布衣之声

Hello, everybody, thanks for enjoying with us "read for you",this is Chen Yuanli(Michelle), today i will read a short english passage for you:

Time and Love

Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all the others, including Love.

One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. All the feelings prepared their boats to leave .

Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island paradise until the last possible moment.

When the island was almost totally under, love decided it was time to leave.

She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then Richness was passing by in a grand boat. Love asked, "Richness, can I come with you on your boat?"

Richness answered, "I'm sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you anywhere."

Then Love decided to ask Vanity who was passing in a beautiful vessel for help. Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please!" "I can't help you," Vanity said, "You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat."

Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, "Sadness, please let me go with you."

Sadness answered, "Love, I'm sorry, but, I just need to be alone now."

Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, "Happiness, please take me with you." But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear Love calling to him.

Love began to cry. Then, she heard a voice say, "Come Love, I will take you with me." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name.

When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder.

Love then found Knowledge and asked, "Who was it that helped me?""It was Time,' Knowledge answered. "But why did Time help me when no one else would?"Love asked.

Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered, "Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

时间与爱

从前有一个岛，所有的情感都住在那里：幸福、悲伤、知识和所有其它的，爱也不例外。一天，所有的情感听说小岛即将沉没，因此建造小船，纷纷离开，除了爱。

爱是唯一留下来的，因为她希望能坚持到最后一刻。

小岛即将沉没了，爱决定请求帮助。

富有驾着一艘大船从爱身边经过，爱说，

“富有，你能带上我么？”

富有回答道：“不行，我的船上载满金银财宝，没有你待的地方。”

虚荣坐着漂亮的小船从爱身边驶过，爱问：“虚荣，你能帮助我么？”

虚荣说：“不行，你全身湿透，会弄脏我的船。”

悲伤的船靠近了，爱问：“悲伤，请带我走吧。”

“哦……爱，我太难过了，想一个人呆着。”

幸福经过爱的身边，他太开心了，根本没听见爱在呼唤。

突然，一个声音喊道：“来，爱，我带你走。” 是一位老者。爱太高兴了，甚至忘了问他的名字。当他们来到岸上，老者即自己离开了。爱才意识到她亏欠老人的太多。

于是，爱找到知识并询问：“帮助我的是谁？”

知识回答：“他是时间。”

爱又问：“为什么时间愿意帮助我，而其他人都不愿意？”

知识睿智地微笑道：“因为，唯有时间懂得爱的伟大。”

在黑暗中并肩行走

作者： 周国平/朗诵：岭南布衣

人们常常说，人与人之间，尤其相爱的人之间，应该互相了解和理解，最好做到彼此透明，心心相印。史怀泽却在《我的青少年时代》(中译文见陈泽环译《敬畏生命》一书) 中说，这是不可能的，即使可能，任何人也无权对别人提出这种要求。“不仅存在着肉体上的羞耻，而且还存在着精神上的羞耻，我们应该尊重它。心灵也有其外衣，我们不应脱掉它。”如同对于上帝的神秘一样，对于他人灵魂的神秘，我们同样不能像看一本属于自己的书那样去阅读和认识，而只能给予爱和信任。每个人对于别人来说都是一个秘密，我们应该顺应这个事实。相爱的人们也只是“在黑暗中并肩行走”，所能做到的仅是各自努力追求心中的光明，并互相感受到这种努力，互相鼓励，而“不需要注视别人的脸和探视别人的心灵”。

读着这些精彩无比的议论，我无言而折服，它们使我瞥见了史怀泽的“敬畏生命”伦理学的深度。凡是有着深刻而丰富的内心生活的人，必然会深知一切精神事物的神秘性并对之充满敬畏之情，史怀泽就是这样的一个人。在他看来，一切生命现象都是世界某种神秘的精神本质的显现，由此他提出了敬畏一切生命的主张。在一切生命现象中，尤以人的心灵生活最接近世界的这种精神本质。因而，他认为对于敬畏世界之神秘本质的人来说，“敬畏他人的精神本质”乃是不言而喻的事情。

