Black Marriage Therapy

By Black Marriage Therapy

This show provides tools and resources for marriage improvement, hosted by Marriage Educator + Mental Health Advocate Christ-Lynn Smith, MA. She discusses various topics in marriage like communication... more

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The podcast currently has 128 episodes available.

Black Marriage Therapy episodes:

June 24, 2022 The Art of Negotiation: Communication Conversation Continued
When we think of the word negotiation most individuals would think of the court of law or the corporate board room. However, you rarely hear the word negotiation in the context of marriage. Often times when people hear of negotiations in marriage it's too late. The sad reality is that couples don't learn the art of negotiation until they are in divorce court contemptuously divvying their assets and children. Negotiating in marriage may seem like a cold pragmatic relationship that is lacking in romantic love. But the opposite is true. In this episode, we will discuss what negotiation is NOT, what it is, barriers to effective negotiation, and how to negotiate in marriage.
Podcast Mentions
Marriage Builders: Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr. Website
He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation: Amazon Link to Book
The Policy of Joint Agreement: POJA
Couples Institute: Super Negotiating for Couples
Psychology Today: The Right Way to Negotiate With Your Partner | Psychology Today
Study: Bargaining Behind the Scenes: Spousal Negotiation, Labor, and Work–Family Burnout - Beth A. Livingston, 2014
Libby Audiobook Library: Libby App: Free ebooks & audiobooks from your library | by OverDrive
Free Digital Books: Z-Library
BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/
TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/
CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
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47min
June 02, 2022 The Stories We Tell Ourselves
The American psychologist Donald Meichenbaum claims that we are all “storytellers” and that we should be aware of the stories we tell ourselves and others. Some people might see themselves as “prisoners of the past” or as “stubborn victims.” These phrases are not idle metaphors; they are the organizing schemas that color the ways individuals view themselves, their world, and their future. In this episode, we will discuss the ABCs of thought, how our thoughts affect our marriage, and warning signs and tips.
Podcast Mentions
Dr. Brene Brown: Dr. Brene Brown Info
Rising Strong: Amazon Link to Book
Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/
TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/
CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
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29min
May 12, 2022 Trust Issues
Trust is gained in drops and lost in buckets. Many of us have heard this quote before and know it to be true. Whether you were the one who lost trust in someone or the person who spilled the bucket; everyone knows the feeling of losing trust in someone or losing someone's trust. On either end the feeling sucks. These betrayals can make it hard to trust in the future, especially with an intimate partner. However, trust begets trust so in order to build a trusting relationship it is necessary that we give trust. In this episode, we define trust and trust issues, how to repair broken trust, and tips on how to build trust in a relationship.
Podcast Mentions
John Gottman: The Gottman Institute
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal: Amazon Link to Book
Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/
TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/
CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
...more
31min
April 21, 2022 Partnership
Nothing will give you a real assessment of your relationships like problems, issues, or crises. For us, the assessment was given by a health scare. But I am grateful that the assessment showed how far we have truly come in our relationship. 5 years ago Junior and I decided to move our relationship from role-oriented to goal-oriented and to model our relationship based on partnership. Since this, our relationship has transformed for the better. In this episode we will discuss, working toward the goal, why partnership is so important to me as a woman, and tips to build partnership in your relationship.
Podcast Mentions
Dr. John Gottman: The Gottman Institute
Dr. John Gottman: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/
TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/
CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
...more
28min
April 14, 2022 The Silent Killer in Relationships
According to Brené Brown, a researcher at the University of Houston, shame is an “intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” It’s an emotion that affects all of us and profoundly shapes the way we interact in the world. So, what does shame have to do with relationships and marriage? A lot! At its core shame affects connection which is a foundational piece of any relationship. Shame tells you that if my spouse finds out who I truly am then they will not love me. So instead I will hide. In this episode, I discuss the definition of shame, what it looks like, its effect on relationships, my ongoing experience with shame, and what experts say we can do to overcome shame.
Podcast Mentions
Dr. Brené Brown: Info
The Gifts of Imperfection: Amazon Link to Book
Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/
TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/
CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
...more
34min
March 10, 2022 Message
There is no episode for this week. We will be prepping for the arrival of our new baby and I will be finishing up some final exams for this semester. thank you all for the support and love you have shown us. This week take some time and invest in yourself and your marriage. See you next week 😊
Join us every Thursday for more topics on love and marriage. If you have any questions you would like to be discussed on the show feel free to send a dm to @blackmarriagetherapy or email [email protected]
Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show. Thank you!
Podcast Socials:
Instagram,Twitter, Facebook: @blackmarriagetherapy
Podcast Mentions
Black Woman, Black Love by Dianne Stewart: Amazon Link
Ester Perel: Ester Perel Info
Dr. John Gottman: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
God Attachment: Amazon Link to Book
Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/
TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/
CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
...more
3min
March 03, 2022Communication | 3 C's of Marriage Series
Before you get married most people will tell you that communication is foundational and super important to the success of your relationship. But what is communication? how can you communicate effectively? and what do we do when communication has gone off the rails and we are in conflict?. In this episode, we discuss all of these things and help to offer a new perspective on communication that can help it not seem like such a daunting task.
Podcast Mentions
Dr. John Gottman: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/
TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/
CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
Challenges to Communication
Not communicating

