Are you ready to experience BE YOU live and in person? Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana. You’ll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn’t know you had and didn’t realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women.

You’ll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you’ll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Tickets are selling fast at jillherman.com/beyou

Search #BEYOULiveEvent on Instagram and Facebook and be sure to use it when sharing online! This event is going to be a coming home to yourself, AND a lot of fun. xoJill

Jill shares her thoughts this week and experiences around the podcast, which she reminds listeners she does without any commercial sponsorships or monetization. She explains that she wanted the podcast to be a creative outlet where she could be her authentic self, without feeling any pressure to do it in a certain way.

Jill goes on to discuss the upcoming Be YOU event that she is organizing and how she was able to secure corporate sponsors for it. She also shares some details about the sponsors, including a $5,000 donation from a billion-dollar company and how the sponsorships have allowed her to market the event in new ways.

Stay tuned for a a personal update as well, as Jill reveals that she will be starting peptide treatments soon and that she has made the difficult decision to pause her popular "Plot Twist" group coaching program in order to focus on writing a book that she feels called to create. She acknowledges that this decision may disappoint some of her loyal listeners but explains that she needs to honor her intuition and creative process, even if it means turning down guaranteed income.

Ultimately, Jill reminds listeners of the importance of alignment and not trying to "sell" everyone on what you're offering, highlighting that when you are true to yourself, the right people will naturally be drawn to you without the need for convincing or forcing!

Show Notes:

[01:28] - Jill discusses podcasting as a pure art, valuing authenticity and connection over sponsorships or money. [04:00] - For Jill, podcasting embodies authenticity, joy, and a shared permission slip to be real. [05:19] - Hear how intuition led Jill to secure sponsors for her event while embracing compensation free of guilt. [08:07] - Sponsors invested because Jill’s authentic vision inspired trust. [11:24] - Every creation carries a unique signature that cannot be precisely duplicated. [13:59] - Jill announces that she has started on peptides. [16:30] - Jill has chosen to pause coaching programs and retreats to prioritize finishing her book Bad Mother. [18:49] - We learn that Jill is focusing solely on podcasting and writing Bad Mother while offering free texts and referrals. [20:15] - Jill reflects on rejecting guaranteed income to follow uncertain but divinely led paths. [22:59] - Alignment doesn't require forcing, selling, or shrinking; what resonates will flow toward you naturally! [24:22] - Rejection, Jill feels, isn’t personal but simply a sign of misalignment and differing paths.

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You’ll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you’ll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are. Tickets are selling fast at jillherman.com/beyou

Tune in this week as Jill gets real about the first time in nearly five years that she didn’t show up for an episode and why it actually felt completely okay and guilt-free! From the unexpected loss of her family dog Lola, to house issues, and her dad’s terminal cancer leading to hospice, life truly demanded her attention and bandwidth, and she shares how allowing herself to pause gave her some clarity, space, and perspective. She also opens up about the chaos behind the scenes of launching her upcoming Be YOU live event, including website struggles with a contractor who locked her out and how she stayed grounded even while everything seemed to go sideways!

Beyond the challenges, Jill reflects on the power of feeling your emotions fully while staying detached from the outcome, allowing frustration and anger to move through you instead of being suppressed. She shares how surrendering to what is allowed her to maintain confidence, trust the process, and step into her role as the host of a powerful, transformative event for women.

Listeners will also get a behind-the-scenes look at the Be YOU live event on October 25th, which will of course mark the 300th episode of the show, truly a rare milestone in podcasting. Jill breaks down the tiered ticket pricing, VIP sellouts, discounted hotel rooms, and the opportunity to connect with other women from across the U.S. and Canada before the event, and she also highlights what attendees can expect, including a space for reclamation, reconnection, celebration, and authentic self-expression without religious overtones or forced activities.

This episode of the podcast is all about showing up for yourself even when life is messy, holding space for others while trusting your own power, and embracing the art of the “both/and conversation” - feeling deeply while surrendering to what is. Tune in to hear the story behind the ups and downs of launching this upcoming event and the lessons that it’s teaching Jill!

