At the very end of Chapter 7 of Forever Alone (tiny spoiler alert, I guess!), I said:

We don’t all have the same amount of ambition in every area of life, and that’s OK. Some of us are perfectly content with a small, modest townhouse: Comfortable, safe, not flashy, but warm and homey. Honestly, my career ambitions are probably somewhere in that realm—it matters to me, but it’s not where my big, big dreams have ever lived. But man, I’ve got skyscraper ambitions when it comes to love. And I’m not talking some ugly thing that doesn’t even win skyscraper of the year award in Architectural Digest. It’s gotta be beautiful and impressive and very much larger than life. I think I might have more ambition in love than just about anyone I know.

I’ve been sitting with this and thinking about it so much that I decided it deserved more than just a single paragraph of attention.

So, in this month’s brand-new Side Chat Kristen and I are digging into …

• How Passion Profiles show up outside of your career—in relationships, family, and more
• Examples of how our Passion Profiles differ between business and personal life
• Why it’s OK to have varying levels of ambition across different areas of your life
• And of course, our ongoing debate on how many men Kristen would have to meet before she’d marry one of them (I say 25, she disagrees)

Come leave a comment after you’ve listened to share what your scale of ambition across the different areas of your life!

P.S. We’re taking a short podcasting break while I’m jaunting around the UK, so we’ll see you again on Friday the 29th for our Bonus Book Club episode about Effortless! Until then, if you get bored, pull up Clarity on Fire on your podcast feed, close your eyes, and scroll until you feel the urge to stop—consider that the episode you needed to listen to. ;)

WANT TO READ A WITCHY BOOK WITH US?

The Clarity on Fire Community is hosting a book club on Sunday, October 24, at 7:00pm EST! This month, in honor of the season, we’re reading a novel—The Nature of Witches—and getting together to discuss it.

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LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Side Chat: The 4 Passion Profiles (December 2018)

Sorting Harry Potter characters by Passion Profile (2019)

Side Chat: How to figure out what to do with your life (June 2018)

Side Chat: Does life purpose even exist? (January 2021)

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I’m as guilty as anyone else of saying that I value creativity, but then as soon as life gets busy, it’s the first thing I throw on the backburner. 

It doesn’t help that many of us got the message (from our parents, from society at large, from wherever) that creativity in adulthood is kind of frivolous and should, at best, be relegated to a side hobby. 

Whenever I find myself ignoring my creative side in favor of more “productive” things, I try to remember this quote from Brené Brown:

“Creativity has to be cultivated. Unused creativity is not benign. It metastasizes. It turns into grief, rage, judgment, sorrow, shame. We are by nature creative. It gets lost along the way.”

Kara Guilfoyle can attest to just how true this is! After years of working herself into exhaustion in the intense, fast-paced, emotionally exhausting medical world, she finally realized that the best way to heal her burnout and make her feel whole again was to reignite her artistic side. 

Listen in as I ask Kara about her evolving relationship with her creativity, including...

• How and why her creative side got shut down when she “grew up,”    
• Her view of the healing power of creativity (you’ll want to hear her description — it’s beautiful!),
• Her struggles with procrastination and the many ways she’s learned to overcome it, 
• How the “menu approach” opened up a whole new world of creative freedom for her,
• And her advice for anyone who’s craving more creativity, but is feeling stuck on how to prioritize it. 

After you’ve listened, leave us a comment to share how Kara’s story resonated with you!

MORE ABOUT KARA GUILFOYLE

Kara Guilfoyle is a reformed workaholic, former Pediatric ICU nurse and Sexual Assault Forensic Examiner who sought healing and refuge in art. She is on a journey of tapping into her divine feminine and expanding her creative self. She is a highly sensitive, INFJ, Thriver and Side-Hustler fascinated with cultural anthropology, horticulture, and a love of all things witchy and woo. She has been informed by her nursing students that she is a Ravenclaw. She is currently working as a Nurse Practitioner in a primary care clinic serving uninsured adults in Los Angeles and is considering getting a dog.

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Bonus Book Club! Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

Bonus Book Club! The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

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Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.

