Becoming UnDone® with Dr. Toby Brooks

About the Guest

Dave Fipp is a highly respected coach in the National Football League (NFL), currently serving as the Special Teams Coordinator for the Detroit Lions since 2021. Before joining the Lions, Fipp contributed his expertise to several NFL teams, including the Philadelphia Eagles, where he played a pivotal role in their 2018 Super Bowl victory, as well as the Miami Dolphins and the San Francisco 49ers. His coaching journey began under the mentorship of the legendary coach Dick Tomey at San Jose State and includes valuable experience as a Graduate Assistant at the University of Arizona. Fipp's career is characterized by his commitment to developing players not only athletically but also personally.

Episode Summary

In this enriching episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks presents a heartfelt exploration of the lessons and legacy of renowned football coach Dick Tomey, examining his profound influence on both the game and his athletes. Throughout the episode, Brooks connects personal anecdotes with insights from his guest, Dave Fipp, creating a vivid portrayal of the enduring impact of a coach who lived by the philosophy of caring deeply for his players.

The conversation delves into Dave Fipp's journey in the world of football, accentuating the transformative role Coach Tomey played in shaping his career. Emphasizing Tomey’s forward-thinking approach, Fipp illustrates how treating players with genuine interest and respect transcends traditional coaching tactics. By doing so, he offers a blueprint for fostering meaningful relationships that contribute to both personal growth and collective team success. This episode not only honors Dick Tomey’s remarkable contributions to football but also offers invaluable lessons on leadership, honesty, and the enduring power of mentorship.

Key Takeaways

• Impact of Leadership: Dick Tomey's approach to coaching transcended traditional win-loss metrics, focusing instead on personal development and honesty, which left a lasting impact on his players and colleagues.
• Genuine Care: Tomey's philosophy of genuinely caring for players as individuals, not just athletes, was ahead of its time and remains a model for effective coaching and leadership.
• Career Path Insights: Insights into Dave Fipp's decision to leave a full-time coaching position for an opportunity to learn under Tomey as a Graduate Assistant, showcasing the value of mentorship in career development.
• Relational Coaching: The importance of relationship-building in coaching, highlighted by Fipp's observations on how genuine concern and honesty - "I love you so much, I'm going to tell you the truth" - foster trust and respect.
• Legacy and Influence: Dick Tomey's legacy is exemplified through ongoing influence, as seen in his former players and staff who continue to reflect his values across various coaching roles.

Notable Quotes

• "What you do speak so loud I can't hear what you say." – Reflecting Tomey’s belief in the power of actions over words.
• "He meant that with every player, every coach, every person he was around, it really didn't matter how you got there." – Dave Fipp
• "I love you so much, I'm going to tell you the truth." – A signature phrase from Coach Tomey that illustrates his integrity and fondness for his players.
• "The number of lives he's changed and the impact he made and the number of people he's made that impact on is incredible." – Dave Fipp, on Tomey's legacy.
• "Truth is all anybody wants. As long as you know you're getting it, you can handle either the good or bad news." – Dave Fipp

Resources

• Dave Fipp's NFL coaching profile
• Books referenced: H.G. Bissinger’s "Friday Night Lights"
• Additional insight<

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About the Guest

Dino Babers is the former head coach of the Syracuse Orange football team and has a storied career in college football. His previous roles include being an offensive coordinator at the University of Arizona from 1998 to 2000, where he worked under Coach Dick Tomey. Babers also served as the head coach at Eastern Illinois, earning the title Ohio Valley Conference Coach of the Year twice, Bowling Green, and at Syracuse was honored as the AP ACC Coach of the Year honor in 2018. Babers began his coaching career as a graduate assistant at Hawaii with Coach Tomey in 1984.

Episode Summary

In this captivating episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks delves into the life and legacy of the legendary Coach Dick Tomey through the eyes of one of his former assistants, Coach Dino Babers. From an unforgettable 1998 football season at the University of Arizona to Babers' first encounter with Coach Tomey during a home visit, this episode provides an in-depth look at the man behind the coaching philosophy that shaped countless careers. Drawing attention to Tomey's emphasis on team unity and cultural integration among diverse players, Babers offers an enriching perspective on what it meant to coach and be coached by Tomey.

