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A man decides to tell a woman *exactly* why he ghosted her. That kicks off a discussion about online dating for plus sized singles and how hateful messages they receive might have a connection to the current political climate. We also answer two listener letters from women about how to handle a man's erectile issues and what to do when someone doesn't respect your boundaries.

We dig in to the groundswell of negativity towards online dating that's spreading across the internet. Has COVID made it worse? Are men to blame or are women being too picky? How can we turn things around? BONUS: We give you an online dating hack that might be the very thing that helps you find love.

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They’re Not Dating “Horror Stories” Anymore, They’re Just How It F*cking Is

https://shanisilver.medium.com/theyre-not-dating-horror-stories-anymore-they-re-just-how-it-f-cking-is-789fc20f1932

SPOILERS ABOUT THE UNDOING IN THIS EPISODE!

They'd been dating 3 months when she learned he'd been sleeping with other women the whole time. Now what does she do? We also talk about background checks, Googling dates and when it's appropriate to put a cheater on blast.

We've got it all this episode! First we talk about value judgements around first date sex and why sex should never be traded for exclusivity. Then we discuss why it's time we normalize being long-term single or never having had a relationship. We throw in a bit of mad-cap self-created dating app drama and close with a talk about co-habitation and whether you should hold on to your apartment until you're married.

The pandemic isn't over just because you're over it, kids! We're talking COVID dating problems and why it's okay for men to show interest in sex. We also discuss how we sometimes conflate getting used for sex with someone simply losing interest. And don't miss our take on why there's a line when you decide to take revenge on an ex.

I(30F) missed so many signs that it was just a hookup for him(32M)... feeling very used

https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/jteqax/i30f_missed_so_many_signs_that_it_was_just_a/

Are Women Partially Responsible for Some of Men’s Bad Dating Habits?

https://medium.com/girl-get-you-shit-together/are-women-partially-responsible-for-some-of-mens-bad-dating-habits-243d198d6db6

We talk about expectations around who confirms the date and when, messaging on dating apps and video dates. Also covered is dating while you're losing weight and the importance of posting accurate photos.

We're talking fake engagement rings and why some women wear their wedding bands after divorce. We also discuss a woman contemplating outing her married FWB to his wife. Plus, we introduce our new segment called There's A Sex & The City Episode For That.

I’ve Been Sleeping With My Friend for Eight Years. Should I Tell His New Wife?

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/10/dear-prudence-sleeping-with-friend-tell-new-wife.html

If you knew something about a friend's appearance was keeping them single, would you tell them? We discuss that and ways people set their first dates up to fail.

Should I tell my friend that her stained teeth might be holding her back in OLD?

https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/jdtrfk/should_i_tell_my_friend_that_her_stained_teeth/

We're talking the ups and downs of dating in 2020, social media stalking and signs that connection you think you have with someone is all in your head.

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Sex, Lies & Expectations

https://www.dateologycoach.com/post/sex-lies-and-expectations

Boyfriend blocked me on social media

https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/j595vp/boyfriend_blocked_me_on_social_media/

Drama! We talk about why a man's best friend might be sabotaging his engagement. (Hint: Girl, get a job!) We also discuss why trying to change a man's bad behavior rarely works.

My Boyfriend’s Best Friend Is Urging Him Not to Marry Me

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/09/dear-prudence-boyfriend-best-friend-no-marriage.html

Stop “Teaching” Women How To Deal With Men They’re Dating

https://medium.com/@shanisilver/stop-teaching-women-how-to-deal-with-men-theyre-dating-5b54af6fb636