C-PTSD: Let's Make Sense Of This Sh*t

Boundaries, Guilt, and the Messy Miracle of Healing: Why Saying No is Essential for CPTSD Recovery


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Setting boundaries after trauma isn’t just hard—it can feel impossible. In this deeply honest episode, Gregory tackles why those of us with CPTSD struggle to say no, feel guilty for protecting ourselves, and often lose our sense of self in the process. Through raw listener stories, science-backed insights, and practical tools, Gregory explores how healthy boundaries can transform not only your relationships but your relationship with yourself. If you’ve ever felt like your needs don’t matter or that “no” is a dirty word, this episode will help you reclaim your right to take up space and choose yourself, guilt-free.

Key Takeaways
  • Why boundary-setting feels so threatening for trauma survivors—and why it’s a vital skill for recovery.
  • How to identify the difference between boundaries and walls (and why both show up).
  • Practical scripts, tools, and body-based techniques to start setting boundaries—without over-explaining or crumbling at the first sign of pushback.
  • How to handle the inevitable guilt, grief, and relationship changes that come with healthier limits.
  • The neuroscience of boundaries: how practicing them actually rewires your brain for healing.
What You’ll Discover
  • Why people-pleasing and boundary collapse are survival strategies—not character flaws.
  • Real listener stories of messy, brave boundary-setting (and what happened after).
  • What to do when loved ones test your limits, and how to respond to guilt-trips and emotional blackmail.
  • The link between boundaries, self-worth, and physical health.
  • Why “no” is a complete sentence—and how boundaries can actually create deeper intimacy.
Resources Mentioned
  • Trauma and Recovery by Dr. Judith Herman
  • Dr. Dan Siegel’s work on neuroplasticity and trauma
  • Dr. John Gottman’s research on boundaries in relationships
  • Dr. Bessel van der Kolk’s The Body Keeps the Score
  • Dr. Gabor Maté on boundaries and chronic health
  • Dr. Kristin Neff’s self-compassion research
  • Dr. Martha Stout on dissociation and boundary repair

Coming up next: We’ll dig into the connection between CPTSD and triggers—why certain moments, sounds, or situations can hijack your brain and body, and the most effective tools for grounding and regaining control. Plus: simple, research-backed ways to build emotional safety even in stressful environments. Don’t miss it!

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