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June 14, 2024Could You Date Someone Who Cheated On An Ex?
Could you date someone who cheated on a previous partner? (01:42)

We revisit an exchange between Carrie and Big about his admission of infidelity in his first marriage. The scene spawned a conversation about whether we'd ask a new mate if they'd been unfaithful and how we'd handle it if they said yes.
Could you date a cheater? Vote in our poll!

How do you stop romanticising a failed relationship? (14:49)
A woman is having second thoughts after breaking up with her long-distance partner

How does she go about dating women after years of dating men? (23:57)
A listener seeks advice about navigating the dating scene as a woman looking to date women.
Why do well-rounded women struggle to find a partner? (34:20)
Ugh. This tired conversation about men being turned off and intimidated by self-sufficient women.
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44 min
June 07, 2024Predictors of Long-Term Singlehood & Creepy Married Men
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Maybe Don't Try To Date When You're Married (03:42)
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Ask Dateology Coach - Green Card Marriage Confusion (12:29)

Predictors of Long-Term Singlehood (23:23)
An article in Psychology Today examines a study regarding long-term singlehood and which personality traits are most likely to contribute to this outcome.
Should She Dog Sit Her Ex's Dog While He Travels With His New Girlfriend? (41:25)
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50 min
May 24, 2024How Social Media Is Messing Up Your Love Life
Listener Letter - This Is What Decentering Men Looks Like (05:41)
So, I've been seeing this girl for 2 months. We're hitting it off really well. I'm 30+ and this is the first time in a long long time I think we could have a future together. The problem is I'm only seeing her like once every 3-4 weeks. We've seen each other 3 times by now and last time also had s*x. Everything is there, the connection, the intimacy, the attraction... I really like her. But she's currently in therapy and admits that maybe she shouldn't have started dating yet but wasn't expecting to find someone she'd bond with like me so quickly. Next to therapy (2 days a week) she still works (3 days a week), which I respect a lot. But in the weekends her (social) battery has run out and she's not able to see anyone. This will probably go on for more than a year and I don't know what to do... Also when it comes to emotions, I wear my heart on my sleeve (INFP) and she's the opposite (INTP). This causes some problems too sometimes but nothing big. Our communication is also very open and we can talk about everything. But sometimes she disconnects from the world for 2 days. I can understand but it makes me feel like I'm just a tool to use whenever she's up for it. Don't get me wrong, I want to support her in the process of therapy, I've been there myself. But sometimes it's hard. I want to settle and that's not going to happen for the coming year(s). One day I'm prepared to wait that long and the next day I'm not. It's weird to ask this to you, I have never done that before because I'm a very intuitive person. But what would you do?

Listener Letter - Instagram Dating Dillema (15:23)
Hello, I'm interested in your opinion. A week ago I unfollowed my ex from Instagram. I still have feelings for him, we ended up on good terms but he doesn't seem to be doing anything about reaching out to me. Actually he did reach out a few times in these few years, but nothing significant in my opinion. And so it ended that I unfollowed him and removed him from my followers. What do you think about my action? (and what he might be thinking) Basically, I really don't know how I feel about this, like it's him watching all my activities and stories all the time but never reached out in a serious way. So in closure, I thought okay...if you don't want anything serious why would I give you the pleasure of knowing what is going on in my life right now.

⁠He's Intimidated By Her Social Media Presence⁠ (25:33)⁠
On a second date, a man grills Tiktoker StaceyDee about her social media presence. We discuss ways to avoid these kinds of awkward conversations and how much information you should provide in the first few dates.

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46 min
May 17, 2024Bumble's Fumble - Are Singles Done With Dating Apps?
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Listener Question - Who Pays For The Uber? (01:36)
Am I the asshole for thinking she was actually using this man for his money?
https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMMvBSbRR/
Should a man give you a ride or pay for your Uber when you spent the night with him? Should he walk you home(if you live nearby) or walk you to your car/stop?
Bumble's Fumble (08:10)
If you're a dating app user and on any social media platform, you've probably heard about Bumble's disastrous re-branding campaign. Women across the interwebs collectively pushed back on their anti-celibacy messaging. The groundswell of criticism was so overwhelming that Bumble issued an apology. Well, an "apology." This Bumble Fumble shined a light on just how done women are with the apps and dating as a whole.