The conversation unfolds around Babers' personal anecdotes like dealing with roaches during recruitment visits and the classic football wisdom imparted by Tomey. The Hawaii native shares poignant reflections on Tomey's ability to cultivate family (ohana) within his teams—a culture that valued consistency, loyalty, and love for each other as essential elements of success. Brooks and Babers also explore how Tomey's coaching methods would adapt to today's era of college football transformations like NIL, transfer portals, and analytics, drawing lessons that align with the central themes of leadership and legacy embedded throughout the discussion.

Key Takeaways

• Coach Dick Tomey's approach centered on profound human connection and team culture, emphasizing that "football isn't complicated, people are."
• Babers attributes his own coaching style to Tomey's teaching: "you're either coaching it or you're letting it happen," highlighting the importance of accountability.
• Through humorous and earnest stories, Babers illustrates Tomey's strategy of employee empowerment, placing trust in players and coaches alike.
• The episode examines meaningful cultural integration within teams, presenting diverse backgrounds as a strength and fostering inclusivity.
• In today's shifting landscape of college sports, the adherence to Tomey's lessons on consistency and teamwork retains timeless relevance and empowers current and future coaches.

Notable Quotes

• "You're either coaching it or you're allowing it."—Dino Babers, reflecting on accountability and responsibility.
• "He mixed different cultures; he instilled ohana."—Dino Babers, on Tomey's innovative team-building methods.
• "It meant making men love one another; it meant creating ohana out of chaos."—Dino Babers, summarizing Tomey's legacy.
• "He had the ability to walk into anybody's living room."—Dino Babers, acknowledging Tomey's adaptability and charisma.
• "Football isn't complicated. People are."—Dino Babers, recounting Tomey's famous wisdom and approach.

Resources

• Undone Podcast Website: undonepodcast.com/ep117
• Becoming Undone Social Media: Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn
• Toby Brooks' Social Media: Facebook, Instagram, 

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About the Guest

Rip Scherer is a seasoned American football coach with over 51 years of experience across collegiate and professional levels, including the NFL. Scherer’s impressive career began at Penn State and included coaching roles at major programs such as the University of Virginia, LSU, Georgia Tech, and Alabama. He also served as the head coach for James Madison University (JMU) and the University of Memphis. Scherer has significant history with the late Dick Tomey, having worked under him at the University of Hawaii and the University of Arizona. Currently, he serves as an analyst at the University of Alabama at Birmingham (UAB) under head coach Trent Dilfer.

Episode Summary

In this episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks invites esteemed coach Rip Scherer to share engaging and enlightening memories of working alongside legendary football coach Dick Tomey. Scherer highlights the professional journey and personal influences Tomey had on his career, recounting initial encounters at the University of Hawaii and later collaboration at the University of Arizona. The cherished anecdotes illuminate how Tomey, beyond X's and O's, perfected the art of building meaningful relationships, impacting lives well beyond the field, which ripples through Scherer's own coaching philosophy.

Scherer offers listeners a behind-the-scenes glimpse into Tomey's recruitment strategies, coaching style, and his profound impact on players and coaches. Words like "compassionate leadership," "relationship-driven coaching," and "innovative recruiting techniques" capture pivotal moments from the transcript, painting a multifaceted portrait of Tomey. As Scherer recounts his career-defining transitions, the dialogue underscores how Tomey was not just a remarkable coach but a relentless mentor, personally investing in others' successes. Detailing Tomey’s legacy, the episode is both a tribute and a call to extend similar values in leadership roles today.

Key Takeaways

• Relationships First: Dick Tomey built his coaching career on a foundation of nurturing genuine relationships. He was as invested in personal dynamics off the field as he was in achieving on-field success.
• Innovative Recruiting: Tomey's recruiting techniques set him apart. He championed unique and personal approaches, ensuring prospective players felt valued and understood beyond their athletic abilities.
• Mentorship Role: Tomey's influence extended deeply, often advocating for and aiding others in securing positions, regardless of his personal gain—an exemplification of selfless leadership.
• Family-Centric Culture: He consistently emphasized the importance of family in coaching environments, advocating for coaches to maintain a work-life balance and develop strong family ties.
• Enduring Legacy: Despite not meeting the conventional wins benchmark for the College Football Hall of Fame, Tomey's impact on football culture and leadership showcases his timeless influence.