Show Notes:

[01:28] - Jill chose to pause last week’s episode without guilt, giving herself some needed space. [03:56] - Jill further explains that she couldn’t record last week due to her family dog’s passing and some urgent home issues. [06:13] - Jill's dad’s cancer also led to hospice recently. [09:04] - Hear how Jill hired a contractor for her landing page, who caused chaos even though ticket sales recovered. [11:54] - Website issues temporarily disrupted sales momentum, but Jill’s persistence and outreach brought it back. [14:36] - Jill credits the contractor’s eventual professionalism and her confidence in hosting events. [16:32] - Hear how Jill embraced challenges calmly, trusting that every problem has a solution. [18:56] - Jill allowed herself to fully feel anger while remaining detached from the outcome. [22:32] - We hear how some positive feedback from Hawk Media reinforced Jill's clear branding and boosted ticket sales. [25:36] - The upcoming Be YOU milestone event will be a joyful, non-religious gathering focused on connection and self-reclamation. [27:46] - Jill encourages listeners to feel deeply while surrendering outcomes and loving yourself exactly as you are!

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Listen in to Jill this week as she opens up by sharing her personal experience with the "11-11-11 Compliment Experience" that she invited her listeners to try in the last couple of episodes, reflecting on how it was initially difficult but became easier over time. She then transitions into a major decision that she has faced - the opportunity to start a new brick-and-mortar business venture that felt aligned and exciting but that ultimately had to be turned down. Hear how, through a powerful moment of self-reflection, Jill realized this new business would be a distraction from her true purpose - to write a book that has been on her heart for years.

Jill reflects on how she surrendered the business opportunity and trusted that if it was meant to be, it would flow easily. Shortly after, she had a profound realization while re-reading one of her own past writings - that the book she has been struggling with is her true calling and dharma, and she ultimately made the difficult decision to forgo the business venture for the time being in order to focus on completing this book.

Jill encourages listeners to examine their own lives and identify any "perfect" opportunities that may actually be distractions from their higher purpose. She challenges listeners to be willing to choose the uncomfortable, uncertain path that aligns with their true north even if it means going against what seems logical or guaranteed. Jill also, of course, reminds listeners to attend her upcoming Be YOU event in October where she believes profound change will take place!

Show Notes:

[01:30] - We get an update on how Jill is doing with the 11-11-11 experiment! ​​[03:31] - Jill encourages listeners to embrace alignment over certainty, even when failure feels more likely than success. [04:54] - Hear how Jill envisioned opening a unique women’s healing space, even receiving enthusiasm and support from trusted advisors. [07:55] - While waiting for realtor updates, Jill sensed that she was being taught patience and deeper discernment. [10:23] - Jill consequently prayed for divine flow, realizing true alignment emerges without forcing or resisting opportunities. [13:43] - Reading her old words moved Jill to tears, revealing to her that her true calling is writing. [16:00] - Choosing writing over business, Jill now embraces discomfort, surrender, and potential rejection to follow her purpose. [19:25] - Hear how Jill celebrates healing her hidden wounds, calling the process “brutiful” and urging others to choose alignment. [21:13] - A dream revealed Jill's business vision as a “bountiful distraction,” teaching her to honor true alignment. [24:19] - Jill challenges listeners to trade in certainty for freedom and self-alignment! [25:56] - Don’t forget about the upcoming Be YOU event in October!

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In her last episode, Jill filled listeners in on her upcoming 11-11-11 challenge - to give 11 genuine compliments to 11 different people over the course of 11 consecutive days, beginning on August 11th! This experiment, as Jill stresses, isn’t just about being kind or spreading positivity but is rather a close look at how we relate to self-worth, validation, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and our resistance to both giving and receiving, especially as women.

Jill explains how the true purpose of this experiment is not to “get it right” but rather to pay attention. What happens inside when you fall short of the goal, when a compliment is ignored, when it’s received too enthusiastically and you find yourself craving that response again? This episode gives you permission to not only participate imperfectly but to also allow the imperfection to teach you something.

Whether you're someone who finds it hard to say kind things about yourself, someone who hands out compliments to stay safe, or someone who rebels against rules altogether, Jill invites you to feel into what’s true for you. She encourages slowing down, tuning into your body, and exploring the emotions that come up from beneath the surface of what seems like a simple act, and she would love for you to reach out to share what you notice!

This isn’t homework. It’s not a performance. It’s an invitation to pay attention to your nervous system, your patterns, and the stories which you tell yourself about worth and connection. Above all, it’s a chance to practice being more present and more real!