以互相理解为人际关系为鹄的，其根源就在于不懂得人的心灵生活的神秘性。按照这一思路，人们一方面非常看重别人是否理解自己，甚至公开索取理解。至少在性爱中，索取理解似乎成了一种最正当的行为，而指责对方不理解自己则成了最严厉的谴责，有时候还被用作破裂前的最后通牒。另一方面，人们又非常踊跃地要求理解别人，甚至以此名义强迫别人袒露内心的一切，一旦遭到拒绝，便斥以缺乏信任。在爱情中，在亲情中，在其他较亲密的交往中，这种因强求理解和被理解而造成的有声或无声的战争，我们见得还少吗?可是，仔细想想，我们对自己又真正理解了多少?一个人懂得了自己理解自己之困难，他就不会强求别人 完全理解自己，也不会奢望自己完全理解别人了。

在最内在的精神生活中，我们每个人都是孤独的，爱并不能消除这种孤独，但正因为由己及人地领悟到了别人的孤独，我们内心才会对别人充满最诚挚的爱。我们在黑暗中并肩而行，走在各自的朝圣路上，无法知道是否在走向同一个圣地，因为我们无法向别人甚至向自己说清心中的圣地究竟是怎样的。然而，同样的朝圣热情使我们相信，也许存在着同一个圣地。作为有灵魂的存在物，人的伟大和悲壮尽在于此了。

在黑暗中并肩行走

作者： 周国平/朗诵：岭南布衣

人们常常说，人与人之间，尤其相爱的人之间，应该互相了解和理解，最好做到彼此透明，心心相印。史怀泽却在《我的青少年时代》(中译文见陈泽环译《敬畏生命》一书) 中说，这是不可能的，即使可能，任何人也无权对别人提出这种要求。“不仅存在着肉体上的羞耻，而且还存在着精神上的羞耻，我们应该尊重它。心灵也有其外衣，我们不应脱掉它。”如同对于上帝的神秘一样，对于他人灵魂的神秘，我们同样不能像看一本属于自己的书那样去阅读和认识，而只能给予爱和信任。每个人对于别人来说都是一个秘密，我们应该顺应这个事实。相爱的人们也只是“在黑暗中并肩行走”，所能做到的仅是各自努力追求心中的光明，并互相感受到这种努力，互相鼓励，而“不需要注视别人的脸和探视别人的心灵”。

读着这些精彩无比的议论，我无言而折服，它们使我瞥见了史怀泽的“敬畏生命”伦理学的深度。凡是有着深刻而丰富的内心生活的人，必然会深知一切精神事物的神秘性并对之充满敬畏之情，史怀泽就是这样的一个人。在他看来，一切生命现象都是世界某种神秘的精神本质的显现，由此他提出了敬畏一切生命的主张。在一切生命现象中，尤以人的心灵生活最接近世界的这种精神本质。因而，他认为对于敬畏世界之神秘本质的人来说，“敬畏他人的精神本质”乃是不言而喻的事情。

以互相理解为人际关系为鹄的，其根源就在于不懂得人的心灵生活的神秘性。按照这一思路，人们一方面非常看重别人是否理解自己，甚至公开索取理解。至少在性爱中，索取理解似乎成了一种最正当的行为，而指责对方不理解自己则成了最严厉的谴责，有时候还被用作破裂前的最后通牒。另一方面，人们又非常踊跃地要求理解别人，甚至以此名义强迫别人袒露内心的一切，一旦遭到拒绝，便斥以缺乏信任。在爱情中，在亲情中，在其他较亲密的交往中，这种因强求理解和被理解而造成的有声或无声的战争，我们见得还少吗?可是，仔细想想，我们对自己又真正理解了多少?一个人懂得了自己理解自己之困难，他就不会强求别人 完全理解自己，也不会奢望自己完全理解别人了。

在最内在的精神生活中，我们每个人都是孤独的，爱并不能消除这种孤独，但正因为由己及人地领悟到了别人的孤独，我们内心才会对别人充满最诚挚的爱。我们在黑暗中并肩而行，走在各自的朝圣路上，无法知道是否在走向同一个圣地，因为我们无法向别人甚至向自己说清心中的圣地究竟是怎样的。然而，同样的朝圣热情使我们相信，也许存在着同一个圣地。作为有灵魂的存在物，人的伟大和悲壮尽在于此了。