Notable Quotes

1. "Dick didn't want to be just like any other offense either…We had to be creative and innovative."
2. "The further up you were on the structure, the lesser your quarters were. I mean, Dick would sleep on the couch."
3. "My career would not be anywhere near it was if it weren’t for Dick. He bailed me out…He bailed me out."
4. "If they know that you care about them and you spend time getting to know their family, they’re going to play better for you."
5. "They don’t care what you know until they know that you care."

Resources

• Becoming Undone: Visit the Becoming Undone Podcast
• Toby Brooks: Follow him on Facebook, Instagram, 

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 About the Guest

Jesse Sapolu is a former professional American football player who played his entire career with the San Francisco 49ers. A native of Hawaii, Sapolu is of Samoan descent and played college football at the University of Hawaii. Over his NFL career, he achieved remarkable success, winning four Super Bowl rings with the 49ers. Beyond his playing career, Jesse is known for his dedication to his roots, exemplified by his decision to remain in Hawaii for his college education, influenced greatly by his coach, Dick Tomey. 

Episode Summary

In this episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks dives deep into the incredible journey of Jesse Sapolu, a former NFL player and four-time Super Bowl champion. Jesse shares his inspirational story from his teenage struggles in Hawaii, where he faced educational challenges and a tumultuous high school experience, to becoming a professional football player. A pivotal moment was meeting Coach Dick Tomey, whose profound understanding of culture and community shaped Jesse’s decision to stay at the University of Hawaii, altering the course of his life. 

Through engaging narratives and vivid recollections, Jesse describes Coach Tomey’s unique recruiting style that emphasized cultural respect and family values. This episode captures the essence of what made Tomey a transformative figure in football, particularly highlighting his impact on the Hawaii football program and his ability to cultivate talent and loyalty among his players, even without the allure of high-profile national championships. Listeners will gain insights into the enduring legacy left by Coach Tomey, showcased through Jesse’s path of personal and professional development. 

Key Takeaways

• Coach Dick Tomey’s respect for and understanding of Samoan culture profoundly influenced Jesse Sapolu’s decision to remain at the University of Hawaii.
• Jesse Sapolu’s career illustrates the role of perseverance and right opportunities in achieving professional success, emphasizing that early challenges can lead to great achievements.
• The unique recruiting approach of Coach Tomey, focusing on familial bonds and cultural respect, helped shape a strong community-oriented football program in Hawaii.
• Despite not winning national championships, Coach Tomey’s ability to build character, community, and culture led to lasting impacts on his players' lives.
• The episode serves as an inspiring testament to how leadership rooted in respect and understanding can transform individuals and build enduring legacies.

Notable Quotes
 

1. "Coach Tomey attended church, and Coach joked about that because the church is conducted in the Samoan dialect. So, you know, he's sitting there for an hour and a half not understanding what's going on." - Jesse Sapolu
2. "Jesse was one of the most highly touted local products coming out of Farrington High School in Honolulu." - Toby Brooks
3. "What Coach Tomey did was just connect the culture with how he was going to coach me if he was going to be the guy that was going to take care of me for the next four or five years." - Jesse Sapolu
4. "I think what Coach Tomey means to me is that he brings people together." - Jesse Sapolu
5. "He didn't recruit players, he recruited people. He didn't just build teams, he built cultures." - Toby Brooks

Resources:
 

• Becoming Undone Podcast
• Nitrohype Creative
• Toby Brooks on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn
• Jesse Sapolu on Instagram, 

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About the Guest

Dick Vermeil: A legendary American football coach renowned for his passionate coaching style and impeccable leadership. Vermeil has been named Coach of the Year at four levels (high school, junior college, NCAA Division I, and NFL) and has an illustrious career, including a Super Bowl victory with the St. Louis Rams. His extensive experience in football spans over decades, having coached and worked alongside some of the sport's most iconic figures.

Episode Summary

In this illuminating episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks dives deep into the storied legacy of Coach Dick Tomey, a revered figure in college and professional football. Speaking with Hall of Fame coach Dick Vermeil, Brooks unravels the unconventional and impactful journey of Tomey, known beyond his technical aptitude for his empathetic and transformative coaching style. The episode highlights how Tomey's genuine care and teaching shaped not only successful athletes but also principled individuals off the field.

