and Us Three! If you enjoy the episode, please consider leaving a review – it really helps more late-diagnosed women and neurodivergent parents find us and feel less alone 💜

🧠💬 In this episode, I’m flying solo to dive deep into one of the most misunderstood but powerful topics: self-acceptance as a late-diagnosed neurodivergent woman and parent.
I talk honestly about what self-acceptance really looks like (hint: it’s not some glittery destination you magically arrive at). Instead, it’s built quietly, daily, through the small moments no one sees — the boundaries, the cancelled plans without guilt, the quiet self-compassion when you’re struggling.

We explore why some struggles will always be there no matter how many accommodations you build (and why that's okay), how breaking free from societal expectations changes everything for us and for our children, and how healing yourself now is actively creating a more authentic, empowered future for the next generation. 🌱

This episode is full of real talk, laughter at the messy reality of "the journey" (seriously, if you know a better word than "journey", let me know 😂), and heartfelt encouragement for anyone working to reclaim their life on their terms.

💛 Whether you’re just starting your self-acceptance work or you’re in the messy middle of it — this one's for you.

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📚 Chapters:
00:00 – Welcome back: why self-acceptance isn’t a destination
02:18 – The messy, real-life version of becoming yourself
06:45 – Cancelled plans, sensory overload, and guilt-free boundaries
12:30 – Some struggles never fully go away (and why that’s okay)
18:05 – Why self-compassion needs to happen quietly and daily
24:15 – Breaking away from societal expectations
29:30 – How healing yourself changes your children’s inner voice
35:10 – The profound legacy of choosing yourself first

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Keywords: ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, late diagnosed ADHD woman, self-acceptance, masking, neurodivergent parenting, inner healing, late diagnosis, neurodivergent empowerment, breaking generational cycles, authentic living, radical self-care, emotional resilience

Hello and thanks so much for tuning into Season 2 Episode 8 of Autism, ADHD and Us Three! If you enjoy the episode, please consider leaving a review – it really helps more late-diagnosed women and neurodivergent parents find us and feel less alone 💜

🧹✨ In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant George from @simplifybyGeorge, a professional organiser who supports neurodivergent women and families to reclaim calm and control in their homes. Together, we dive deep into the emotional and practical sides of decluttering and simplifying as late-diagnosed AuDHD parents.

We talk about household overwhelm, those infamous “doom piles,” and why so many of us feel shame when we can’t keep on top of domestic life – especially when the narrative we’ve been fed is “you should be able to do this.” George shares accessible, ADHD-friendly tips for building habits, creating systems, and letting go of other people’s expectations.

Whether you’re juggling a chaotic household, navigating burnout, or just need permission to do things your own way – this episode is packed with validation, practical advice, and a whole lot of laughter. Massive thanks to George for such a warm and helpful conversation!

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https://www.instagram.com/simplifybygeorge/

https://www.simplifybygeorge.com/

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🎙️ Keywords:ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, late diagnosed ADHD woman, decluttering, executive functioning, emotional regulation, neurodivergent parenting, ADHD mum, late diagnosis, ADHD overwhelm, neurodiversity support, simplifying, self-acceptance

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📚 Chapters00:00 – Meet George: Decluttering expert & neurodivergent parent
02:15 – Why our homes reflect our brains
07:30 – ADHD doom piles and emotional chaos
12:42 – Breaking habits of “doing it all” as the default parent
18:20 – Letting go of shame around rest and productivity
24:55 – Making laundry ADHD-friendly
29:40 – How George works with clients & builds sustainable habits
34:10 – Tiny changes that make a massive impact
38:42 – How to support your child’s executive functioning at home
43:25 – Dealing with different organising styles in your household
49:00 – Letting go of “shoulds” and owning what works for you

Hello and thanks for listening to S2 Episode 7. Please do leave a review if you can to help others find and join our growing community!

Summary

In this episode, Jenny explores the unique experience of being an autistic ADHD woman, discussing the paradoxes of routine and novelty, the struggles of forming friendships, the impact of ADHD medication, and the challenges of emotional dysregulation. She emphasises the importance of self-acceptance and finding community among those who share similar experiences, while also addressing the societal challenges faced by neurodiverse individuals.-------------------

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Keywords

Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, self-acceptance, emotional dysregulation, friendship struggles, ADHD medication, routine, novelty, neurodiversity

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to AuDHD Experience

02:50 The Paradox of Routine and Novelty

12:49 Friendship Struggles and Connections

20:23 ADHD Medication and Autistic Awakening

27:29 Emotional Dysregulation and Rejection Sensitivity

31:14 Living in a World Not Designed for Us

35:05 Self-Acceptance and Personal Growth

Hello and thanks for listening to S2 episode 6. Please do

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Contact details for Sarah West ADHD Coach:

https://www.sarahwest-adhd.com/

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Keywords

ADHD, menopause, perimenopause, neurodivergent women, coaching, mental health, self-care, boundaries, hormones, support

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Neurodivergence and Menopause

02:50 Understanding the Connection Between ADHD and Menopause

06:01 The Role of Coaching in Navigating Life Changes

08:57 The Importance of Self-Care and Boundaries

11:59 Exploring Perimenopause: Symptoms and Impacts

20:51 The Science of Hormones and Neurodivergence

26:57 Finding Support and Resources for ADHD and Menopause

Hello and thanks for listening to S2 episode 5.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to ADHD Parenting

01:31 Discovering ADHD: A Personal Journey

04:11 The Impact of ADHD Diagnosis

06:32 Parenting Challenges with ADHD

10:15 The Need for Tailored Support

12:08 Critique of Traditional Parenting Courses

14:29 Navigating External Opinions and Judgments

18:05 Trusting Parental Instincts

20:32 The Complexity of Neurodivergent Parenting

22:55 Identity and Self-Discovery Post-Diagnosis

25:15 Navigating Parenting Challenges

30:10 Understanding Neurodivergence in Parenting

35:08 The Importance of Community and Validation

39:21 Key Takeaways from Parenting Support

44:43 Self-Care and Understanding Needs