Listener Question - Should She Meet Up With Her Ex? (28:37)
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38 min
May 10, 2024Troll Twists, First Date Lateness & Name Changes
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Genuine Response or Polite Blow-Off? - Listener Submitted Letter (06:55)
I asked a woman out the other day and asked if maybe she wanted to go to dinner. She texted me back the following day and said she had dental surgery this week and she may not be able to eat. We can touch base next week. What does this mean?
His Fiance Wants His Ex To Change Her Last Name (09:19)
"My ex-husband is insisting I change my last name back to my name before marriage because his new fiancé, a 24-year-old woman, feels it will be awkward for her and me to have the same last name. Am I the asshole for refusing to change it?" Uh, NO.
Troll Twist on Dating Apps - Listener Submitted Letter (19:01)
I’ve noticed an uptick in men accusing women on dating apps that they believe the women’s pictures are AI. What do you think? Is this another example of a way to attack women?
How Late Is Too Late To Show Up For A First Date?⁠ (24:08)
Her date was ten minutes late. She left. Did she overreact? This is why you should never go on a date with someone you're lukewarm about.

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36 min
May 03, 2024Are Men Using Therapy To Get Laid?
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She Was Ready (00:22)
If you follow me on social media, you probably know that our third Golden Girl, Luca, crossed the Rainbow Bridge on Monday. We talked about how going through this with Luca helped me confront my avoidant nature and fear of anticipatory grief.
Are More Men Going To Therapy? (12:21)
Emily McCombs, a former xoJane columnist, recently shared her thoughts on the resurgence of dating apps. In her article, she side-eyes the increasing number of men embracing therapy, a trend that I find both fascinating and encouraging.
Would You Date Someone That Worked In A Pizza Parlor? (28:16)
Influencer Hope xxx was roasted this week for remarks about not wanting to date someone who worked in a pizza parlor. We talk about whether or not this preference is classist and how men are never raked over the coals for their superficial preferences.

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55 min
April 26, 2024Mr. Hyde, Single Stigmas & Offensive Texts⁠
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Jekyll and Hyde (01:00)
Tiktok is full of performative white men who pander to women. We talk about one man in particular who expertly plays the Good Guy until a woman questions him. That's when Mr. Hyde appears.
"You Need A Dick" (05:40)
Certain people need to learn that accusing someone of being single or celibate isn't an insult. We discuss this antiquated retort and remind people asexuality is a thing.
"Men Are Trash." (24:10)
A woman found texts her husband wrote when they first met and was horrified to learn he told people she was ugly and desperate.
Single Is A State of Mind (33:45)
A woman went viral for revealing she was in her forties and had never had a romantic relationship. Sarah and I discuss why women place more emphasis on romantic relationships over any other. We also address the dangers of making your singlehood your entire personality.
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22 min
April 19, 2024Financial Abuse, Instagram Shadiness & Ugly Breakups
You're not being overly sensitive. He's a dick. (01:15)
A woman questions if she's overreacting to her boyfriend's lack of appreciation for a celebration party she had organized for him. He further exacerbated the situation by posting on Instagram, not about her, but about a female friend.

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Men are stupid, and we don't respect them. (14:10)
A man acknowledges he knowingly wasted two years of a woman's life and wants to break up with as little fallout as possible. All because he couldn't be alone. BOOOOOOOOOO to you, sir.

Aidan was a Petty Betty. (24:40)
When we talk about Carrie's most toxic moments, many of us recall the episode where she barges into Charlotte's Park Avenue apartment, asking why Charlotte didn't offer her the money to buy her co-op. What we never talk about is the pettiness and financial abuse involved with Aidan's demand that Carrie buy him out of the apartment HE chose to purchase.

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40 min
April 12, 2024 Carrie Bradshaw's Most Toxic Moments
We kick things off with a discussion about ADHD medicine shortage and how it's affecting us. Hint: Not well.
The rest of the episode is dedicated to the viral Tiktok trend asking people to share Carrie Bradshaw's most toxic moments.
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34 min
April 05, 2024Masking, Passing & Jack Black's Hotness Explained
Be sure to listen until the end. We cover a story about a psychopath and how they can mask FOR YEARS without showing signs they're dangerous.

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