This month we answered questions from:

• Jane, who wants to encourage more feminine energy in the workplace, but is running up against an issue. How do you communicate the idea of feminine energy to male co-workers who don’t get it, and who might find their masculinity threatened?
• Yuba Love, who quit her old job, moved to a new state, a recently started a new job in a completely different industry. But, in taking the job, she also took a BIG step backward in salary. How can she silence the inner critic that’s mad she isn’t making more money, and see this new job as the potential big opportunity it is? 

We also got an update from Tribe of One, a listener whose question we answered back in November 2020. Find out what happened when she confronted those important people she was convinced disliked her!

And come leave a comment after you’ve listened to how our advice for these listeners resonated with you.

FOREVER ALONE IS OFFICIALLY DONE!

All seven episodes of Forever Alone, Rachel’s miniseries about her journey through singledom, are now available for listening. Get to binging, if you haven’t yet, and share with your friends (especially the single ones) who need some uplifting!

And if you’ve listened to the whole series and haven’t left a 5-star rating and review, it would delight her if you’d take a minute and do that today!

As always, you can find Forever Alone on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play, Amazon, YouTube, among other places you listen to podcasts.

WANT TO READ A WITCHY BOOK WITH US?

The Clarity on Fire Community is hosting a book club on Sunday, October 24 at 7:00pm EST! This month, in honor of the season, we’re going to be reading a witchy novel together and getting together to discuss it.

• Join the $3/month tier (The Spark) for access to occasional bonus episodes and other special content. Think of this like our virtual “tip jar.” If you’re not interested in the community aspect, but appreciate our work and want to send a little love our way every month, plus get access to bonus content, this is for you!

• Join the $6/month tier (The Flame) for occasional bonus content, access to monthly patron-only Zoom meetups (hosted by our Community Ambassador, Alyx), quarterly Zoom hangs with Krachel, and Discord server where members chat in depth!

Become a patron, here!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

How to negotiate anything (even if you’re a people pleaser) with Devon Smiley (May 2019)

Dear Krachel: I’m convinced someone important doesn’t like me (November 2020)

Side Chat: How to actually DO feminine energy (June 2021)

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Well, dear listener, we’ve arrived. The grand finale (and I do mean grand … this one’s a full HOUR long) of Forever Alone! Thank you for joining me on this journey. It’s truly been one of the most fun, gratifying things I’ve ever done. I might be prouder of this seven-part series than anything I’ve ever done with Clarity on Fire! (But don’t tell Kristen).

So, tune in one more time and enjoy Chapter 7: Stories & Skyscrapers, in which I…

• Consult with a fictional Board of Directors,
• Download Hinge,
• Go on a date with a hot man,
• And finally answer the question I posed at the beginning of this tale.

I’ve loved hearing all of your comments and reactions, so after you’ve listened, leave a comment here or DM me on the Forever Alone site.

And if you’ve listened to this whole series and haven’t left a 5-star rating and review, it would delight me to no end if you’d take a minute and do that today!

As always, you can find Forever Alone on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play, Amazon, YouTube, among other places you listen to podcasts.

1:1 COACHING ENROLLMENT ENDS TODAY!

Today, Wednesday the 29th, is the LAST day we’re accepting sign-up forms for new clients. A few pointers to keep in mind:

• This is for people interested in getting started in the next month or so.
• You don’t have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• The next time we’re doing coaching enrollment is in 2022!
• If you’re not ready now, or you’ve found us in-between “official” enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we’ll contact you if and when we have an availability.

Check out the details and fill out the form on this page, and we’ll talk to you soon!

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Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you’re headed. Without it, you’re like a GPS with bad reception — you’re not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.

But honing your intuition can take time and practice, so sometimes it’s nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if it’s just long enough to check your directions. 

So, in that spirit, here’s another Message from the Universe episode for you! Tune in if you need a little clarity, guidance, or just a fun pick-me-up. 

Today we pulled a few cards from The Enchanted Map deck by Colette Baron-Reid. One or all has a message for you — come find out what it is! 

This one made us SCREAM, so definitely come find out why. 😉

Click here to see the cards, as well as read the description of each!  And after you listen, come leave a comment to share how this one spoke to you.

1:1 COACHING ENROLLMENT IS HAPPENING NOW!