Over the course of the conversation, Vermeil shares captivating anecdotes from Tomey's time at UCLA and the University of Arizona, underscoring Tomey’s unique ability to turn underdogs into champions. The discussion is interspersed with thoughtful reflections on leadership, legacy, and the understated art of connecting with and inspiring people to achieve their best. Through personal stories and insights, Vermeil articulates why Coach Tomey, although not having won national championships, left an indelible mark on so many lives.

Key Takeaways

• Leadership Philosophy: Dick Tomey was celebrated for his ability to coach people, not just football players, focusing on building individuals capable of exceeding expectations.
• Impact and Legacy: Tomey's influence extended beyond the football field, with many players and assistants crediting him with life-changing lessons that carried into their personal and professional lives.
• Empathy in Coaching: Tomey's approach combined toughness with compassion, setting high standards while demonstrating profound care for the personal development of his athletes.
• Underdog Champion: Throughout his career, Tomey thrived in roles considered challenging, consistently outperforming expectations and fostering a culture of winning against the odds.
• Respect and Admiration: Despite not having the glitter of championship titles, Tomey's true legacy lies in the respect and admiration he commands even years after his passing, as described by Dick Vermeil.

Notable Quotes

1. "Football isn't complicated. People are." – Toby Brooks reflecting on Tomey's coaching philosophy.
2. "He loved to coach the guy that wasn't quite good enough to be good enough." – Dick Vermeil on Tomey's commitment to all athletes.
3. "To be demanding and compassionate at the same time is a hard mixture." – Dick Vermeil discussing Tomey's unique coaching methodology.
4. "He was no pushover as a technician, X and O's, he was excellent." – Vermeil highlighting Tomey's technical prowess.
5. "He's special. He's choked me up. Think about it. Special." – Dick Vermeil fondly remembering Coach Tomey's impact.

Resources

• Visit Undone Podcast for more episodes and information.
• Connect with Toby Brooks on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn.
• Follow the "Becoming Undone" series for further insights and episodes.

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About the Guest

Mike Flores is a seasoned executive leadership coach and former assistant football coach. Throughout his impressive career, Flores has worked at institutions such as UCLA, the University of Hawaii, San Jose State, and the University of Arizona under distinguished figures like Dick Tomey and Dick Vermeil. Currently, he is the founder and president of Inner Champion Consulting, where he provides executive coaching and leadership training to upper-level executives and sports professionals. 

Episode Summary

In this captivating episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks takes listeners through the inspiring journey of legendary football coach Dick Tomey, focusing on his lesser-known early years. The episode opens with a powerful story about how one small act of kindness can lead to monumental change, ultimately setting the stage for a series of discussions on the cascading effects of positive mentorship and leadership. Brooks passionately narrates the lineage of renowned coaches and athletes whose lives were touched by these moments, emphasizing the ripple effects of effective leadership. 

As the episode progresses, Brooks delves deeper into Tomey's journey, reflecting on the early days of his coaching career before joining the University of Hawaii's program. Notable guest Mike Flores shares firsthand insights into Tomey's remarkable ability to unite diverse staff and athletes, bringing them together under a single vision. Enriched by the narratives of Tomey's contemporaries and protégés, this episode provides an introspective look at how Tomey's leadership style transformed various athletic programs and impacted the lives of countless individuals. Integral themes explored include the importance of people-centric leadership, fostering respect and unity among a diverse team, and the enduring influence of a beloved mentor. 

Key Takeaways

• Mentorship's Impact: The influence of early mentors like Edward Kimball and Hank Johnson had massive ripple effects, akin to that of Dick Tomey's in the athletic world.
• Leadership Style: Dick Tomey's unique ability to unite diverse individuals and instill respect and a sense of community is underscored. His people-first approach was pivotal in his transformative leadership journey.
• Challenges and Triumphs: Tomey's transition to Hawaii is a testament to his resolve in overcoming initial obstacles to build a respected program and culture.
• Enduring Legacy: His ability to push individuals to their limits while deeply investing in their personal development is highlighted as a hallmark of his career.
• Personal Memories: Insightful anecdotes from Mike Flores reflect personal and professional experiences with Coach Tomey, painting a vivid picture of a coach who led with intensity intertwined with compassion.