Show Notes:

[01:29] - Although traveling tends to reawaken Jill's joy, she admits that Charlevoix, Michigan has felt a little too bland and culturally plain. [03:23] - Hear how Beaver Island Resort, run by an incredibly genuine couple, blends rustic charm with luxury touches. [06:03] - Jill explains how glamping, dark skies, and community vibes all contribute to Beaver Island Resort feeling like adult summer camp heaven. [09:41] - Jill highlights how the story about the resort celebrates purpose, risk-taking, and planning your getaways ahead of time. [11:16] - Hear how the 11-11-11 experiment invites self-discovery via imperfection and showing up authentically. [14:38] - Jill explains what the 11-11-11 challenge entails. [17:24] - Authentic compliments require presence, so Jill encourages slowing down, feeling into them, and observing what surfaces within you. [20:27] - The Be You event in October invites women to remove their masks and be celebrated as their true selves!

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Listen in this week as Jill proposes a challenge for listeners - to give 11 genuine compliments to 11 different people over the course of 11 consecutive days, beginning on August 11th! She notes that so many people struggle to give sincere compliments, often defaulting to insincere ones, so the challenge is intended to push listeners to be more present, observant, and generous with their praise of others.

While Jill acknowledges that this can initially feel uncomfortable and/or vulnerable at first, she encourages listeners to step outside of their comfort zones and to push past those feelings, outlining some steps to help prepare such as taking time for self-reflection and self-compliments each day before giving them to others.

Jill also suggests that going through this process of intentionally complimenting others can be eye-opening and transformative and may even reveal things about yourself, your relationships with others, and/or the general social dynamic of withholding genuine praise. She is really excited about this challenge and invites you to listen in for more details! We could all use a little personal growth, increased mindfulness, and social connection after all!

Show Notes:

[01:36] - Jill is inviting listeners to give 11 authentic compliments daily for 11 days! [03:39] - Jill argues that compliments need to be truthful, not just people-pleasing attempts. [06:25] - You’ll discover self-awareness, connection, and emotional depth via consistent, sincere compliments, even when it’s hard. [08:42] - Hear why so many of us tend to be guarded and stingy with compliments. [10:43] - Authenticity starts with grounding your body via breath and sound before taking outward action. [13:13] - Jill encourages listeners to start each day of the 11 days off with compliments to themselves. [15:14] - The 11-11-11 challenge begins on August 11th, so reflect beforehand, and share the journey with others!

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Jill catches listeners up a bit this week as she shares a personal life update and reflects on the fast-paced nature of summer, encouraging listeners to be intentional about being slow and savoring the remaining summer days and suggesting making a list of experiences they want to have before summer ends.

She also discusses some patterns that she has noticed in her life, like significant events often happening around July 21st. She shares updates on selling her home and her journey with menopause, including hair loss, weight gain, and hot flashes, highlighting the importance of tuning into your own body wisdom during this transition rather than following generic advice.

Jill also talks about an intensive four-day training that she recently completed on crystal alchemy singing bowls, describing the powerful experiences that she had including feeling ill during the training as her body went through an "energetic detox" to make space for her upcoming expansion.

In case you're wondering how crystal bowls even work, Jill has you covered, and she touches upon how her understanding of them has evolved. She even announces an upcoming virtual sound bath experience using the bowls which will be different from past offerings as she applies her new knowledge!

Show Notes:

[01:28] - Jill reveals that, when podcasting, she feels like she is truly talking one-on-one with a close friend. [03:10] - Jill encourages choosing simple, intentional joys to slow down the rest of summer. [06:04] - July 21st is a strangely recurring milestone of major personal life events for Jill. [08:51] - Despite some challenges such as menopause and a slow home sale, Jill leans into trust and surrender. [12:17] - Jill is recommitting to listening to her body, and she passionately rejects a one-size-fits-all approach to health. [14:47] - Hear how Jill recommitted to her health with grace, tuning into her body's wisdom rather than external pressure. [17:22] - Jill reflects on having completed an intense sound bowl training while undergoing physical and energetic transformation. [20:17] - Listen as Jill describes some symptoms of expansion as her nervous system recalibrates to hold more power. [23:47] - Jill shares how playing bowls enhances healing. [27:34] - The upcoming Be YOU event in October promises magic, deep connection, and a return to your truth!