We’re accepting sign-up forms for new clients now through Wednesday, September 29! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We’ll be taking on a small amount of clients this time—probably fewer than 10!
• This is for people interested in getting started in September or October.
• You don’t have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you’re not ready now, or you’ve found us in-between “official” enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we’ll contact you if and when we have an availability.

Check out the details and fill out the form on this page, and we’ll talk to you soon!

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If you can believe it, we’ve reached the penultimate chapter of Forever Alone! And it wouldn’t be an epic story if there wasn’t an intense ramp up to a big season finale, hmm?

So, tune in to Chapter 6: Covid & Copping out, in which I …

• Get called out so hard I break out in cold sweats
• Offend people at a wedding
• Surprise myself by getting a job
• And rant like my life depends on it

You know I love hearing your reactions, so after you’ve listened, leave a comment here or DM me on the Forever Alone site!

As always, this episode is available on the Clarity on Fire podcast feed, but I’d love it if you subscribed to the Forever Alone feed and listened there! 

And of course, if you haven’t yet, It would mean a lot if you’d leave a 5-star rating and review! You can find Forever Alone on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play, Amazon, YouTube, among other places you listen to podcasts.

1:1 COACHING ENROLLMENT IS HAPPENING NOW!

We’re accepting sign-up forms for new clients now through Wednesday, September 29! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We’ll be taking on a small amount of clients this time—probably fewer than 10!
• This is for people interested in getting started in September or October.
• You don’t have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you’re not ready now, or you’ve found us in-between “official” enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we’ll contact you if and when we have an availability.

Check out the details and fill out the form on this page, and we’ll talk to you soon!

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I’ve gotta admit, there’s something fun about those “what do you eat in a day?” or “what’s in your bag?” videos that you’ll often find celebrities doing on YouTube. Of course, I highly doubt what’s being curated for YouTube is real — their bags are probably a whole lot more embarrassing, and their food choices more realistic, than what you see online.

Kristen and I are about as far from celebrities as you can get, but there can still be a bit of a ~mystique~ around people you don’t really know, IRL. In the past 3.5 years, we’ve published over 300 episodes of the podcast! And if you didn’t know any better, you might think that we’ve somehow managed to integrate every bit of wisdom from each of them.  

But much like a famous chef with a glossy cookbook who rarely makes those meals (and eats oatmeal for breakfast every day instead), we definitely aren’t always walking our talk!

So, in this month’s brand-new Side Chat, we’re getting into what the two of us actually do every day for our mental health. We got into…

• Kristen’s recent revelation about ADHD, and how it’s changed her for the better.
• The one thing Rachel stopped doing that made her outlook on life a lot rosier.
• The simple things we’re both doing — and the things we’re giving ourselves permission not to do — to stay mostly well-adjusted.

And if you want more in-depth discussions about mental health, you should definitely hop on over to Patreon! Rachel did a deep dive earlier this year about anxiety & depression, and Kristen recently shared more about the discovery of her ADHD. 

Come leave a comment after you’ve listened to share what you do every day for your mental health!

ENROLLMENT IS OPEN FOR 1:1 COACHING!

We’re accepting sign-up forms for new clients starting today through Wednesday, September 29! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We’ll be taking on a small number of clients this time — probably fewer than 10!
• This is for people interested in getting started in September or October.
• You don’t have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you’re not ready now, or you’ve found us in-between “official” enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we’ll contact you if and when we have an availability.

Check out the details and fill out the form on this page, and we’ll talk to you soon!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Burn This: Labeling emotions as “good” or “bad” (June 2020)

Blog: Are you an internal or external processor? (July 2020)

Side Chat: The anger infomercial (August 2020)

Emotional constipation with Joanna Platt (April 2018)

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If you’re all caught up with Forever Alone, what did you think about all those crazy Universe stories I told last week??

This week we’re on to Chapter 5: Highlands & High Expectations, in which I…

• Encounter a hot Scottish man on a train,
• Zero in on a future mother-in-law,
• Break up with the Universe,
• And finally drag myself to therapy.

This might be my favorite episode so far, so if you want to share your reaction with me, you can leave a comment here or DM me on the Forever Alone site!

