Back in the day, we had the tender years doctrine that if you had a small child that the mother stayed home for most of it. That played into many custody decisions. The roles of men and women in marriage have changed a lot in the past 50 years. The current law says there is no preference one way or another. 

Although most of the cases we try are boobs versus dudes, there are cases where it's dudes versus dudes or boobs versus boobs... 

While we empathize with parents who are living in a new normal where they don't get to see their child as often as they would like because of divorce, it's not always the case anymore that custody goes to the mother. Many fathers step up and that's what we want to see because it is often in the best interest of the children.

Just because dad hasn't done it, doesn't mean he can't or doesn't deserve a chance to try.  

Most cases in wake county start at 50-50 custody agreement with no preference. 

You can't take a 100% household and divide it into two 100% houses. There will need to be a compromise. 

We discuss the difference between temporary and permanent custody orders. 

We talk about nesting, where the kids stay in the same house and mom and dad rotate into that home. 

We talk about how sometimes in a courtroom the judge will admonish the parents for being vindictive or not putting the best interest of the kids ahead of their personal feelings. 

We talk about the current news of Kelly Clarkson's divorce who was recently awarded primary physical custody due to trust issues between the parties and there being conflict.