Notable Quotes

• "Football is easy. People are complicated." - Dick Tomey
• "Dick was the toughest…most intense person I've ever been around. His intensity was contagious." - Mike Flores
• "He believed in Dick Tomey and that belief helped shape the foundation of a coaching career." - Toby Brooks
• "Just think about it, do you ever get nervous?" - Mike Flores reminiscing about pre-game talks with Tomey.
• "I want them to be their best, and so that also means pushing beyond our limits." - Mike Flores discussing the direct influence of Tomey's coaching philosophy.

Resources

• Inner Champion Consulting: Inner Champion Consulting - Mike Flores' executive coaching company.
• Becoming Undone Podcast: Visit the podcast's website for more insights and episodes.
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About the Guest
Lance Tominaga is a seasoned sports journalist and ESPN Honolulu web editor known for his deep understanding of the college football landscape, especially concerning the University of Hawaii. He is the co-author of "Rise of the Rainbow Warriors," which chronicles the journey of Hawaii football from 1977 to 1987 under the leadership of Coach Dick Tomey. Tominaga has built a career on documenting the moments that shape teams, programs, and lives within the sports world.

Episode Summary
Delve into the riveting journey of legendary college football coach Dick Tomey in this episode of Becoming UnDone. Host Toby Brooks sits down with respected sports writer Lance Tominaga to explore the remarkable life and legacy of Coach Tomey, spanning his transformative years at the University of Hawaii, his pioneering spirit, and the enduring impact he left on players, staff, and the sport itself.

In this episode, Toby Brooks and Lance Tominaga walk through Dick Tomey's initial years in Hawaii, highlighting his inclusive philosophy of treating the football program like a family. They discuss how Coach Tomey embraced Hawaiian culture, significantly influencing his coaching success. The conversation touches on the challenges of coaching in modern college football, where NIL (Name, Image, and Likeness) deals and the transfer portal have reshaped the landscape, making the traditional role of a coach far more complex. Through captivating stories and insights, they underscore how Tomey's approach remains a gold standard for leadership in sports.

Key Takeaways

• Cultural Immersion and Family Values: Dick Tomey's success at the University of Hawaii was significantly shaped by his ability to immerse himself in and embrace Hawaiian culture, treating the football program as a family.
• From Humble Beginnings to Impactful Leadership: Despite lacking head coaching experience, Tomey's hard work, honesty, and relationship-building were key to his development into a transformative leader in college football.
• Challenges of Modern-Day Coaching: The complexities and demands of today's college football landscape, influenced by NIL and transfer portals, contrast sharply with Tomey's era, exemplifying his timeless leadership style.
• Legacy Beyond Wins and Losses: Though Tomey never won a national or outright conference championship, his legacy is defined by the profound personal impacts he had on those he coached and worked with.
• Personal Stories and Anecdotes: Shared memories from players and staff illustrate how Tomey's personal touch and care for his players’ growth extended far beyond the football field.

Notable Quotes

• “Coach Tomey wasn't just teaching football, he was teaching life.” – Toby Brooks
• “In Hawaii, family ohana is very important, and he immersed himself into that culture.” – Lance Tominaga
• “Football isn't complicated. People are.” – Coach Dick Tomey
• “He made you feel important, even if it was the first and last time he was meeting with you.” – Lance Tominaga
• “The program has never really recaptured that magic that coach had… because it was something new, it was something exciting.” – Lance Tominaga

Resources

• Rise of the Rainbow Warriors: Book co-authored by Lance Tominaga, detailing the history of Hawaii football under Dick Tomey.
• ESPN Honolulu: Where Lance Tominaga serves as web editor.
• Undone Podcast: Add insights and more content from the Becoming Undone series.

Dive deeper into the life and legacy of Coach Dick Tomey by listening to this insightful episode. Stay tuned for further enlightening discussions in the Becoming Undone series as it continues to highlight impactful leaders in sports and beyond.

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About the Guest

Mary Reiss Farias is a former Division 1 gymnast, successful business owner, transformational mindset mentor, and author. A decorated collegiate gymnast from the University of Arizona, she transitioned into a dedicated coach before becoming a self-development coach. Mary is passionate about helping others reframe their self-image and achieve their full potential. She co-authored the book "Discovering Something Greater" and wrote the Gym Rat book series to inspire young gymnasts. Her journey is a testament to persistence, reinvention, and the courage to embrace new challenges beyond gymnastics.