春城在哭泣

作者：岭南布衣/朗诵：杨青云

我的血液沸腾了

我的心灵在呐喊

我沸腾的血液

充斥着中华图腾的利剑

我呐喊的心灵

呼唤着凡赛堤的的神棒

五千多年炎黄文明的漫漫长卷

用泣血的目光悲悯地审视着昆明

这个正在经历着苦难的美丽春城

暴力恐怖分子的疯狂

屠戮着人类和平的神圣

戕害着华夏民族的精神

那片融融春意的土地啊

怎经得起这般的血雨腥风

我们有九百六十万平方公里的土地

我们有十四亿之多的华夏子孙

我们有雄师百万的钢铁长城

怎容你暴戾肆虐张狂

干涸的土地上有伏羲八卦的神秘

清澈的河流里流淌着七彩云南的浪漫

香格里拉的曼妙

延续了珠穆朗玛的巍峨传承

如此壮阔的祖国大地

如此美丽的大好河山

如此多姿多彩的灿烂文化

如此铿锵的民族强音

却在魑魅魍魉的喧闹声里

让我们不屈的灵魂

多了些痛苦和彷徨

让中华神盾的威武来吧

让中华神剑的英姿来吧

还有我们五星红旗的护卫者们

还有我们英勇的虎狼之师

一起来，

铺天盖地地来

擎起如纛的正义之旗

把邪恶和污秽 沉渣和黑暗

一起震慑 扫荡 毁灭

还我中华朗朗乾坤

春城在哭泣

作者：岭南布衣/朗诵：杨青云

我的血液沸腾了

我的心灵在呐喊

我沸腾的血液

充斥着中华图腾的利剑

我呐喊的心灵

呼唤着凡赛堤的的神棒

五千多年炎黄文明的漫漫长卷

用泣血的目光悲悯地审视着昆明

这个正在经历着苦难的美丽春城

暴力恐怖分子的疯狂

屠戮着人类和平的神圣

戕害着华夏民族的精神

那片融融春意的土地啊

怎经得起这般的血雨腥风

我们有九百六十万平方公里的土地

我们有十四亿之多的华夏子孙

我们有雄师百万的钢铁长城

怎容你暴戾肆虐张狂

干涸的土地上有伏羲八卦的神秘

清澈的河流里流淌着七彩云南的浪漫

香格里拉的曼妙

延续了珠穆朗玛的巍峨传承

如此壮阔的祖国大地

如此美丽的大好河山

如此多姿多彩的灿烂文化

如此铿锵的民族强音

却在魑魅魍魉的喧闹声里

让我们不屈的灵魂

多了些痛苦和彷徨

让中华神盾的威武来吧

让中华神剑的英姿来吧

还有我们五星红旗的护卫者们

还有我们英勇的虎狼之师

一起来，

铺天盖地地来

擎起如纛的正义之旗

把邪恶和污秽 沉渣和黑暗

一起震慑 扫荡 毁灭

还我中华朗朗乾坤

大家好，欢迎收听荔枝FM42920布衣之声。今天给大家分享的是一篇英语小故事，一杯牛奶！故事讲述了年轻女子在小男孩穷困潦倒之时施恩于小男孩一杯牛奶，日后已经成为一个著名医生的小男孩在这个女士重病时给予关怀并付清所有账单。故事告诉我们，施恩与感恩同样可以使人幸福和快乐。正如一首歌里唱到的：只要人人都献出一份爱，世界将变成美好的明天！

A Glass of Milk

One day, a poor boy who was trying to pay his way through school by selling goods door to door found that he only had one dime left. He was hungry so he decided to beg for a meal at the next house.

However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so she brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, and then asked, “How much do I owe you?”

“You don’t owe me anything,” she replied. “Mother has taught me never to accept pay for a kindness.” He said, “Then I thank you from the bottom of my heart.” As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but it also increased his faith in God and the human race. He was about to give up and quit before this point.

Years later the young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where specialists can be called in to study her rare disease. Dr. Howard Kelly, now famous was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes. Immediately, he rose and went down through the hospital hall into her room.

Dressed in his doctor’s gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room and determined to do his best to save her life. From that day on, he gave special attention to her case.

After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it and then wrote something on the side. The bill was sent to her room. She was afraid to open it because she was positive that it would take the rest of her life to pay it off. Finally she looked, and the note on the side of the bill caught her attention. She read these words

“Paid in full with a glass of milk.”

(Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly

Tears of joy flooded her eyes as she prayed silently: “Thank You, God. Your love has spread through human hearts and hands.”