As always, this episode is available on the Clarity on Fire podcast feed, but I’d love it if you subscribed to the Forever Alone feed and listened there! 

And of course, if you haven’t yet, It would mean a lot if you’d leave a 5-star rating and review! You can find Forever Alone on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play, Amazon, YouTube, among other places you listen to podcasts.

1:1 COACHING IS COMING BACK!

One-on-one coaching will be open for enrollment again this Friday, September 17! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We’ll be taking on a small number of clients this time — probably fewer than 10!
• This is for people interested in getting started in September or October.
• You don’t have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you’re not ready now, or you’ve found us in-between “official” enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we’ll contact you if and when we have an availability.

If you’re seriously considering coaching, check out this page for all the details so you know what to expect!

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I once told Kristen, and I quote, “I’d rather my life be harder and more complicated than necessary, but still happen on my terms, rather than it be easier but not go the way I’ve envisioned.” Charming, I know!

What can I say? I’m a Hermione-Granger type know-it-all with a penchant to grab onto something and insist that I know when, how, and why it’s supposed to happen … and then get indignant when it doesn’t go my, naturally.

Wouldn’t it be easier to, I dunno, release control over the unknown and chill out? Yes! It would. But that’s not as easy as it sounds, which is why I’ll never stop having conversations about how to let go—I need constant reminders. And I suspect you do, too.

So, in this month’s brand-new interview with a normal person, tune in as I chat with Diana, a former-client-turned-friend, about how she learned to let go of control. We got into…

• Why Diana was tripping up on how to put the concept of feminine energy into practice.
• How an early experience with chronic illness created her particular brand of stressing out and trying to control everything.
• Her truly labyrinthine career journey—She’s been a rare books librarian, worked on Wall Street, and is now in marketing! (Just in case you didn’t believe reinventing yourself was possible).
• The shift she experienced just last month that finally helped her get out of a toxic job and into a new one, practically overnight.

Come leave a comment after you’ve listened to share how Diana’s take on 

ARE YOU LISTENING TO FOREVER ALONE?

We’re halfway through Forever Alone, Rachel’s seven-part miniseries about her journey through singledom!

The show is available on the Clarity on Fire podcast feed, but we’d love it if you subscribed to the Forever Alone feed and listened there (then hit her up with a 5-star rating and review, of course) wherever you get your podcasts: Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play, Amazon, and YouTube.

1:1 COACHING IS COMING BACK!

One-on-one coaching will be open for enrollment again next Friday, September 17! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We’ll be taking on a small amount of clients this time—probably fewer than 10!
• This is for people interested in getting started in September or October.
• You don’t have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you’re not ready now, or you’ve found us in-between “official” enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we’ll contact you if and when we have an availability.

If you’re seriously considering coaching, check out this page for all the details so you know what to expect!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Magic 8-Ball: Masculine vs. Feminine Energy (March 2020)

Finding a new job in 24 hours with Christina Hart (January 2021)

The feminine energy experiment with Carolyn Canonica (May 2021)

Side Chat: How to actually DO feminine energy (June 2021)

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I’m back with another episode of Forever Alone—we’ve officially passed the halfway point in this story! And things are only getting deeper, wilder, and weirder from here. So, dive on into Chapter 4: Signs and Synchronicity, in which I…

• Question the existence of God, and have some epic panic attacks
• Flirt aggressively with a boy dressed as Jesus
• Discover a higher power I can actually get down with
• Develop remarkably witch-like powers of intuition

This episode is available on the Clarity on Fire podcast feed, but I’d love it if you subscribed to the Forever Alone feed and listened there! And of course, hit me up with a 5-star rating and review. You can find Forever Alone on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Play, Amazon, YouTube, among other places you listen to podcasts.

And if you want to share your reaction to this episode, you can leave a comment here or DM me on the Forever Alone site!

1:1 COACHING IS COMING BACK!

One-on-one coaching will be open for enrollment again on Friday, September 17! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We’ll be taking on a small amount of clients this time—probably fewer than 10!
• This is for people interested in getting started in September or October.
• You don’t have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you’re not ready now, or you’ve found us in-between “official” enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we’ll contact you if and when we have an availability.

If you’re seriously considering coaching, check out this page for all the details so you know what to expect!

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