Episode Summary

In this episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks engages in a compelling dialogue with Mary Reiss Farias, a remarkable former gymnast whose journey of self-discovery and growth is both inspiring and transformative. As a collegiate athlete, Mary thrived not just on the mats but also in the nurturing environment of the University of Arizona, where her passion for gymnastics was matched by her desire to excel as a person. Through a narrative that intertwines personal struggles with professional achievements, Mary shares the pivotal moments that shaped her life after gymnastics, as she transitioned to coaching and later embraced her role as a mindset mentor helping others discover their true potential.

Mary's story is one of reinvention and resilience. She vividly recounts her journey from being a gymnast to operating a successful gymnastics gym, only to bravely shut it down in pursuit of something greater—a role in self-development coaching. This interview explores the emotional challenges of identity shifts, the power of setting audacious goals, and growing through change. In the face of adversity, Mary exemplifies what it means to embrace transition and thrive in a new arena. Her journey underscores a universal theme: that while life's chapters may close, new opportunities await for those willing to step into the unknown with courage and faith.

Key Takeaways

• Self-image transformation: Mary's journey highlights the significance of altering one's self-image to embrace new roles and challenges effectively.
• Resilience and growth: She illustrates that true growth comes from consistently pursuing new goals and evolving beyond past achievements.
• Navigating transitions: Mary’s career shifts serve as a powerful lesson on the courage needed to step away from comfortable identities and into new arenas of growth.
• Belief and audacity: Her story emphasizes the power of belief in oneself and the audacity to pursue dreams regardless of challenges.
• Role of mentorship and support: The value of nurturing environments and supportive mentors is highlighted as crucial elements for achieving success.

Notable Quotes

1. "I realized I was one of the only ones who still loved the sport." – Mary Reiss Farias
2. "I had to make a major self-image shift in order to realize that it was, that wasn't me… it's okay to move on." – Mary Reiss Farias
3. "You have to act as if you're that new version of you in order for that version to come alive." – Mary Reiss Farias
4. "Our duty is to be as much as we can be in this lifetime." – Mary Reiss Farias
5. "We're built to keep growing throughout our entire lives… not just until we're 22 and gymnastics is over." – Mary Reiss Farias

Resources

• Follow Mary Reiss Farias on Facebook for more insights into personal development.
• Discover more about her work with Proctor Gallagher and explore Bob Proctor's book, "You Were Born Rich."
• Check out the "Gym Rat" book series authored by Mary for aspiring young gymnasts.

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About the Guest

Ryan Kalish is a former Major League Baseball player who made his mark in professional sports as a promising athlete with the Boston Red Sox and Chicago Cubs. Known for his speed and athleticism, Kalish navigated a career punctuated with challenges, including numerous surgeries and injuries. After baseball, he transitioned into entrepreneurship, co-owning Birdman Bats, and explored therapeutic modalities, becoming a Pilates instructor. Currently, he is focused on innovative training techniques aimed at injury prevention and recovery, drawing on his experiences as a professional athlete.

Episode Summary

In this inspiring episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks chats with Ryan Kalish, a once-promising Major League Baseball player whose journey has been marked by incredible highs and devastating lows. From his early days as a celebrated athlete in New Jersey to his time with the Boston Red Sox and Chicago Cubs, Kalish's story is a testament to resilience and reinvention. Despite the physical and mental toll of enduring 14 surgeries, Kalish has transformed his experiences into new opportunities, paving the way for his next chapter as an entrepreneur and innovator in fitness training.

Ryan Kalish delves into the realities of his professional baseball career, sharing candid insights into his struggles with injuries and the mental health challenges he faced after retiring from the game. His journey underscores the importance of purpose and reinvention, as he channels his competitive spirit into entrepreneurial ventures and innovative fitness methodologies. Through this compelling narrative, listeners gain a deeper understanding of what it means to confront adversity and emerge with newfound strength and insight. Kalish's openness about his journey offers invaluable lessons on finding purpose beyond setbacks, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking inspiration in the face of life's challenges.