Fearing that things will get worse-conflict delayed is conflict multiplied

Expecting your spouse to be a mind reader

Trying to be right

Getting Defensive or shuti8ng down-being triggered

Bad Listening

Aggressive

Junior and Chris Rules of Engagement
RESPECT

Do not use absolutes (all, non, must, except, every, not, always, just, only, and never)

Allow your spouse to try again.

Cheat for your spouse- tell them what you expect from the conversation

Be willing to be wrong

Be accountable

Don’t lie, be honest.

“I” statements
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34min
February 24, 2022 Intimacy (INTO-ME-SEE)| 3 C'S of Marriage Series
We are experiencing unprecedented times because although we are more connected than we have ever been we are also more alone than we have ever been. I believe what most people are seeking is intimacy they are looking to be seen. In this episode, we discuss Intimacy (Into-Me-See) in marriage and its importance as a foundational piece in our relationships. We are also joined by a special guest my hubby Junior Smith.
Podcast Mentions
Ester Perel: Ester Perel Info
God Attachment: Amazon Link to Book
Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/
TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/
CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
...more
37min
February 17, 2022 Commitment | 3 C's of Marriage Series
On our wedding day, we blissfully stand in front of one another and we promise to stick together forever. We make a commitment but do we truly understand what we are committing to and what it takes. In this episode, we discuss how to keep the promise you made and what it takes to be committed.
Join us every Thursday for more topics on love and marriage. If you have any questions you would like to be discussed on the show feel free to send a dm to @blackmarriagetherapy or email [email protected]
Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show. Thank you!
Podcast Socials:
Instagram,Twitter, Facebook: @blackmarriagetherapy
...more
23min
February 10, 2022 Black Love- Past, Present, and Future
Black Love is not just a hashtag or a trend it is a necessity. Because of our history in this country, we have had to celebrate and support our love. We have come through hell and high water as a community but we have still persevered and so has our love. In this episode, I discuss black love, its past present, and future.
Join us every Thursday for more topics on love and marriage. If you have any questions you would like to be discussed on the show feel free to send a dm to @blackmarriagetherapy or email [email protected]
Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show. Thank you!
Podcast Socials:
Instagram,Twitter, Facebook: @blackmarriagetherapy
Podcast Mentions
Black Woman, Black Love by Dianne Stewart: Amazon Link
Black Marriage Statistics: Statistics
Study on Black Marriages: Study on black marriages
...more
25min

FAQs about Black Marriage Therapy:

How many episodes does Black Marriage Therapy have?

The podcast currently has 128 episodes available.

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