As the back-to-school shopping gears up, this might be a rather painful reminder that things aren't how you planned them to be. As an alienated parent, this might be a sensitive time for you. Maybe your firstborn is off to college.. Maybe your little one is entering a new school, and you're wondering who their teachers might be, what they'll wear on their first day, or if they received the money you sent them for school clothes.

I know... I get it. It's not how I planned motherhood to be, that is for sure.

But d'you know what makes things SOOOOO MUCH WORSE? That brain of yours. You know, the one that ruminates, self-deprecates, and beats you with the "shoulda" "coulda" talk.

In this episode I share with you my thoughts on neediness emotional childhood and emotional adulthood.

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Make today the day you set yourself free from the alienator's choke hold on your life.

Over the holiday weekend, I was thinking back to the day that I set myself felt free -- from the negativity, the anger, the helplessness -- there was a clear turning point in my healing, where I left all of the dark days behind me.

I'll share with you a few stories, some of my favorite healing metaphors, and a motivating mindset that you are more than welcome to adopt as your own!

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You know what I'm talking about... when you get wind of another accusation, insult, or disparaging remark that the alienating parent is slinging your way? Yup. As alienated parents, I've always said that we should each be assigned our own (king-size) catcher's mitt, designed specifically for this reason.

Jokes aside, it makes sense that you feel the need to defend yourself (and your reputation), but the thing is, doing so is never worth it. Investing your time - and your energy - into playing defense will steal your light. It will block your creativity and ability to access your higher thinking.

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Recently, I've noticed an uptick in suffering in the online communities (specifically for alienated parents). People seem to be particularly unhappy. Whether due to Mom's and Dad's days or summertime & custody scheduling, the WHO debacle, or all of them combined, something seems to be "in the air".

SO many of the parents are just handing over their power (to the alienator) on a silver platter.

Today, I'll share with you THE secret to happiness. You'll never need to rely on the alienator or your child for your happiness AGAIN (which is a good thing, because... well, read the above).

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Worry. Anxiety. They can be all-consuming when we're dealing with alienation.

Anxiety is a physical state. There are different kinds, but all anxiety derives from one thing: fear of the unknown. We cope with anxiety by:

Worry is an active mental state of fearing what is to come. The emotional brain thinks that the act of worrying is purposeful. We think that by doing it, we are protecting ourselves. But actually, it doesnt serve us at all.

In this episode I provide you with a few helpful tools to pull you out of worry and into a more productive mindset.

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Shame.  I think every human walking the face of this earth  (over the age of, say, 9) knows the feeling of shame.  It’s like a warm shower of “UGH”.  With alienation, shame can keep us absolutely debilitated.  

We (as a society) have been conditioned to believe that “good” parents raise and house their children until they are at least 18.  I think its a universal presumption that a parent who doesn’t have access to their children must have done something really awful unforgivable.  

So, devoted and capable as we are, we hide our pain and suffering away.  We make excuses, stuff it down, and contort our lives in the name of shame.  In the name of saving face.  And as a result, we end up suffering a great deal.  

In this episode, I share with you a recent story of my own shame, my thoughts on shame as it relates to alienation, and how you can overcome it.  

Adult Children of Alienation, Amy Baker

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During alienation, many parents (if not all of them) experience disenfranchised grief; we feel isolated, judged, and unsupported during the most painful period of our lives.

It's been proven again and again that connection is an essential resource for those healing from trauma. HUMAN CONNECTION. Fellowship. Support. Family. Companionship. Friendship. However you want to say it, THIS is the single most effective ingredient to restoring our mental health. Having an environment to open up and share our feelings is the best therapy a person can have.

The thing is, when alienation happens, reaching out is the last thing most of us do. Due to the very nature of our predicament, we feel safe with very few people. It's not uncommon for us to either clam up or act out in anger/fear. This raises questions from our peers, and many times, we end up not receiving the support we so desperately need. Instead, we grieve alone.

In this episode I share with you what disenfranchised grief is, how it relates to parental alienation, other ways it might show up, and what you can do to manage your mind around it.

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