Key Takeaways

• Ryan Kalish's impressive athletic career was overshadowed by the challenges of 14 surgeries, underscoring the physical and mental resilience required to navigate professional sports.
• The transition from professional athlete to life beyond baseball involved a profound struggle with depression and a quest for renewed purpose.
• Kalish's entrepreneurial journey, including his involvement with Birdman Bats and real estate ventures, highlights his drive to find fulfillment post-baseball.
• The unique fitness concept developed by Kalish, focused on decompression and reverse methodologies, showcases his innovative approach to training and rehabilitation.
• The episode emphasizes the power of overcoming negative self-talk and the potential of pursuing groundbreaking ideas, no matter how unconventional they may seem.

Notable Quotes

1. "What am I going to do now and what's next? Like, I don't know anything else."
2. "It was extremely difficult mentally and physically… I always had to just have this fight mentality."
3. "I felt I was invincible… and that's just not… It wasn't true."
4. "Can the reverse of a squat be useful? I shouldn't feel ashamed about asking that question."
5. "Believe your negative self-talk, and you're going to have a lot of trouble."

Resources

• Ryan Kalish on Instagram: @iamryankalish
• Ryan Kalish on X: @Ryan_Kalish
• Birdman Bats: Entrepreneurial venture co-owned by Ryan Kalish.

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About the Guest

Carl Banks is a legendary NFL linebacker, recognized for his influential career with the New York Giants where he secured two Super Bowl championships. The #3 overall pick in the 1984 NFL Draft out of Michigan State, Banks transitioned successfully from sports to business. Currently, he serves as the president of G-III Sports, a division of G-III Apparel Group, overseeing the production of licensed apparel for major sports leagues. Banks also played a pivotal role in revitalizing the Starter Corporation, a once iconic sportswear brand, through innovative business leadership.

Episode Summary

In this engaging episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks sits down with NFL legend Carl Banks to delve into the story of his rise from a multi-sport athlete in Flint, Michigan to a renowned College All American, NFL All-Pro, and business leader. Brooks and Banks explore the trials and triumphs of Carl's journey, beginning with his standout college career at Michigan State, where he emerged as a Big Ten defensive standout despite playing for underperforming teams. Banks' journey is a lesson in resilience, underscored by influential mentorship, like that of NFL icon Jack Ham, who honed his skills for the professional stage.

In transitioning to the NFL's New York Giants, Carl Banks quickly cemented his status in the league with his championship spirit and fierce work ethic—a blend that went unnoticed by none, including fellow Giants like Lawrence Taylor. Beyond the gridiron, Carl's story doesn't halt; it shifts into a transformative business career where his creative passions and leadership spurred the rebirth of Starter as a pivotal brand in sports fashion. Through this insightful exchange, listeners gain a vivid understanding of Banks’ dedicated mindset and how key life lessons from sports can transfer into successful business ventures.

Key Takeaways

• Carl Banks’ journey from Flint, Michigan, to NFL stardom embodies perseverance and resilience, despite early adversities in college football.
• Influential mentorship from NFL legends like Jack Ham played a crucial role in Banks’ development and success in football.
• The transition from the NFL to business was natural for Banks, integrating his creative pursuits with leadership in sports apparel.
• Rejuvenating the Starter brand under Banks' guidance signifies his impact on sports fashion, making nostalgia relevant in contemporary markets.
• The principles of hard work and unwavering confidence are central to Carl’s career, both on and off the field.

Notable Quotes

• “I had a champion spirit, you understand? I always had great coaching, and not just great coaching, great teachers.”
• “George Perlis obviously had come from the pros, and he said to me, ‘you're a pro football player.’”
• “Lawrence Taylor practiced faster and harder than I ever played in a game in college, so I knew I had to ramp up.”
• “I just held on to my one and only call with Parcells post-draft… ‘I didn’t draft you to sit on the bench.’”
• “I knew where I stood in the Big Ten amongst players.”

Resources

• Carl Banks Instagram
• G-III Sports Apparel
• Starter Corporation

Dive into this episode to explore the captivating journey of Carl Banks, an inspiring figure whose life exemplifies relentless growth and innovation. Stay tuned for more insightful content from Becoming Undone® and uncover the stories of resilience that fuel top achievers.

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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