一杯牛奶

一天，一个贫穷的小男孩为了攒够学费正挨家挨户地推销商品。饥寒交迫的他摸遍全身，却只有一角钱。于是他决定向下一户人家讨口饭吃。

然而，当一位美丽的年轻女子打开房门的时候，这个小男孩却有点不知所措了。他没有要饭，只乞求给他一口水喝。这位女子看到他饥饿的样子，就倒了一大杯牛奶给他。男孩慢慢地喝完牛奶，问道：“我应该付多少钱?”

年轻女子微笑着回答：“一分钱也不用付。我妈妈教导我，施以爱心，不图回报。”男孩说：“那么，就请接受我由衷的感谢吧!”说完，霍华德?凯利就离开了这户人家。此时的他不仅自己浑身是劲儿，而且更加相信上帝和整个人类。本来，他都打算放弃了。

数年之后，那位女子得了一种罕见的重病，当地医生对此束手无策。最后，她被转到大城市医治，由专家会诊治疗。大名鼎鼎的霍华德?凯利医生也参加了医疗方案的制定。当他听到病人来自的那个城镇的名字时，一个奇怪的念头霎时间闪过他的脑际。他马上起身直奔她的病房。

身穿手术服的凯利医生来到病房，一眼就认出了恩人。回到会诊室后，他决心一定要竭尽所能来治好她的病。从那天起，他就特别关照这个对自己有恩的病人。

经过艰苦的努力，手术成功了。凯利医生要求把医药费通知单送到他那里，他看了一下，便在通知单的旁边签了字。当医药费通知单送到她的病房时，她不敢看。因为她确信，治病的费用将会花费她整个余生来偿还。最后，她还是鼓起勇气，翻开了医药费通知单，旁边的那行小字引起了她的注意，她不禁轻声读了出来：

“医药费已付：一杯牛奶。”

(签名)霍华德.凯利医生

喜悦的泪水溢出了她的眼睛，她默默地祈祷着：“谢谢你，上帝，你的爱已通过人类的心灵和双手传播了。”

大家好，欢迎收听荔枝FM42920布衣之声。今天给大家分享的是一篇英语小故事，一杯牛奶！故事讲述了年轻女子在小男孩穷困潦倒之时施恩于小男孩一杯牛奶，日后已经成为一个著名医生的小男孩在这个女士重病时给予关怀并付清所有账单。故事告诉我们，施恩与感恩同样可以使人幸福和快乐。正如一首歌里唱到的：只要人人都献出一份爱，世界将变成美好的明天！

A Glass of Milk

One day, a poor boy who was trying to pay his way through school by selling goods door to door found that he only had one dime left. He was hungry so he decided to beg for a meal at the next house.

However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so she brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, and then asked, “How much do I owe you?”

“You don’t owe me anything,” she replied. “Mother has taught me never to accept pay for a kindness.” He said, “Then I thank you from the bottom of my heart.” As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but it also increased his faith in God and the human race. He was about to give up and quit before this point.

Years later the young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where specialists can be called in to study her rare disease. Dr. Howard Kelly, now famous was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes. Immediately, he rose and went down through the hospital hall into her room.

Dressed in his doctor’s gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room and determined to do his best to save her life. From that day on, he gave special attention to her case.

After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it and then wrote something on the side. The bill was sent to her room. She was afraid to open it because she was positive that it would take the rest of her life to pay it off. Finally she looked, and the note on the side of the bill caught her attention. She read these words

“Paid in full with a glass of milk.”

(Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly

Tears of joy flooded her eyes as she prayed silently: “Thank You, God. Your love has spread through human hearts and hands.”

一杯牛奶

一天，一个贫穷的小男孩为了攒够学费正挨家挨户地推销商品。饥寒交迫的他摸遍全身，却只有一角钱。于是他决定向下一户人家讨口饭吃。

然而，当一位美丽的年轻女子打开房门的时候，这个小男孩却有点不知所措了。他没有要饭，只乞求给他一口水喝。这位女子看到他饥饿的样子，就倒了一大杯牛奶给他。男孩慢慢地喝完牛奶，问道：“我应该付多少钱?”

