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Can You Work Together with an Abuser? [299]


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In today’s episode, I answer a listener's question about co-parenting with an abusive ex and challenge the idea of "working together" with abusers. You’ll learn the importance of shifting the focus away from the abuser and toward personal healing and growth.


Key Takeaways:

  • Stop investing emotional energy into trying to "fix" or "work with" an abusive person. It's a cycle that leads nowhere.
  • Redefine what it means to be a "father"—biological ties do not make someone a healthy or safe parent.
  • Avoid gaslighting your children by pretending their experiences with their abusive parent are fun or normal.
  • It is impossible to thrive while working with someone who thrives on control and abuse. The focus should be on healing yourself and your children.

Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

  • Episodes mentioned with Bob Hamp: Episode 1, Episode 76, Episode 277, and Episode 297.
  • Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote another book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse.
  • My newest book, All the Scary Little Gods, is a spiritual memoir about healing from religious trauma and toxic programming. 
  • Flying Free is my online membership program designed for Christian women in emotionally abusive marriages. Whether you want to stay in your marriage or leave, we want to equip and support you through this program.
  • Flying Higher is my online membership program for divorced Christian women. Come rebuild your life after divorce with women just like you. 
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