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Jill spends time this week exploring over-giving and the importance of pruning relationships and commitments in your life, sharing personal experiences when she realized that she had been giving too much of herself to certain people and businesses without receiving the same level of attention in return. She likens this idea to tending a garden when she had neglected her own container garden and allowed it to become overgrown. Just as the flowers were "begging to be pruned," she realized that in her own life, certain relationships and obligations were draining her energy.

Jill shares examples of reaching out to a business only to be disappointed when they declined to sponsor her event, and she reflects on family relationships in which she felt the giving was one-sided. In these cases, she decided that it was time to cut away the excess and focus her time and energy on more reciprocal relationships. On the other hand, though, she also shares a story of a friendship in which she initially felt hurt by a lack of reciprocation, but upon further reflection, she realized that her friend was actually kind in other ways. This realization allowed her to let go of the resentment and appreciate the relationship for what it was.

Ultimately, Jill is discussing the importance of self-care and being more particular with your time and energy, encouraging listeners to take inventory of their relationships and commitments and to have the courage to prune away the ones that are draining rather than nourishing. She suggests this can be a powerful act of self-love and kindness, allowing you to show up more fully for the people who truly matter!

Show Notes:

[01:29] - Even though ​giving feels natural and joyful, Jill has realized that it's quietly draining when rarely reciprocated. [05:30] - Jill reflects on how it hurt when generosity wasn’t returned, revealing that she subconsciously hoped for appreciation in exchange. [07:15] - Eventually, even pure-hearted giving begs the question: will they ever give back? [09:12] - Jill admits to having misjudged one friend and also finally stopped chasing a family member. [11:12] - Support can come from surprising places, like a childhood friend who buys ten VIP tickets. [12:56] - After giving a company $200K in business, their refusal to sponsor Jill truly stung. [15:29] - After some deep reflection, Jill chose to stop supporting those who never truly showed up in return. [17:25] - Without pruning, everything weakens, and offshoots drain the flowers just like distractions drain us. [19:57] - Jill argues that by trimming relationships and distractions, we protect our energy and grow into our full potential. [22:28] - Sometimes, the kindest thing that you can do is to unapologetically withdraw. [24:23] - True self-honesty means examining everything (relationships, habits, even screen time) and deciding on what needs to go. [25:20] - Don’t forget about the upcoming Be YOU event in October!

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Jill is back - not just back behind the mic but truly back in her energy, her confidence, and her clarity. After a challenging stretch supporting her ill father through a medical ordeal that she shared on the podcast recently, she returns refreshed with a major announcement: the Be You event is officially happening, and its first sponsor is a game-changer!

Jill takes us behind the scenes of how she secured a huge sponsorship from Surack Enterprises! Normally, if it’s not through their Family foundation, Surack Enterprises only financially supports events and projects that are connected to one of their businesses (primarily aviation), but this wasn’t luck. It was boldness, clarity, and unapologetic belief in her mission. She didn’t play it safe; she instead asked for what she really wanted, and it worked. She encourages listeners to consider, where are you holding back, and in what areas of your life could you be braver?

Jill also discusses the upcoming Be YOU event and why she highly values in-person events over virtual event, highlighting that while it's much more difficult to hide at an in-person event, that is exactly what makes it worth it. Whether you’re planning to attend or just eavesdropping for now, she shares insights that apply to any in-person gathering, such as the power of being seen, the energy that builds when humans connect off-screen, and the kind of real change that begins not when you arrive but even at the moment you say “yes” and register.

Expect some real talk about hiding vs. showing up, fixing yourself vs. remembering who you are, and why the version of you you’ve been chasing isn’t some future fantasy but is actually already inside you, waiting. Jill invites you to meet her, meet each other, and meet yourself, possibly for the first time in a long time. There’s no “better version” of you. There’s just you, and you are more than enough!

Show Notes:

[01:29] - Jill is happy to be back with refreshed energy! [02:59] - Jill discusses her bold decision to pursue sponsorships for October’s Be You event. [05:10] - Hear how Jill pitched Surack Enterprises directly and landed a rare $10K sponsorship for the October event. [07:51] - Stop playing it small; don’t be afraid to ask for what you truly want! [09:33] - In-person events reveal our energy, and we grow when we go out of our comfort zones and do what we otherwise tend to avoid. [11:51] - Jill highlights the power of shared energy and intention at in-person gatherings. [14:25] - Authenticity, not perfection, is the goal, and attending alone might be exactly what your soul needs. [17:01] - Jill reveals that attendees will connect in a Telegram group, with resources and a shared community before the event begins.