年轻女子微笑着回答：“一分钱也不用付。我妈妈教导我，施以爱心，不图回报。”男孩说：“那么，就请接受我由衷的感谢吧!”说完，霍华德?凯利就离开了这户人家。此时的他不仅自己浑身是劲儿，而且更加相信上帝和整个人类。本来，他都打算放弃了。

数年之后，那位女子得了一种罕见的重病，当地医生对此束手无策。最后，她被转到大城市医治，由专家会诊治疗。大名鼎鼎的霍华德?凯利医生也参加了医疗方案的制定。当他听到病人来自的那个城镇的名字时，一个奇怪的念头霎时间闪过他的脑际。他马上起身直奔她的病房。

身穿手术服的凯利医生来到病房，一眼就认出了恩人。回到会诊室后，他决心一定要竭尽所能来治好她的病。从那天起，他就特别关照这个对自己有恩的病人。

经过艰苦的努力，手术成功了。凯利医生要求把医药费通知单送到他那里，他看了一下，便在通知单的旁边签了字。当医药费通知单送到她的病房时，她不敢看。因为她确信，治病的费用将会花费她整个余生来偿还。最后，她还是鼓起勇气，翻开了医药费通知单，旁边的那行小字引起了她的注意，她不禁轻声读了出来：

“医药费已付：一杯牛奶。”

(签名)霍华德.凯利医生

喜悦的泪水溢出了她的眼睛，她默默地祈祷着：“谢谢你，上帝，你的爱已通过人类的心灵和双手传播了。”

May You Always Have Positive Thoughts

May every day of your life bring you fresh hopes for tomorrow---because hopes give us all our reason for trying.

May each new day bring a feeling of excitement, joy, and a wonderful sense of expectation. Expect the best, and you'll get it.

May you find peace in simple things, because those are the ones that will always be there.

May you remember the good times and forget the sorrow and pain, for the good times will remind you of how special your life has been.

May you always feel secure and loved, and know you are the best.

May you experience all the good things in life---the happiness of realizing your dreams, the joy of feeling worthwhile, and the satisfaction of knowing you've succeeded.

May you find warmth in others, expressions of love and kindness, smiles that encourage you, and friends who are loyal and honest.

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May you realize the importance of patience and accept others for what they are. With understanding and love, you'll find the good in every heart.

May you have faith in others and the ablity to be vulnerable. Open your heart and really share the miracle of love and intimacy.

Above all, may you always have positive thoughts.

何任远，2008年本科毕业于广东海洋大学外国语学院文学英语系；2010年硕士毕业于广东外语外贸大学英语语言文化学院，2010年-2013年在广州广播电视台担任英语记者，负责广州市内文化与外事线的采编与剪辑及后期配音工作。现从事跨媒体领域合作。

愿你充满正能量

愿你生命中的每一天都对未来充满新的希望－－因为有了希望，我们才有追求。

愿激情、欢愉和期待的美好感觉成为你每一天的主旋律。追求完美，你终将如愿以偿。

愿你在平凡小事中觅得平和心境，它们呈现出生活最真实的面目。

愿你铭记甜美幸福的时刻，让悲伤和痛苦烟消云散。对美好生活的回忆能让你体会到生命特殊含义。

愿你时时拥有安全和被爱的感觉。要知道，你是最棒的。

愿你体会到生活赐予的所有美好感觉－－美梦成真的快乐，努力有所值的欢欣，以及大功告成的满足。

愿你能感受人们的温情、爱心与善良，看到他们沁人心脾的微笑，也交到忠诚正直的朋友

愿你意识到忍耐的重要，接受别人的优缺点。理解和爱能让你看到他们每个人都有闪光的一面。

愿你怀抱对他人的信心，不怕接受责难。敞开你的心扉，亲密无间的爱能不可思议地创造奇迹。

最重要的是，愿你的思想永远都充满阳光。

May You Always Have Positive Thoughts

May every day of your life bring you fresh hopes for tomorrow---because hopes give us all our reason for trying.

May each new day bring a feeling of excitement, joy, and a wonderful sense of expectation. Expect the best, and you'll get it.

May you find peace in simple things, because those are the ones that will always be there.

May you remember the good times and forget the sorrow and pain, for the good times will remind you of how special your life has been.

May you always feel secure and loved, and know you are the best.

May you experience all the good things in life---the happiness of realizing your dreams, the joy of feeling worthwhile, and the satisfaction of knowing you've succeeded.

May you find warmth in others, expressions of love and kindness, smiles that encourage you, and friends who are loyal and honest.

。

May you realize the importance of patience and accept others for what they are. With understanding and love, you'll find the good in every heart.

May you have faith in others and the ablity to be vulnerable. Open your heart and really share the miracle of love and intimacy.

Above all, may you always have positive thoughts.