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Jill opens up in this vulnerable episode in which she discusses the difficult situation that she is currently in caring for her sick father. She shares how she has had to step back from her usual podcast schedule to focus on this challenge and how it has been truly physically, mentally, and emotionally draining for her.

Listen as she discusses the importance of being gentle and compassionate with yourself during challenging times rather than judging or criticizing yourself. Even though she knows the importance of self-care and being well-resourced, she shares how she has found herself neglecting her own needs in the process as she has poured everything into caring for her father, recognizing that this is a pattern that she has fallen into before when faced with difficult circumstances.

Jill openly shares the specific ways that she has been struggling such as forgetting to eat, drink water, exercise, and get proper rest, explaining how this has led to her becoming increasingly depleted and unable to function at her best and ultimately realizing that she needed to take a difficult but necessary step - asking for help.

Jill's sincerest hope in sharing this personal journey on the show is that it resonates with listeners who may be going through their own difficult seasons. She reveals how she wants to encourage everyone to be kind to themselves, set boundaries, and to not hesitate to reach out for support when needed. Even when life gets overwhelming, self-compassion is so incredibly important!

Show Notes:

[02:53] - Jill is discussing having to prioritize self-compassion by accepting her limits during an emotionally challenging time. [04:56] - Instead of judging herself, Jill used tools and self-kindness to manage exhaustion. [06:36] - Jill shares how, knowing that she is depleted, she forgives herself and applies self-care with compassion. [08:33] - Hear how, even when deeply depleted, Jill knows that returning to basic self-care is her best defense. [11:08] - Overwhelmed, Jill reverted to old patterns and neglected her own needs and boundaries. [14:28] - Jill admits to having slipped into martyrdom, forgetting to balance caregiving with self-care. [17:33] - Rather than self-blame, Jill has accepted her limits and has finally reached out for help, even though it was difficult for her. [20:49] - Jill, despite feeling exhausted, creatively problem-solved, securing assistance after admitting that she had tried to do too much on her own. [22:47] - Jill encourages others to question overextension, recognizing that it often masks self-worth patterns that are based on past trauma. [25:40] - Now with help, Jill can finally be present with her dad as a daughter and not as a nurse.

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Jill offers up a short and sweet but also vulnerable discussion this week on Be YOU – not because she is talking about heartbreak or grief but because she is talking about something that so many of us do but are ironically often dishonest about, even to ourselves: lying. She isn't talking about the “double life” kind of lies but rather the seemingly harmless white lies – telling your hairdresser that you love your 'do even when you actually hate it or telling someone you'll attend something when you don't really want to.

Listen in as Jill gets real about some of the little lies that she has told over the decades, especially ones that she told to protect other people's feelings or avoid conflict or unpleasant confrontation. As will likely ring familiar to many listeners, Jill wasn't lying out of a place of manipulation but rather out of a place of fear – afraid of not being liked or of disappointing someone.

The purpose of this episode of the show is not to pass judgment on those who frequently find themselves telling similarly motivated white lies but rather to call attention to it and examine why so many of us do it. These lies can eventually stack up to the point at which we are no longer being our authentic selves, which is a tragic betrayal of our own selves.

Jill also talks listeners through how to gently and lovingly call someone out when you see the dishonesty on the other end. Again, the purpose is not to pass judgment or shame but rather to open up a conversation in which both parties are invited to be fully transparent and honest, so if you have ever told a white lie to keep the peace (and let's face it – we pretty much all have at one point in time or another) or if someone in your life keeps dodging the truth, then this episode is definitely for you!

Show Notes:

[01:15] - Jill used to tell small, protective lies because she feared hurting others. [03:01] - Jill has realized that lying for her has stemmed from fear, disconnection, and a lack of trusting herself. [06:32] - Avoidance often masks itself as dishonesty. [09:34] - Hear how you can love someone and still address dishonesty without judgment or shame. [12:15] - Before confronting others about their dishonesty, practice honesty with yourself via reflection or even empty chair work.

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