何任远，2008年本科毕业于广东海洋大学外国语学院文学英语系；2010年硕士毕业于广东外语外贸大学英语语言文化学院，2010年-2013年在广州广播电视台担任英语记者，负责广州市内文化与外事线的采编与剪辑及后期配音工作。现从事跨媒体领域合作。

愿你充满正能量

愿你生命中的每一天都对未来充满新的希望－－因为有了希望，我们才有追求。

愿激情、欢愉和期待的美好感觉成为你每一天的主旋律。追求完美，你终将如愿以偿。

愿你在平凡小事中觅得平和心境，它们呈现出生活最真实的面目。

愿你铭记甜美幸福的时刻，让悲伤和痛苦烟消云散。对美好生活的回忆能让你体会到生命特殊含义。

愿你时时拥有安全和被爱的感觉。要知道，你是最棒的。

愿你体会到生活赐予的所有美好感觉－－美梦成真的快乐，努力有所值的欢欣，以及大功告成的满足。

愿你能感受人们的温情、爱心与善良，看到他们沁人心脾的微笑，也交到忠诚正直的朋友

愿你意识到忍耐的重要，接受别人的优缺点。理解和爱能让你看到他们每个人都有闪光的一面。

愿你怀抱对他人的信心，不怕接受责难。敞开你的心扉，亲密无间的爱能不可思议地创造奇迹。

最重要的是，愿你的思想永远都充满阳光。

hello, everybody, Welcome to LizhiFM42920 the voice of buyi. Today let us enjoy together a short english passage A father's job is unique.

古今中外，在教育孩子的问题上，一直存在着各种不同的看法和做法。我们在孩子初期教育的实施过程中，都融进了自己的方式和方法。父母在家庭教育中，都各自担负有特殊的责任，扮演着特殊的角色，做的好就会相得益彰，做的不好，则事倍功半。无论如何，有一点，是肯定的，无论父亲还是母亲，您再怎么努力，都替代不了对方的角色功能，正如近几天在微信平台上大家纷纷转发和热议的一篇文章所提到的，手足之情，父母也同样无法替代。

A father's job is unique.

If parents had job descriptions mine would read: organize bills, playmates, laundry, meals, laundry, carpool, laundry, snacks, outings and shopping, and laundry.

The only thing on my husband's description would be the word “fun” written in big red letters along the top. Although he is a selfless care-giver and provider, our children think of him more as a combination of a jungle gym and bozo and clown.

Our parenting styles compliment each other. His style is a nonstop adventure where no one has to worry about washing their hands, eating vegetables, or getting cavities. My style is similar to Mussolini. I'm too busy worrying to be fun. Besides, every time I try, I am constantly outdone by my husband.

I try to tell myself I am a good parent even if my husband does things I can't do. I can make sure my children are safe, warm, and dry. I'll stand in line for five hours so the children can see Santa at the mall or be first in line to see the latest Disney movie. But I can't wire the VCR so my children can watch their favorite video.

As a mother I can do a lot of things for my children, but no matter how hard I try I can never be their father.

父亲的角色无可替代

如果为人父母有职务简述的话，我的“职务简述”将会包括如下内容：管理账单和孩子们的玩耍同伴、洗衣、做饭、洗衣、安排与人合伙用车、洗衣、准备小吃、安排短途旅游、购物、洗衣。

我先生的“职务简述”是在上端用红色写出的两个大字——“乐子”。尽管他无私地给予孩子们百般关爱，尽其所能为他们提供所需，我们的孩子们更多的时候还是把他看作攀缘游戏架、大傻瓜和小丑的三合一。

我们俩为人父母的风格是互补的。他的风格是持续不断的探险，在这过程中，没有人需要操心孩子是不是洗手了，是不是吃蔬菜了，或者会不会长蛀牙。我的风格则类似墨索里尼的执政风格。我太忙了，为这操心，为那操心，哪里顾得上找什么乐子。再者，每次我试图逗孩子们开心，我总是被我先生比下去。

我劝慰自己我是个好妈妈，尽管我先生能做的事情我做不了。我可以确保我的孩子们是安全的、暖和的、干干爽爽的。我可以排队等5个小时，让孩子们在大商场里看到圣诞老人——或者第一个排队让孩子们看最新的迪斯尼影片。但是我不会给录像机接上电线，好让孩子们看他们喜欢的录像。

作为一个母亲，我可以为我的孩子们做许多事情，但是不管我怎样努力——我永远成为不了他们的父亲。